Do people really start ageing at age 28?!

Older couple - Enjoy old age
@marina321 (4561)
August 15, 2008 9:17pm CST
I read an interesting article yesterday that said that women start ageing and noticing signs of ageing at the age of 28! and they start worrying about it too. Women seem to worry about their ageing process a lot more than men who seem to age later than women or is it the other way round? What do you think? Is it true or do you beg to differ? Personally, I thought it was well into the 30s at the least and when the biological clock starts ticking for women.. and for men, I am not entirely sure but I would guess about a few years later than that Do men worry about ageing too? Should we worry about ageing? Should people enjoy getting older and wiser and enjoy old age? What's your view on this?
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@Opal26 (17686)
• United States
16 Aug 08
Hey marina, No way do you need to start even thinking about aging at 28 or even in your 30's. Just enjoy your life. You will have plenty of time to think about aging when it happens. I am now 55 and unfortuately I have aged and there's nothing I can do about it but accept it with as much grace as I can. To be honest with you, I think I just noticed it in the last few years. I guess I didn't want to see it before, but now it's kind of unavoidable. I heard these nasty kids say something about me being a "grandma" on the bus when I was getting off and I looked back at them and gave them a look like you can just imagine because that was rude and unnecessary, although true. It wasn't what they said, but the way they said it. Yes I am old enough to be a grandma and I would be proud to be one (although I have no children, so no grands either) but it made me stop and think. I now have to look at myself differently and watch how people look at me more carefully and think of myself as the age that I am even though I don't feel that way and don't really look my age and it now bothers me. So all you young woman don't make yourself old before your time, you will have plenty of time later on to feel yourself aging and you won't like it.
@marina321 (4561)
16 Aug 08
Awww, that's a great response! I am not yet worried about ageing and I believe in getting old gracefully. Seeing how happy my mum is about my own, makes me look forward to being a grandma and I am sure I'll be a great one I totally get what you meant about those kids though, that's quite rude especially as I do not think you'd look like a grandma, my parents are the same age and no one would guess they are grandparents so keep glaring at those comments because I am sure you look younger than you are. Yes, young women need not worry about getting old as it's the course of nature and life and life is to be enjoyed and appreciated.
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• India
16 Aug 08
hi marina I'm sorry, i don't believe that aging process starts at the age of 28. I think it starts when you start to worry about it. I'm 60 years old. But i feel still myself younger at heart. Yes, my skin and other things are not as shinny as it was some 35-40 years ago. But it was not too bad either. i remember a quote. "We should die young ..... but as late as possible." I'm sure you can understand the meaning. So please stop worrying about aging process, let the nature take its own direction while you enjoy whatever you have.
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@marina321 (4561)
16 Aug 08
Cheers, I am sure 'we're as young or as old as we feel' and that's a nice quote. I am not worried about ageing and was referring to the article. I'd love to get to a nice ripe old age of 101 like my late great-granddad I believe enjoying life and enjoying getting older and appreciate it is the way to go..
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@jaffna (778)
• India
16 Aug 08
i think so...we have to get aged atleast at the age of 28..ah...we may wanna to be young forever then what could happen to the younger ones of us..we should not worry about ageing...i feel that most of the women feel about ageing but i don't know why...even am too a woman but have not felt as such so far..i've seen some women hiding their ages still..but i do believe that the thing that most worries us will rule us the most..so stop worrying about it...things would happen as per our fate..
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@marina321 (4561)
16 Aug 08
Aaah no, I am not worried about it I was talking about the article... I too have seen and heard women worry about this course of nature and I guess this is what makes 'big bucks' for the beauty industry.
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• United States
16 Aug 08
Actually, people really start to age after age 30 or 35, but now, thanks to new medicine, new technology, and new science, people are aging slower. A women who is 50 can now look like she is 40 or 30 for that matter. People who are 30 can look just as they did when they were 19. It all depends on your biology, the people you have around you, how well you take care of yourself, and how well your doctors take care of you.
