Recovery Homework - Detaching and Letting Go
@royal52gens (5488)
United States
August 27, 2008 9:11pm CST
I bet you thought the Homework was all done. hahahaha Nope, we still have some things to do and to look at. So to all of my friends who have been following this series, I encourage you to not give up and to continue to proceed with your personal recovery program one step at a time. ((hugs))
After working our way through our personal recovery, we should reach a point where we are ready to detach from the addiction or the person with the addiction. This does not mean we have quit caring. It means we no longer allow the addiction or the addict to continue to affect our lives. We are starting to take care of ourselves first.
Once we have achieved detachment, we should be ready to let go and let God take over. We are no longer in control, as if we ever had any real control in the first place. Let go of the stress, worry and fears. Allow your higher power to oversee things for you.
This week, your homework is to determine if you are personally ready to detach and let go. How will you go about achieving this task? What steps will you take to reduce your stress, worry and fears this week? Are you starting to take care of yourself? Are you putting yourself first? Have you been able to do this step already? If so, please share how you did it. Thank you.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
28 Aug 08
Geez Louise Mom, the holidays aren't over yet! lol
I'm trying Royal. I really am. This past year has been hell and these past two weeks have been worse. But I'm staying as detached as I can without closing my heart completely. I will work on that, I promise. And yes, I am taking better care of myself now that the hubs is no longer making my life a nightmare with his control issues..........How about YOU? How are you doing?
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
28 Aug 08
I have been working hard at detaching myself from my husband's problems. I still listen to him but I refuse to worry, stress or fix his problems for him. I actually feel better. He has to take care of him and I have to take care of me. He tries to lay his problems on my doorstep but the minute he is gone, I close the door and let it all go into the hands of God. I can not help my husband but God can.
The first couple of times I went through this process I felt incredible guilt. That was not good for me either. I am finally realizing that I do not need to feel guilty for protecting myself. It is not my guilt to be carrying. I can allow myself to not carry that burden any longer.
I am glad to know your situation is improving. I agree this past year has been tough for many of us. But we have survived it together. ((hugs))
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
29 Aug 08
Ah, Royal this is good to hear. I know about the guilt thing, believe me! LOL
But as you say - it's in God's hands and He helps those that help themselves....
One of the hardest things for moms/wives to do I think, is to turn all those years of OUTWARD focus on others, back onto ourselves and begin taking care of our own hearts, minds and souls. I am reminded of Jesus speaking to James while he hung across the cross and charging him with taking care of His mother. Mary had birthed raised and would bury her son, and Jesus was so mindful of the fact that it was now time for someone to take care of her! So yes - NO GUILT!
Hugs.
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
1 Sep 08
Oh honey, I was doing well until a little while ago. I have had a bit of a set back. I listened closely to my inner voice and discovered something I was not prepared for. I suppose it has caught me off guard. It has confirmed my direction of life though. I have to detach, separate myself from him and let go or he will destroy me.
