How do you feel when someone critics about your partner?
By yenwie84
@yenwie84 (1344)
Malaysia
August 20, 2008 7:17am CST
Last night,my boyfriend and I went to have a dinner with his colleagues and their partners. I just kept quiet for the whole night because I did not know what to say actually. In the conversation,they made fun of my boyfriend and joked about my boyfriend and his ways on how to handle his job. I felt very irritated about this. It was really not a good idea to critic people on how they work especially in front of many related people and closed ones. For me,they did not respect my boyfriend. Of course I could not do anything rather I just kept quiet. Imagine if you are in such situation,what would you do? Please share your opinions,thanks.
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3 responses
@Wizzywig (7847)
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20 Aug 08
I think it depends on the mood.If it was light-hearted and the person being criticised did not take offence I would probably either ignore it or smile and say something along the lines of 'hey! give the guy a break and pick on someone else'. Maybe I would have tried to point out his positive attributes or attempt to steer the conversation towards something less personal. If it was really malicious, I might be tempted to throw some insult and criticism back at those people. (It wouldn't help the situation, I know)
@James72 (26790)
• Australia
20 Aug 08
Under the exact same circumstances I would pretty much keep a very close eye on my wife and would only jump to her defence if I saw she was getting distressed or upset. I would need to be mindful that these are her work colleagues; not mine! Maybe this is how they playfully tease each other throughout the week? If it was all one sided and my wife was starting to get upset then these people had better start running! lol.
Outside of this example you have given I would not accept any criticism of my wife from people that had no relationship with her at all to be honest. There are always boundaries and we need to be wary of when they are crossed. Only the reactions from our partner will truly identify to us if these boundaries HAVE been crossed or not! And if they have been crossed then as far as I am concerned it is our duty to be protective.