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@marina321 (4561)
17 Aug 08
Did you say technology? I am afraid I do not believe in any of these 'so called' new found things slowing down the ageing process.. There's people who live in the most rural parts of this world with no modern science, technology or what else and they are the ones who are living longer than the rest of us in modern society!
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• Philippines
16 Aug 08
Hello!! Well im not sure about that but i guess thats true..According to my sister she is now 30 but she is still look young and she really look younger and younger..thats true.
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@marina321 (4561)
17 Aug 08
I definitely think we're as young as we feel.. Sometimes the tendency to really dwell on ageing makes us feel older..
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@schulzie (4064)
• United States
16 Aug 08
Well, I am 41 and I have started to notice fine lines in my forehead area and gray hairs. I started graying when I was 24 years old right after giving birth to my first child. The wrinkles started around 40. Don't worry about aging though. It is life. Do you know that you really start aging as soon as you are born? It is true if you think about it. But come on - are you 28? You are young! I don't worry about it until maybe 55 or so. You know, it is all really just relative. Enjoy your youth while you have it and do what you need to keep youthful looking and feeling when you get older. Have a great day and happy myLotting!!
@marina321 (4561)
16 Aug 08
Yup, I think it is all just relative! Depends on what sort of lifestyle you've got. I've had my first child in early twenties too so if you're saying you started ageing after that, I must have started ageing then! I do not worry about it all and just enjoy life to the fullest, and I still feel very young at heart and outward appearances have never bothered me much..
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@bieke81 (1067)
• Belgium
16 Aug 08
If that's true, I'll have but a year and a half before I start noticing it (I'm turning 27 in december). I do hope not, I still feel so young at heart . I don't really worry about ageing, it's all part of life, and when we get older we will enjoy new parts of our lives we won't have at a younger age. Have a nice day
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@marina321 (4561)
16 Aug 08
I'm about the same age beike81:-D I still feel very young even though I have a child myself.. I just enjoy life and not worry about it at all A good day to you too
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@gantwick (849)
• United States
16 Aug 08
My hair started graying when I was 41 or 42. If I dyed my hair dark, I can pass myself off as late 20s - early 30s. I don't worry about aging. There is only one way to not get older, and it's never an option in my book.
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@marina321 (4561)
17 Aug 08
I think many people have grey hair even in their teens and early twenties..I am one of them I think men age much later as their bodies do not go through the stresses of child bearing too
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@gantwick (849)
• United States
17 Aug 08
Well, I did have a few gray hairs in my 20's. But they really revved up in my early 40s. I went back to school to get a Masters degree, and darkened my hair to compete for jobs against all the 20-somethings I graduated with. I managed to land what I consider to be a dream job, and I've let my hair get back to it's normal salt-and-pepper (but getting saltier) look. I agree that stress ages people. My wife suffers from fibromyalgia and is bed-ridden most of the time, which makes me more-or-less a single parent 90% of the time. One of the managers at work comments about how much gray I have in my hair (his social skills aren't the best - but most of us are computer geeks anyway), and I keep telling him to wait until his kids are teenagers and he'll understand.
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@medicguy (307)
• Pakistan
16 Aug 08
Beauty is in the soul and the eyes of a person. But one also craves for the external and eternal beauty and good looks. The moment we reach our full growing potential, the cells start to age and become senile. It is more like a change in equilibrium if you may. When we grow, our cells production is more than the destruction. Later it is the other way around and hence, we age. Women tend to age earlier is simply due to the fact that they reach puberty earlier as compared to their opposite sexes. This has a biological and very important purpose behind it. The reproductive age for women lies between puberty and menopause. For men, on the other hand, after puberty, they remain capable of conceiving and inseminating. However, I must also add some other factors that accelerate the aging process, not only in women but also in men. Firstly, the stress and anxiety are major culprits behind rapid aging. Underlying diseases and pathologies. Unhealthy life style. Depression and lack of sociability are among of many contributing factors that leads to person becoming older much faster than usual.
