Do you have common inerest with your partner?

@Bebs08 (10681)
United States
August 22, 2008 3:34pm CST
Most often, when intelligence differ a lot, and also the interest are different, it becomes a tragedy in marriage. I am just fortunate that me and my hubby have some common interests though not perfectly the same all but at least 80 percent are common. Both of us like nature activities, Music, sports the only thing he likes that I don't is aviation. I don't like flying while he does very much. I just teach myself to like it and I go with him to the airshow sometimes. It is really hard when partners have different interests. It is always a source of trouble if one will not agree with what the other is doing. What a bout you? what can you say about this?
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7 responses
• Australia
29 Sep 08
I would say for the most part my partner and I share the same interests. And yes there are a few things that we differ on so it makes like interesting. But it's why we get on so well.
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
29 Sep 08
oh!! it is a good thing when both of you shared common interest. At least you will not argue of what to do and how to do it.
@jstmarfz (1498)
• United States
7 Sep 08
I don't think my hubby and I have common interest. I am a type of person who loves to go out, and he is a homebody person. He just love to sit and watch tv, I do love to sit and surf in the net. But we do get along very well. We do respect each other's interests. I never asked him to like what I do and vice versa, but we do it willingly. It wasn't hard for us to be involved in each other's interest. We love eacch other, and we learnt to love our differences too. I think that's most important.
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
7 Sep 08
Oh!! that is cute!!I love to hear that principle that when you love each other, neither one of you will force the other to do things not of his/her interest. Some couples can not accept differences. They will force their partner to do what the other is doing. Meaning, either the g=husband or the wife change the likes of the other to fit in into his/her. Which is always the source of conflict in the home.
@checapricorn (16060)
• United States
22 Aug 08
Hi Bebs, I agree with you! My husband and I both love eating..lol! He cooks great and I am learning this time! We love fishing and swimming but we will not meet when it comes to playing pool, I love it so much and I always loves to play but he doesn't like it which irritates me! LOL! Anyway, at least a lot of common though compared to those who can't even name one!
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
29 Aug 08
oH! that's good Very good to hear that your hubby is a good cook. Mine? I'm not sure.. he said that he is.. but.. he did not cook at home sincce I've been here. But yes, we have lots of common interests.
@nanayangel (7877)
• Philippines
22 Sep 11
Hi there Bebs 08! You're right. Sometimes, it's not only the intelligence that differs but also personalities and that is perfectly fine. No two persons are exactly alike and sometimes, we just have to use our differences with our partner in a way that we will complement each other. I have a few common interests with my husband like playing online games, music, going out and eating.
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Aug 08
We have a lot of common interests. Too many maybe. I think he needs to find some interests of his own and some friends of his own and occasionally have a life away from the home and the family. Not too much though, but something!
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
29 Aug 08
Why you want him to find interests away from home and find friends too. Have a nice day.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
23 Aug 08
Oh I like this topic my dear. You are very right with what you said. When you have different interests with your partner it would be much harder. It's a good thing you have at least 80% similarity with your hubby. That's a good percentage already. So you don't like aviation too. I also dislike that. Well my husband and I both love to go outing. Going to beaches, picnics, and other places. We love to travel a lot. I love music as well and he does too. We both love gardening. We both love shopping but when we shop we are separate. I have no patience waiting for him while he fits rubber shoes neither does he has the patience waiting for me till I get the right style of dress. But when we are shopping for things in the house that is when we always go together. When it comes to sports, he likes to basketball and do a lot of that but I don't have not much interest in basketball now. When I was younger yes, I was addicted to Basketbal and was an avid fan of Robert Jowarski and I would jump the highest when he shoots. But with the younger sets of new baskeball stars now, I think I am too old to root for them. Ha!ha!ha! When my husband watches Basketball though, I never disturb him. I am giving him all the time to enjoy the game. Afterall, he's been working hard all day long.
@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
29 Aug 08
Wow!! pretty cool!! you both like to travel? that's nice!! O yes, shopping that is also one thing that we are not have in common. I like to stay longer while he doesn't. He can pick up right away what he wants but me? I have to spend more time and that's why I don't like to shop when we were together. There are times when he wants me to watch with him aviation movies, flying and everything..oh!! I just force myself but I enjoyed as I go along with it. He worked in the aviation before and that is what he really wants. I just keep quiet when he start to tell me his big dream to fly again. I really don't like it. I'm scared riding a plane..
@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
29 Sep 08
We have common interest with my partner, that is dealing and teaching children. We both are a teacher that's why we get along well because we always share our experiences with him. The only difference is, i teach in a normal classroom while he teaches mentally handicapped children which i think for me is very hard. Teaching mentally handicapped is not easy but i salute my husband for being such a strong person to be able to handle them. Happymylotting!