Would your change religion for love?

@sharie16 (2212)
Philippines
August 12, 2008 10:01am CST
My brother shifted from our religion for the sake of his girlfriend...is that love or what? but eventually it was now her ex girlfriend because her girlfriend left her... what are your perception or insights about this?
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@SusanLee (1920)
• United States
12 Aug 08
That is something I have never been able to wrap my mind around. Religion, to me the word religion is just a title to nothing. The question to me would be would I give up my relationship with God for the love of another? No, and he hasn't asked me to. Other than telling me to not be yoked with an unbeliever and that isn't to punish me, it's to just make life easier for me. If I were so in love with someone outside of the way I believed, and we were both sincer, God would help us. He wouldn't throw me or him away.
@SusanLee (1920)
• United States
12 Aug 08
Personally no. Do I follow my own heart and work out for myself what is right and wrong, or do I allow an organization work it out for me? Many, many years ago, shortly after I accepted Christ as my savior, I joined the church and promised to follow their teachings. As the years went by, I realized deep in my heart and conscience I didn't agree with all the teachings. I came out of the church as a member. If I married a man who was a Catholic in his heart, could I really expect him to drop his belief system and become a Pentecostal? No, I couldn't, that would be more conforming to an outward thing. And our relationship with God has nothing to with what goes on on the outward part so much as the inward man. What's on the inside will be reflected on the outside. If I became involved with someone who was Mormon or Catholic, and they told me I had to drop my beliefs and start believing like they do, I would drop them like a hot potato.
@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
yes, i think that should supposed to be a proper attitude...and i really disagree withg other beliefs of religion in terms of that and also the people following that rule...Faith to God should come within and should not be forced to follow such religion... thanks for enlightenment... Have a nice day! God bless!
@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
yes your right...God wouldn't allow that...but do you think its not a good practice to some of religions that would require so?
@Galena (9110)
12 Aug 08
no, that's not love. love is accepting and loving someone for who they are, not loving someone but only if they change their deeply held, spiritual beliefs. I would neither change my religion for someone I loved, nor expect them to change theirs. in Shakespeares sonnet 116, [i]"Let me not to the marriage of true minds Admit impediments. Love is not love Which alters when it alteration finds, Or bends with the remover to remove: O no! it is an ever-fixed mark That looks on tempests and is never shaken; It is the star to every wandering bark, Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken. Love's not Time's fool, though rosy lips and cheeks Within his bending sickle's compass come: Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks, But bears it out even to the edge of doom. If this be error and upon me proved, I never writ, nor no man ever love"[/i] when you love someone, you don't expect them to change to be worthy of that love. the flaws or differences of a person aren't a barrier to love, but a part of why you love them. and as time changes you both as individuals, the love remains. you don't change someone in order to love them, and you don't stop loving them if they change.
@Galena (9110)
12 Aug 08
and I am Pagan, my partner a spiritually open minded Agnostic at this time. he's dipped into Buddhism a little at times. he's still not encountered a path that fully describes his spiritual beleifs.
@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
yes i do agree with you..that if you love someone you should accept them for they are and what they believe...its not about twisting them into what you want, but wholly accept him/her...because if we do, we just let them follow what we want and twist them into a love that is our "ideal" not the for "real"... thanks for sharing your thoughts! Have a nice day! God bless!
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
13 Aug 08
Dear friend, It might be a question whether one love religion or love his/her lover. I hope if both of them love each other religion is no barrier and religion itself goes on varying but every religion ends up in a single God. Hence I changing religion for love is just a change for love and if one is that adamant to religion I hope a lover which is much better would not bother about the change of religion. I hope it might depend upon how much each other loves.
@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
yes friend...thats absolutely the term for that...religion should not be a barrier to any relationship... thanks for the post! Have a nice day! God bless!
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
[i]They said Love can move a Mountain.LOL It happens many times.Specially of those partners who are not in the same religion.There are also couple I know that have different religion.[/i]
@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
yes, thats a cliche...but still its true... so, what do you think those religions that requires this practice?
@zeny_zion (1283)
• Philippines
14 Aug 08
i wont and im not. if somebody loves me really, he'll accept my religion also. theres no reason for me to change it. im not really that religious but i know my obligations. true, that you dont know if the guy will really be the man that you are going to end up with. what if not? theres no need to change for another religion.
@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
15 Aug 08
yeah thats true...he should accept your religion... because they doesn't love us for our religion but for who we are....
