will you still stay if it is only you who remains in-love?

Philippines
August 16, 2008 7:18pm CST
I am a hopeless romantic. :) I always wanted topics about love & relationship. Here is another question that popped out of my mind. Will you still stay in a relationship even if it is only you who remains in-love? What if your partner no longer in-love with you & just staying for the sake of his personal intentions?
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• United States
17 Aug 08
I would not stay cause if i was the only one that was putting love into the family i would end up leaving.. I don't believe in that it takes to have a marriage... I think that is horrible that he would just think about his self like that... I would respect that and i would leave... Thats isn't a very good way to live.... Just ask my ex boyfriend.. I fell out of love with him and he still loved me and we would just fight and fight and fight cause he wouldn't let me out of the relationship.. I thin it is different for guy when the girl falls out of love with them.... Now when the guy falls out of love the guys just wants to leave...
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@jingke (106)
• China
17 Aug 08
NO,you don't know a real guy who has been in love with a girl for many years.It's the love the guy do not want to lose most.
@apples99 (6562)
• United States
17 Aug 08
I agree pixiedust i just couldn't live with someone that didn't love me back i would feel so lonely and left out and i would be depriving myself of a chance to be with someone who truly loves me so i definitely think its better to leave in a situation like that.
• Philippines
20 Aug 08
Love must be returned back so both will be happy & satisfied.
@BABECUE (13)
17 Aug 08
LOVE?I think it mutual.If one person seems has losen patience,I Think the other did not good.At this time ,not lose heart with your love,try to make it better!Try your best to save your love.I think you will be succeed! If you failed,drop!drop! drop!Don't grudge your love!BELEVE,you will meet a better man or woman,lead a romantic life! MAY YOU HAPPY IN THE END!!!
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@jingke (106)
• China
17 Aug 08
Every word you said encouraged me."Try your best to save your love""If you failed,drop!drop!drop!"thanks,i will try
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• Philippines
24 Sep 08
Working out the relationship is good thing as long as both parties are willing.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
Maybe for a while I will, cause when you love someone you are blinded with your feelings and emotionns, you don't know what is right or wrong,as long as your in love with the person. Their is a quote that says it's better to be feeling love then not feeling it. But if that person won't learned to love me yet, well I won't insist myself, not because I'm letting it go it doesn't mean I don't love him, it's just I deserve a better one. Well if my partner just not love me anymore it's just for the sake of her personal intentions, i rather let her learned life on his on, cause I also have a life on my own. Love is a two way street to work out. Anyway you can feel it if that person doesn't love you anymore their will be a lot of changes.Happiness and love can't be bought by material things. I rather love someone who will also love me for what I am. Have a nice day!
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@jingke (106)
• China
17 Aug 08
So sane on love,which I admire a lot.
• Philippines
21 Aug 08
Your love is of different kind. You must be so in-love.
@metalhalo (601)
• United States
17 Aug 08
I couldn't stay if it was only one-sided. It would be heartbreaking to know that I was giving myself to someone who didn't love me back. That wouldn't be love it would be torture. I deserve better than that and I respect myself too much.
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• Philippines
24 Sep 08
Yes, everyone deserves to be love back by the person they are giving their love to.
@BABECUE (13)
17 Aug 08
LOVE?I think it mutual.IF you have found the other aspect has losen patience.May be you had done something not good. If so,it's not a big problem.Try your best to save your love,try to take good care of your partner, tell him you still love him by your practical action.I think you will succeed! But if you failed,DROP !DROP!DROP!Don't grudge your love,I think you will meet a better man,lead a happy life! MAY YOU HAPPY IN THE END!
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• Philippines
24 Sep 08
Taking care of your partner is part of being in love. But if your partner stops loving you, your care will be of no value to him.
@jstaubin (423)
• United States
17 Aug 08
I would have to leave the relationship if he didn't love me back. It should be a love that is shared and not one sided. Besides part of being in love is wanting the other person to be happy. So I would have to let him go so he could be happy.
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• Philippines
24 Sep 08
I agree with you. Both parties should be happy in a relationship.