@marina321 (4561)
17 Aug 08
Yup, lifestyle and various other factors can accelerate the ageing process Thanks for your response
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@pumpkinjam (6878)
• United Kingdom
16 Aug 08
Worrying about ageing makes you age more quickly! There is no point worrying about it. Ageing is (usually) inevitable. I hope it doesn't start for women at 28 considering that I will be that age in 2 months time! Although, to be honest, I think I already have some physical signs of ageing but I blame my kids for that! I don't really worry about ageing. I think I look fine so it doesn't really matter and I still get people thinking I'm about 8 years younger than I am!
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@marina321 (4561)
17 Aug 08
Haha Looks like we're about the same age! I do not see any physical signs yet though despite having mine early too, infact I feel quite younger because of that!
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• United States
16 Aug 08
People are always aging. I don't think there is a specific time that it is more critical than others. If we are not growing and aging mentally, we are physically. I don't think we should worry too much about it...it comes with the territory. You are only as old as you feel. I have seen some people who are in their 80s and are more active then some in their 50s. There should be no statistic the defines us.
@marina321 (4561)
17 Aug 08
I agree we shouldn't worry about nature taking it's course
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@gemini_rose (16192)
16 Aug 08
I am thirty five and I have only just started to notice signs of aging and even then they are only tiny lines around the eyes. I think the main thing for me is dark circles under my eyes and puffiness but other than that my skin is pretty much the same. I think it just depends on how we look after ourselves, but also worrying about it would be enough to cause lines!
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@marina321 (4561)
17 Aug 08
Yes, worrying about it would be enough to cause one to notice the lines and increase them! I thought the skin pretty much remains the same until much later..
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• Malaysia
16 Aug 08
Ageing usually starts around late twenties. To keep ourselve young we can eat food which can help to retain our youth. Avoid food and lifestles which will age you quickly. Superfoods like yoghurt,garlic,grapes,bluebeeries,spirulina are some superfoods that can keep you young. Nobody enjoys old age. When you are old your body is weak and there is not much an old person can do.
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@marina321 (4561)
17 Aug 08
Yup, definitely depends on what sort of lifestyle and habits that one has that would influence the ageing process..
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@diansinta (7550)
• Indonesia
19 Aug 08
Hi Marina321, First, worrying a lot about anything, and check the mirror often, will make you use the face muscle often and it make our face skin tired. When people angry and worry, they use different muscles then a smile or laugh. Smile and laugh make we push our face up and it was exercising. At the angry muscles, we are tense, and we use to push back word. The brain control everything, i mean conscious and the unconscious. We can stop the aging process by not worry so much, help to relax our self in though situations, and not make funny faces (angry, worry, sad muscles). When we face the mirror tell our self that i'm just perfect! i'm happyI am greatful for all God makes me, and i can stop this aging. All cream anti aging just a substitute.
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@marina321 (4561)
20 Aug 08
Cheers for your response I do think it entirely depends on what lifestyle you're living and yes, like you said whether you're happy or not most of the time. Anti-aging cream, I don't think does what it says on the tin!
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@diansinta (7550)
• Indonesia
21 Aug 08
Ah! yes, exercise and healthy food too. You are right
@misty99 (736)
16 Aug 08
Aging?Who's aging?LOL!At home if we start talking about age or somebody would ask how old i am.....i answered with--i don't know what comes after 20.I let them qorry and thin what my age isI guess it's all in the mind if you keep on thinking about your age and worrying about it then you will look at your age or sometime over than your real age.As for the men,my husband started worrying about his age when his hair line starts to widen.
@misty99 (736)
16 Aug 08
qorry-worry thin-think Sorry about that.Update is coming that's why i am in a hurry!
