It's Better to be single than to get married.

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@rainmark (4302)
August 29, 2008 3:13am CST
It's better to be single than to get married, because when you are single you can do whatever you want without any obligations and responsibilties on your family to think, you are free from any family problems and financially in raising your kids and sending them to school and looking after them, you don't have a nagger wife or bossy husband, no more arguments and mis understanding between your in-laws, yes you will be alone but you can find things that make you happy Than being married lots of responsibilities and problem attached on you and future anxiety.
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@fifileigh (3619)
• United States
30 Aug 08
that is how i feel about single life. i am at peace with my male cat. while i occasionally listen to relationship problems from people i know who r dating or married. i dont want to suffer like them....
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@joyadalia (1408)
• Philippines
30 Aug 08
Are you married? I am married and I'd say that my being married was better than my being single . But maybe that is because I do not have such misunderstandings with my in-laws. And the responsibilities that come with the marriage might be difficult but it is twice the fun. If you are married, then do not worry. Whatever problem you are going through with your in-laws will work out in the future.
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@chiyosan (30218)
• Philippines
30 Aug 08
i think if youu are not happy being married, and the relationship is not going to work already; then it is of course better to be single than be attached to someone you are not happy to be with anymore.
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• China
30 Aug 08
when you don`t want to marry,you must think it is better to be single than to ge married,as a single,you can do everything you want,this kind of life is freedom and comfortable,so you like this life,you think this life is the best.but when you meet him or her who is very important in your life,you don`t think it is better to be single,because you fall in love with him or her,you want to live with him or her forever,in the two people`s world,you can get many treasure that cann`t get in single`s world.
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@LadyMarissa (12160)
• United States
30 Aug 08
At 23 I felt a lot like you do. I was going through a divorce & hated men in general. After having a GREAT marriage, I can tell you that there is NOTHING like sharing your life with the RIGHT person. Suddenly the obligations become pleasures. You look forward to seeing his face again. You enjoying being by his side sharing your problems. I would come in from work all upset over something. He'd say, give it to me & let it go!!! Then he'd give me a BIG hug & I NO LONGER had a problem. I would have been fine had I never married him; but my life was soooo enriched by the experience. You don't need a man to have a full life. However, you can have an even fuller life with the RIGHT man...and misery with the WRONG one!!!
@jmhall (143)
• United States
30 Aug 08
I have to agree with you completely. While going to college I thought I don't need anyone I will be fine on my own. But then I met the one I did not want to live without. Been married now for 10 yrs and have 3 kids and it is the best thing in the world. Heck I even became a SAHM. :)
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@LadyMarissa (12160)
• United States
30 Aug 08
I must admit I laughed when I saw your message. I was responding to a 23 year old woman & thought she was the one responding. I was thinking dayum she got married at 13 while in college & already has 3 kids. She should be giving me advice. Then I realized the mistake I made from not paying close enough attention. Thank you for giving me a reason to laugh at myself this morning!!!
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@coffeechat (1961)
• New Zealand
29 Aug 08
It is a damned if you do and miserable if you do not situation for many people. The single find at various stages freedom, independence, loneliness, misery. Many couples find the same even within the context of a loving relationship. The only bonus of being in a relationship as opposed to being without attachments are the spouse (partner's) parents. Whether you consider them in-laws or outlaws does not matter - they are still a bonus. Cheers.
• New Zealand
29 Aug 08
p.s. Coffeemate likes my mother so much that he once said to her.. "If all inlaws were like you, it would be pleasurable to be a bigamist". lol
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@rainmark (4302)
31 Aug 08
Not all the people have the same wants in life, some choose to get married and some and choose to remain single it's individuals choice, and i loved to read your responses. your lucky you have a nice inlaw, thnx for the response, cheers!
@shav9292 (928)
• India
29 Aug 08
i disagree slightly, you are right about the responsibility and stuff but commitment....... inst that what life is about ,and what i want to tell you is that when you become old you feel lonely you want someone besides you to love you take care of you.it will be too late then. being single is more hard than being married for sure,no doubt. and about those problems you mentioned those are everywhere you go. at home,at work or school,on the road, so its life... and we have to deal with it. take care.
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@shav9292 (928)
• India
29 Aug 08
lol..yes scary thought..thanks for that :p yes but what ever it is i am still on the side of marriage. :p good day. :)
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• India
6 Sep 08
You come into this world alone and go alone...... It is your choice to make your life beatiful in the middle with someone you love and want to spend the rest of your life with.
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@rainmark (4302)
6 Sep 08
Yeah i think so , it's the matter of choice,happy myloting.cheers!