• China
13 Aug 08
let them come to CHINA,there ,there are no religion limit.they can live together very well
@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
really? that's good to hear, unlike here in our country...i think its because there are too many sect of religions we practice here.. thanks for the post! Welcome to MYLOT! happy posting!
• India
13 Aug 08
No, I would not change my religion for love. That is not love, that is compromise and dominance of one partner over the other. When two people fall in love, they do so without checking their background (checking is done in arranged marriage) and as they gradually know each other and think of marriage, everything about the other person should be acceptable as it is. The moment you want a person to change his/her religion, you are not loving that person but loving your religion more and the other person is trying to compromise by giving up religion which is an integral part of our identity. You change to another religion, you become another person with a new name and everything. Its just not done.
@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
exactly...and it wasn't love at all...religion should not an issue to a relationship...you should respect your partner's belief and thus, your partner should also respect yours...that's real and true love i guess...
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
12 Aug 08
is that love or what? Honestly? No its not...its foolish and infatuation as far as I'm concerned...when two ppl love each other NEITHER should request the other change faiths nor should one want to....My bf is Christian, I'm Pagan/Buddhist and BECAUSE we love each other we respect each others choices etc....Its the same with my husbnad...he is agnostic and his family is very Christian...they know I'm not and respect that, my hsuband also respects that as do I with his choice ya know..
@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
yes...thats i think the best to have in a relationship...RESPECT in all aspect... thanks for sharing! Have a nice day! God bless!
• United States
12 Aug 08
For me being a christian I would not change my religon. One I was married once to a atheist and being married unequally yoked (meaning not same beliefs in my oppinion) was one of the major reasons our marriage ended. I have learned that if you both have the same faith and believe the same way it brings two people closer because its one more thing that they have in common and can understand and neither is trying to convince the other their way is right and vice versa.
@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
thanks for sharing...yes i think same faith anf beliefs could also contribute to the productivity or healthiness of one's relationship...but do you think it is not fair that some religion couldn't allow marriage with different religion-for example with the sccenario of Church of Christ you have to convert your religion first? what's your view on that?
@ClarusVisum (2163)
• United States
12 Aug 08
I wouldn't, but the answer is kind of moot because I wouldn't date anyone who would demand I change part of who I am just to please them. The whole point of a relationship should be to find someone who loves you for who you are, not for who they want you to become.
@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
but their are religions that requires that? what would you do? is it about religion vs. love? or is it right that some religions require that and that belief was not really so acceptable?
@soooobored (1184)
• United States
12 Aug 08
I don't have any strong religious convictions, despite my spirituality. So I wouldn't mind at all converting to someone's religion (so long as it is not at odds with my beliefs). And if I was planning to marry the person, I do want my future kids to have some kind of religious affiliation, so it would be nice to be involved in a church. There are very few instances I can imagine this coming up, though, because I think most religions allow marriage outside the church.
@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
yes there are few religions which pratice these, or else you'll be expelled from that church....but good that you want your children to have religious affiliation, and whatever is, i know that you want your children to grow with the words of God... thanks for the post! Have a nice day! God bless!
@skenthal (1020)
• Turkey
12 Aug 08
no i wont and by the way i think that two people if they really like each other they can marry without changing their religion and i think that the other one shouldnt pressure the other one to change his/her religion, its not about religion its about love and i think if somebody is not accepting to date or marry because the other one didnt change his/her religion i think he/she is not worth to date, because that means she/he is not accepting you as you are she/he wants make you as he/she likes its really wrong idea i think
@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
what if the other requires that one should convert his/her religion before they can marry? i know there are religions that require that...
@CrazCo (409)
• Canada
13 Aug 08
Well - changing your religion comes with a lot of sacrifices. It is basically completely changing your lifestyle. I would not do it. I would rather stay true to myself and my own beliefs then conform to that of others. If God exists I am sure he would know how you really felt in your heart and if you are only believing in a religion for love and not because it is something you truly believe He would dislike this.
@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
yes thats true...would you somehow agree with me that somehow those churches requires that have a wrong practice?
• United States
12 Aug 08
I would not change my religion for love. I am already married, I am a non denominational and my husband is Catholic. I love that he respects what my religion preference is and I think that if you love someone then you should respect their religious choices.
@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
yes i think thats the way it is, respect also in terms of belief and religion... it would not matter what are your religions are, as long as you both have faith and love with each other... but what can you say to those religions who have belief that you should convert first your religion before marriage, or else, the church will not allow?