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@marina321 (4561)
17 Aug 08
Yup, it's all in the mind most of the time and the more you think about it the older one feels I guess.. I think men tend to start ageing later than women or it totally depends on the lifestyle too, some men look pretty good well into their 50s!
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@reckon21 (3484)
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
Ageing or aging is the accumulation of changes in an organism or object over time. Ageing in humans refers to a multidimensional process of physical, psychological, and social change. Some dimensions of ageing grow and expand over time, while others decline. Reaction time, for example, may slow with age, while knowledge of world events and wisdom may expand. Research shows that even late in life potential exists for physical, mental, and social growth and development. Ageing is an important part of all human societies reflecting the biological changes that occur, but also reflecting cultural and societal conventions. Age is usually measured in full years — and months for young children. A person's birthday is often an important event.
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@marina321 (4561)
17 Aug 08
Thanks for your response. I think we should all just enjoy being around and enjoy this inevitable natural process!
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@bbjwlsn (263)
• United States
16 Aug 08
Hi marina, your discussion is very interesting to think about. I am 59 years old, and I haven't yet started worrying about aging too much. Yes, I dye my hair as I have dark hair, and the gray shows up really badly. I did not start to look my age until about six or seven years ago. I developed heart trouble at age 54, and had to have open-heart surgery. I have noticed that since then, I am really showing my age. Before that, I didn't have any wrinkles at all. Now, I do have some fine lines around my eyes. Also, just recently, I have very dark circles under my eyes. My main concern with aging is that I won't be around to enjoy old age. I have many health problems, so every day is a wonderful gift to me. There is really no reason to worry about aging. It is sure better than the alternative. Yes, people should enjoy getting older and (hopefully) wiser. You should enjoy every stage in your life. Old age is simply a time to slow down and smell the roses that you worked so hard at raising over the years. Have a wonderful day, and have a wonderful life, no matter what your age may be.
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@marina321 (4561)
17 Aug 08
Thanks for your good response! I had grey hair in my teens and now in my twenties except that the processing that I apply to it makes it fade away:) I have one health issue recently that concerns me but I do believe I will still be around for many years and God has some sort of plan somewhere.. I do agree with you that we should just enjoy this natural process and enjoy getting older. Have a great day and a wonderful life too!
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@insulin (2480)
• Philippines
16 Aug 08
Well i am not really worrying about getting old because that is really part of the life..:-0 I love seeing old people knowing that they live so long in this world and it really amaze me..I know lots of girls are worry about aging but as long you keep smiling and happy and don't think too much with your problem then evrything will be fine..:-0 And avoid always using make up and any cosmetics because In my opinion,It will make your skin age..:-0 My mom don't use any beauty product and she just wash her face daily..Everybody is telling that she looks 30 something but she is already 60..:-0 I always ask her how she manage it and she will just said keep smilin..:-0 god bless and have a nice day..:-o
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@marina321 (4561)
17 Aug 08
Ummm, when you keep smiling, you will get wrinkles quicker! Just kidding, I know what you mean.. less stress and being happy! It is definitely a lifestyle thing as to when is all starts kicking in
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@sunkissed (4331)
• United States
20 Aug 08
maria,No I do not believe that at all. at the age of 28 I never even though about aging. I am now 56 years old, I still do not really think about it much. I do not feel old at all, nor do I look my age.I am however disabled and have been for 22 years so my health is not as good as I would like for it to be.But I have never been one to worry about the aging process, or aging at all.
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@meggan79 (436)
• United States
20 Aug 08
I am 29 and I still get carded when trying to drink and even had a guy talking to me like I just got out of high school. It isnt so bad now but in highschool I hated everyone thinking I was still in middle school. I don't see much signs of aging and dont worry about it. Once people start mistaking me for 40...then Ill start worrying about it. I don't think men start worrying about aging till their hair falls out. I think you should worry about keeping your body healthy but not aging itself.