Are you shy or would you say anything?

@dloveli (4368)
United States
August 18, 2008 7:13am CST
My sister lets anyone say anything to her without giving them any feedback. When she was younger, she would come home and tell us a story and who said what to whom. At the end of her story my mother would look at her and say "Did you really say that or just think it?" Not me. If you got something to say, say it. Dont be surprised if you get some back. Quiet is one thing I am not. I describe myself as a social butterfly. lol. There are people who let anyone say anything to them. Then there's me. If I dont like it, you'll know it. If I love it, you'll know it. I am not rude about it. I dont start trouble. If you ask me my opinion on something, you'll get an honest answer. I am the type of person that wont disrespect you unless you start. EVen then I dont try to disrespect you. I try to say something like hey let's not go there. You may not like what I say. Or I dont want to hurt your feelings. I am honest. I treat people as I would like to be treated. Sometimes, I have been know to put someone in their place. I am not a bully. I am the kind of person who protects the little guy. What kind of person are you?
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@checapricorn (16065)
• United States
18 Aug 08
Hi dloveli, [i]I am also open but when I just meet the person, I am more on listener and observer, I will respond when I am ask but have reservations! I always stay away from trouble if I can...I always confront people who will insult me and my loved ones and I would say I am very flexible person..I always listen to people![/i]
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@dloveli (4368)
• United States
18 Aug 08
I think that is the smartest way to act. I definitely should listen more sometimes. That's where I tend to get into trouble. When I dont listen to the whole story. I am getting alot better now. I actually have become a great listener. dl
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@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
22 Aug 08
Hi dloveli That's actually a nice approach towards life. Someone would have to think twice before actually getting into a brawl with you. I really like this kinda attitude. I, personally, is however little inward and shy. I would listen , listen and listen before actually letting go. But once I do it I do not look back.
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@dloveli (4368)
• United States
22 Aug 08
That's why you have me on your list of friends. lol. Its a joke in my family that because I am puerto rican and italian, I even talk in my sleep. Its not that I walk around with a tough exterior because honestly I dont. Its the fact that I have been in the position to where I have been picked on or belittled and I remember how terrible I felt. Once I took a chance and stood up for myself, I found that people were mostly all talk. I can talk too. So what was I being afraid for? If you have a problem, you call me friend. We'll kick their butts together. dl
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
22 Aug 08
That's the sweetest thing someone has told me lately! Thanks loveli for being such a support. You know what you exude such a positive halo that I can feel it right here. That's the beauty of friendship I guess. Keep kicking and keep outsmarting others. I just love ya. Smiles...
@subha12 (18452)
• India
22 Aug 08
i must confess that I am little bit introvert. i say less and listen much. may be I am a bit shy. but when i feel; the urge to say something, i say it.
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@dloveli (4368)
• United States
22 Aug 08
Now that we're I have you on my list of friends, there's no need to worry. I have your back. Dont let anyone take advantage of you because you like to stay out of the drama. People see a shy person and think that they can say or do whatever they want because he/she wont speak up. Now you have us here at myLot. Most importantly me. lOL so dont worry my dear I can speak for you. I talk so much they now call me a "Social Butterfly". thanks friendl dl
@villageanne (8554)
• United States
20 Aug 08
I am very outspoken but I will let people say things about me and just shrug them off. But they better not mess with my family. That is cause for a butt beaten. LOL I will take up for family in a heart beat and I hold no punches either.
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@dloveli (4368)
• United States
22 Aug 08
We could be related!LOL I feel the same way. I am the type that tries to make a good impression. It seems that people think that because I am kind,or giving, that I am to be taken advantage of. NOT!!!!They soon find out they totally called that one wrong. I will stand my ground to the end. I wont ever let it be said that I was a victim. However, I dont victimize either. thanks cuz lol dl
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@joyadalia (1408)
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
I am not a shy person. Normally I chatter a lot. That is why at times I get really bored with my teammates now because they never talk at work and during breaks I do most of the talking while they just interject with a little this and that . I loved my previous team which included super_jj, a fellow MyLotter, because we often talk at work and during breaks and just about anything. We even get the work done faster because we are too energetic and excited to talk that we sometimes forget that we are sleepy .
@dloveli (4368)
• United States
22 Aug 08
If they dont want to talk, its their problem. As long as you are expressing yourself that's all that matters. I have the same problem. It seems as if I am the only one talking. I tell them that's okay that they want to remain quiet. However dont think I am a mind reader. If I dont know your opinion I am not going to guess. I am going to do what I like. That may change their mind. You shouldnt have to pull conversation out of someone. If they arent responding my friend, move on. FInd people that will. I am alway here willing to conversate just to let you know. lol dl
@riyasam (16570)
• India
22 Aug 08
i am not so open when it comes to airing my opinions.
@dloveli (4368)
• United States
22 Aug 08
Thats okay. Some people just sit back and watch everything going on around them. You are slowly figuring people out. That's a good thing my friend! Just dont be too quiet. Make sure you share your opinions so views will be known. You dont want anyone to have to make assumptions about you. You dont have to be loud. Just be honest. Dont let anyone take your shine my friend. I have your back! dl