relatives, people, dependence, taking advantage, marriage

August 23, 2008 12:05pm CST
Hello everyone,I have a cousin who had been by my side through thick and thin and I am really extremely grateful for that. I am an only child and having a "big brother" is really endearing. Aside from, he is really fun to be with. Unfortunately, he had been laid off his real job because of company cost cutting and he is just starting to establish his name as a freelance photographer. So, in other words, I am the one footing the rent and all the bills for the meantime (which, I have to admit is really crimping my budget and I dare not tell this to my mom). The main problem is, my fiance had already proposed marriage to me and we have acquired a new place of our own. How can I tell my cuz that he has to support himself from now on since I am going to the next chapter of my life -- and he definitely cannot depend on me anymore in terms of the roof, food, photo equipments, etc. My friends kept on telling me that he is just a freeloader, but freeloader or not, I just don't have the heart to tell him about the real situation. Any "tactful" advise guys!!!??!!! A little help please? I am really at my wits end here. It seems that whatever decision I make, somebody is going to get hurt, plus the realization that "I am really helping him or not?"Thanks a lot for taking the time to read.
1 response
• United States
23 Aug 08
yea i would just tell him that you are engaged now and are moving out to be with your s/o. usually honesty is better. i dont think he could be mad a tyou for getting married and moving on with your life
• Philippines
23 Aug 08
Thank you so much dementia ... that's a huge load from my back. I know that this is just a simple problem, but saying goodbye to somebody who had been by your side for years is not easy especially now that he is on the "lowest point" of his life, but as you have said.... HONESTY IS BETTER. Thank you again!!!