Do you have friends in the internet you felt closer than people you actually met

@Jenaisle (14078)
Philippines
August 15, 2008 8:39pm CST
The Internet is an entirely dynamic world. We meet people and become friends even if we haven't met them personally. We learn about new culture and concepts from them and find common interests and likes. When you meet those "right" persons, do you honestly feel that you've found a friend even amidst the distance and the lack of actual face to face encounter? Do you even feel closer to your cyber/internet friends than those whom you have met personally? What are your thoughts on this?
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• United States
16 Aug 08
I won't let myself get close to anyone on the internet. Nine times out of ten, they aren't for real for one thing. I can't get close to anyone who isn't real.
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
16 Aug 08
i think you have to be careful to recognise that not everyone tells the truth on-line and you have to be very very careful making relationships on line. After saying this, i do believe it is possible to meet ppl on line who can turn into real friends, just like a telephone, after all blessed be
@yrayne (76)
16 Aug 08
..oh yes.. i met my cyber mom.. we felt so connected and I even call her mom.. whenever I have problems, I send her messages.. she sends back messages too.. she really lets me feel that I have a real mom in her.. though we never saw each other because we are on the other side of the globe, we remain closed and intact..
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
9 Dec 08
That's great. Congrats to you and your mom Cheers,
@Chevee (5905)
• United States
16 Aug 08
That is so nice and heart warming, I don't have any friends on the internet, that become a friend and continue to be friends, they just come and go. I have not ever met anyone in person. The relationship just fades away.
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@nilzerous1 (2434)
• India
16 Aug 08
I am bit unfortunate. I have not been able to make friendship to that extent till date over the Internet. But Yeah! I have few good friends in the Internet, like you here at myLot. But I have not meet any of them. Wish I could earn enough to pay for my World tour and then I'll meet my friends scattered across a number of countries.
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
16 Aug 08
I have met some very nice people on the net, I have only met a couple face to face and they were just as nice as i thought they would be, I have become very close to a few people on the net that i have never met...The Internet is a wonderful place...
@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
8 Dec 08
The same with me. There are very wonderful people in the net. Thanks for the input.
@penny64 (1106)
• Australia
16 Aug 08
I have some very good cyber friends, but it's a different kind of friendship to those I meet and see all the time. I don't think I would necessarily be friends with all my internet friends in the "real world", and if I had to change a "real world" friendship into an internet one, I don't know if it would work either. Friends who know me personally accept me with all my flaws, and also know my other friends and family. Internet friends only see the part of me which I choose to show over the internet, and can't judge me (good or bad) by appearance, environment, my family and so on. It's different.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
8 Dec 08
Your observations are correct, about showing what we want to show. We feel more open also to people whom we know we might never meet. Thanks for that very informative comment. Cheers.
@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
16 Aug 08
YES, there are some I have felt closer to than some of my real life friends. Online it is much easier to be friends as I don't have to get dressed, put on makeup & go out. So it takes less effort to be an online friend. Any limitation I might have is nonexistant online!!!
• United States
17 Aug 08
No. Not at all. DEFINITELY not. I never had friends in the real world, and even if I did have friends in the online world, I doubt that they even remember me or keep in touch. Besides, I have a whole mess of people who hate me, don't like me, don't remember me or just don't want to be around me. I have more enemies than I do friends in both worlds. So no, I don't have any close friends at all. But that's okay. I'm fine if I don't have any friends because that means I have nothing to lose.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
16 Aug 08
Yes...there are several of my friend here at mylot that I feel closer to then people I have actually met.....and come h*ll or high water I am setting a goal to meet some of my closest friends someday.....I have already met one.....there are three more I am bound and determinded to meet face to face....they are already deepset in my heart as some of the best friends I could ever have!
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@dhangski (3194)
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
I've met some good friends on the internet. Some I've met in my Social networking site and some I've met here on myLot. I felt really close to them because we were able to chat almost everyday. I've met my BOF (Best Online Friend). I've never felt this close to a friend before. We never miss a day without chatting with each other. We seem to miss each other if either one of us is not online.
• Singapore
16 Aug 08
I'm beginning to develop some good friends here in myLot. Sometimes I do feel closer to them than my friends around me. These cyber friends have encouraged me when I feel discouraged. They have helped me when I have problems. They have given me lots of tips and tricks about making money online. They have assisted me achieve some of my goals. They have given me confidence in many areas. so, yes, sometimes I do feel closer to my cyber friends.
• Singapore
16 Aug 08
Oops! Forgot to add, you're one of them
• Philippines
16 Aug 08
yes i had, she's from the Philippines too, but far from where i come from, but we always keep in touch, and i didn't see her in person yet.
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@pkraj111 (2458)
• India
16 Aug 08
No. It never happened to me. People over the net are stranger friends and some times it is easier to share with strangers than friends. I cannot be close with some one I ve personnally not met.
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@philjas (1134)
• United States
16 Aug 08
My answer to your question is ABSOLUTELY. I've never been a people person, and I've always felt like I was born in geographic area where absolutely everyone is outgoing and extroverted and I was always treated like an alien from another world because I'm not. The scrutiny and criticism from people about how shy I am of course only served to make me more shy. I wonder if this ever occurred to anybody who ever got on my case about how I need to be friendlier and get out more. Anyway... on the internet I've managed to find people who are LIKE ME. Plus, for me the distance of the internet works better anyway. Online you can be with your friends and be alone at the same time. The internet is absolutely perfect for me, I only think I was born about 15 years too early, had I been born later I could have had it all through my childhood.
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@lanlan011 (701)
• United States
17 Aug 08
the only ppl i really talk to on the internet r the ppl i know from school or knew b4 we talked on the internet...i do talk wit other ppl that i havnt met b4 but i try to keep it at a different lvl and i dont get close or personal wit them
@shana123 (2095)
• India
16 Aug 08
Yes i have handfull of good friends though they reside in the same country if this internet wasnt there then sure i wouldnt have met them in all my life.. they are so sweet and can be trusted i love them , and i really need their shoulders when im in crisis, i had good friends whom i met in persons.. but these friends do me mean more than them..
• Philippines
16 Aug 08
Yeah. I have this friends from Christianster where I can feel more support than those who I see everyday. I don't know, but I just feel confident whenever we meet.
• Philippines
16 Aug 08
I do. Actually I met someone over the internet and she later became a very good friend of mine. We became close because we were both into reading novels. Although lately we haven't talked much because our work schedules almost never meet. But every once in a while we drop an email message and catch up on things.
@vimaal (3361)
• India
16 Aug 08
hi friend, i like both the chatting friends and meet friends, take care.
• Philippines
16 Aug 08
Net is a different world were all can meet and be friends. It is a portal were everything seems to be possible. Some here wore mask and some show who they really are. Just be careful and be cautious, don't let your guards down. But that doesn't mean that you should be afraid, you can still mingle and have fun. Just make sure the person that you befriend is trust worthy.
• United States
16 Aug 08
Truly, I have met people on the internet I feel I'm closer to than real life individuals. I think part of it is that it's easier to open up emotionally than with a person standing there looking at you. Not only that but the fear of rejection or manipulation is much greater when in person. I met my best friend online and to this day we are just as close. It's so easy to keep in contact and when we have problems we can let ourselves express our emotions freely by just chatting with one another. I know a lot of people say it isn't possible, but to me it is.