sin, forgiveness, restoration
@angusthethird (515)
United States
August 10, 2008 9:52pm CST
Supposed someone sinned against you really badly. By accident or on purpose. They beg your forgiveness. They value your friendship--or love, if it happens to be a marital or dating relationship involved.
You forgive them completely. But you believe that the relationship should not stay the same, since they betrayed your trust.
You are not comfortable letting them so close to you again.
Have you really and truly forgiven them, then?
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@siamang (57)
• Indonesia
12 Aug 08
i'll forgive gim but still leave a trace. such as u retract a nail from a wood, u can see a trace in a wood. time will eraset it i think's. hope this help u.thanks
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
11 Aug 08
no, i wouldn't think u had forgiven & if u are like me [i hope not]you want forgive them & you'll never forget it. people say they have forgiven people for so mamy bad things but i don't believe them.
@Carmetaf (309)
• United States
11 Aug 08
I would forgive them for what they did, and would trust them less to protect both them and myself.
Say I told someone a secret. They shared it with someone else and it was no longer a secret. Sure i'd forgive them, but I wouldn't share details with them unless I wanted the rest of the world to know. This would protect them from sinning against me again, and it would protect me from the hurt and anger again. I would consider it true forgiveness.
@soooobored (1184)
• United States
11 Aug 08
If somebody sinned against me on purpose, there is no forgiveness. If the person in question knew what they did is wrong, and knew that it would bother me, there is nothing they could ever say or do that would enable me to "forgive and forget".
If somebody sinned against me by accident, say my boyfriend flirted with a girl in a way I determined inappropriate, I would make sure that he understood exactly what bothered me about it. If I was convinced he understood, I would forgive. But forgetting takes a while, at least for me. If the action was never repeated, the forgetting would start. But it's never completely forgotten, because if he did the same thing again (EVER) I would end it. Because then he's sinning against me on purpose.
@familyguy (17)
• United States
11 Aug 08
Forgiveness and trust are totally seperate issues. If someone committed a trespass against you, you should forgive them. But you should always be aware that they are human and the same circumstances may arise again, resulting in a repeat of the infraction. Now, if they are truly sorry, and repentant, it is up to them to change their behavior, and try to earn your trust back. They should know that it was their actions that caused the mistrust, and it is up to them to mend the relationship.