@cncoke (439)
• China
17 Aug 08
If it is only me who remains in-love I won't still stay in a relationship.I'll say good-bye to him.Love is not for one but between two.We can't go on if he no longer in-love with me.That is to say he is too selffish.So move away from him and find a new partner.
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• Philippines
21 Aug 08
Love should be shared by two.
• United States
17 Aug 08
If my boyfriend did not love me like I love him I could not be with him. I want good mutual love that my partner and I can share with each other, if only one person has love for the other, then it just doesn't seem fair and it's too sad. If my partner was only with me for personal intentions I believe that I would notice it right away, it's easy to tell if someone is in love with you or not. I'm very glad that my relationship is very loving and good, I am so thankful for it each day!
• Philippines
20 Aug 08
Mutual love, respect & understanding makes a relationship stays longer.
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
21 Aug 08
I love my fiance with all of my heart and if he didn't love me back I couldn't be with him. There is no point being in a relationship when the love is only one sided. If he didn't love me I would want him to go and find someone that he could love. That doesn't mean that I wouldn't love him still. But I want him to be happy in life.
@rkrish (3003)
• India
18 Aug 08
I am in a typical situation like that. Thank you for raising it. As you asking the decision of staying or not staying is depend on individual. And since you said we love our partner and she doesnt. Love and caring is our personal happiness thou' we are not getting still we are showing the same to our loved person. My take is to stay with the love till he loves us. orelse what todo get a single happiness being love your partner.
@leen511 (32)
• Malaysia
18 Aug 08
hi..in my opinion, i think relationship is where both of the persons need to be involve..if one way love happen in relation which mean only one side love another side..i don't think this relationship can be maintain and remain..if my partner not longer love me,maybe i will try my best to help him love me back using my love towards him..however,if this fail after a moment,i think i will give up this relationship..because i believe that there will be a better relationship waiting me somewhere..
• Indonesia
17 Aug 08
i wont give up easily... i will make her in love with me.. maybe you could be more romantic or something else... just keep trying.. good luck
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
It matters to me that I love the person but I cannot be with someone who doesn't love me.Martyrdom is not easy.I'm sure most people would not want to be made miserable each day by the fact that they are not loved by their partner.Women who are highly tolerant are inclined to believe that they are up to the task of a one-sided relationship.This causes so much grief and trauma.It is lots better to part ways than not to have mutual love.
@tammytwo (4302)
• United States
17 Aug 08
I don't feel it would be a good situation to stay if only one person is in love because eventually both will become miserable. If I knew someone no longer loved me I would leave because in the long run it would make life better for me. If you remain in a relationship where you are not loved you could be missing out on a great opportunity to actually be loved dearly by someone else.
@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
17 Aug 08
This is a very tough one. I can visualize two scenarios here. The first, if I were in love with a woman and she does not love me back and we are not married, I could easily speak to her and discuss about separating. There is absolutely no reason why you would push yourself to her if she does not love you anymore. However, if we were married and have kids. I could endure the situation for the children's sake. I would not want them to grow up with only a mother or father.
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
I will not stay in a relationship if I am the only one who is feeling love. That is useless. I wouldn't force myself on anyone, I will set him free so that we can both move on. A relationship with out love is like a prison cell and it is choking you everyday.
@coffeechat (1961)
• New Zealand
17 Aug 08
Many people come together in passion which develops into love, affection and when the children come duty and responsibility as well. Love is one aspect of the complex range of things that holds relationship together. Without love - is there hate? I wonder. I know I will not stay in my relationship if there is hate. In my case we have 3 kids together and we have loads of love, respect and delight in each other. But hypothetically if for some reason I am the only person holding the torch of love, I will keep it going - because I am confident that it will come alright in due course. Cheers.
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
Well, I'll definitely let go the relationship in that case. I will not allow myself to get hurt by unrequited love. One should know if love is truly gone, and if its lust that remains, its time to let go.
17 Aug 08
well actually I think im going through it right now me and my ex live together and I think that Im the only one still in love I think he was at first but I don't think so any more
• Philippines
17 Aug 08
eventually i will end up my relationship with him if i am the one remains in-love with him. i don't go for a relationship which is one sided love affair. i will let him go...