When some one close to you DIE
By queenrhoda
@queenrhoda (9)
August 28, 2008 2:15pm CST
My aunt recently passed away she was the only sister my mother had, so it hurt me deeply to say good bye to my only aunt. My sister found my aunt passed befor I did and she came over my house and said to me "Get up and get your cloths on because aunt Edith just died." I was half awake when she told me this but it immediately woke me up. So I then sat on the edge of my bed and she began to yell and wake everone up at 6:30 in the morning saying "come on ya'll we have to go aunt Edith just died. In her voice she had no sympothy she didn't cry and everything seemed to be a joke to her. I got very emotional and said you need to shout up because you don't tell people someone that close to them died in the tone of voice that you are speeking. Then she said well if she died she died what you want me to do about it. I then punched her in her mouth and we began to fight. I kind of fell bad about it but I think she deserved it. Do you think I did the wrong thing?
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@Chevee (5905)
• United States
28 Aug 08
I understand how you feel, but violence doesn't settle anything. She could have been a little more sympathetic about it knowing some family members have deep loving feelings for the aunt. Everyone grieves in different ways. Some cannot accept the fact that this has happened. Maybe she was in denial.
How did things turn out with her? Did she ever grieve over the aunt?
@metalhalo (599)
• United States
28 Aug 08
While you acted out of emotion...I don't think that punching her was probably the best way of handling it. It's completely understandable though considering your grief. Losing a loved one is horrible.
I lost my Grandma to Cancer when I was 16. It was the hardest thing I ever had to deal. Thankfully, we all got to be with her when she floated out of this world. But the pain is definitely unbearable. I knew that it was bittersweet because she was no longer in any pain and was in Heaven but I couldn't help feeling selfish and still wanting her to be here with me. I can't explain it but day by day the pain gradually vanished. In the beginning you don't think that's even possible but mysteriously it does. Slowly and softly. I still miss her everyday. I wish more than anything that she could've been here to see me walk down the isle and meet my son when he was born.
I take comfort in knowing that she's watching from up above. I am truely sorry for your loss. Try and hold onto the memories of her that make you smile the most and know that she's always with you. 