@Savvynlady (3685)
• United States
29 Aug 08
I believe there are advantages to each state as well as disadvantages. Just because you get married means that you are tied to your spouse. It just means you have one more person that has your back. If your married, it should be an enhancement instead of a disadvantage. Which means if you have inlaw problems, make sure you weigh stuff before you DO marry. I have been married for a decade, and I'm now single, well divorced, and I promised myself that I wouldn't remarry unless I feel that God approves of the match and not only that, I feel that it's the right thing to do. I let the man that I am seeing that and he feels likewise. One thing I really like of him is that he will ask me things, he values my opinion, I value his, but at present, I am secure in my singleness.
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@rainmark (4302)
29 Aug 08
Yes, not all the marriage works, not all the single happy and satisfied to thier life, thats why you really need to work hard on it if u want to have a perfect marriage life. thnx for the response. cheers!
@pp_earn (210)
• India
29 Aug 08
Yes, it's right. It's better to be single than to get married because you get more freedom in life than when you're married. But, one thing in life's true that you need a life-partner at one phase or another, when you are old and no one is there to look after you. At that point, I think you really need someone with you.
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@rainmark (4302)
31 Aug 08
Being married gives you an advantages too coz you have someone to be with when you are getting old and someone will look after you. Happy myloting friend. cheers!
@metalhalo (601)
• United States
29 Aug 08
I believe my few single friend would strongly disagree with you. Being single may mean you are free to do what you like, in general and financially. But as far as being obligation and responsibility free, that just isn't so. My single friends have obligations and responsibilities coming out of their ears. With working, going to college and trying to maintain some sort of social life. They would love to be able to find a person to make it all complete. Sure, being single can have it's perks...but when you're married with a family, you get so much more out of life. You learn so much more. You learn the meaning of understanding, faith, compromise, patience and perseverance. I didn't get married and have my son because I needed someone to take care of me. I chose to do so because I felt a great love for my husband and wanted to share my life with him. Everything that comes along that is simply a blessing. Through my own family and my inlaws I've been able to witness what a true family is and what it means. I'd take that over being single and lonely anyday. Life gives us all different problems regardless if you're married or single. It's to test us. If you have faith in who you are as a person and in those who surround you then you can overcome anything. Families give you support, courage and strength. Marriage doesn't give you "future anxiety", it's how you are able to handle difficult situations and your attitude in general that decideds that.
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@rainmark (4302)
29 Aug 08
I do respect your opinions and it's nice to know your point of view, well everyone of us is different and different choices, to get married or to remain single. happy mylotting, cheers!
@sweetyethot (1738)
• China
29 Aug 08
im single, i do have freedom,but sometimes i feel lonely.i need someone to hold my shoulder, to comfort me when i am sad.of course, your close friend or your family can do so.but their hugs are not the same as your life partner's. i will marry if my Mr.Right ask for my hand.i love to have my own family!
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@rainmark (4302)
31 Aug 08
I do appreaciated your sharing in my discussion, that's nice that you are thinking to get married one day when you meet your Mr. Right. I'm happily married now to the one i love, and if you love someone and he loves you and specially when he spoiled you. it's nice to get married lolz. happy myloting. cheers!
@amirev777 (4124)
• India
29 Aug 08
hi there's a saying-'grass is alwayz greener on the other side'-which means you alwayz crave for something that u do not have-for those who are married,they alwayz rue that decisions,but those who are not married feel lonely and want to get married.
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@rainmark (4302)
31 Aug 08
some married people want to be single and some single wanted to get married. sometimes you don't understand what people want. but me , im happily married. thnx for the response. happy myloting. cheers!
@underdogtoo (9589)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
Well, I am married with children but I am almost like single because I live away from my family. I work at a different place and I don't know when I will be back with my family. It's life. Cheers!!
@rainmark (4302)
31 Aug 08
Working away from family is common now,lots of husband working abroad because they can earn lots of money to provide thier family needs than staying in your place and you are suffering from poverty. thnx for sharing, happy myloting, cheers!
@gne925 (80)
• Philippines
29 Aug 08
Financially it is indeed an advantage to be single than married especially when you're the guy, coz you have all the responsibilities of giving your family the best life that they deserve... Im a single mom and have no regrets. If not with my daughter in my life now, I dont know if I am this responsible and this eager than Im just single with no obligation but myself. Having a daughter gave me the purpose of my being in this world. It gives a different happiness especially now that she is growing up and we are being best friends.
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@rainmark (4302)
31 Aug 08
That's one of the problem that married life facing, that's why most of men never get married yet until they are not financially secured.I'm married and i'm happy with it coz everything is provided by my hubby time come soon that i will going to share with him in terms of financies when my baby is big enough. thnx for sharing, cheers!
@sumiirajj (1983)
• India
29 Aug 08
Hi friend,Being single is enjoyable only for sometime and after which you may feel lonely and long for a partner ,who will live for you take care of you loving and caring.This is human tendency.we need someone or other as partners to take care of.Taking up responsibilities is life .Without responsibilities and without someone to share your life you would feel bored and frustrated after sometime.Thanks for sharing.Happy mylotting.
@rainmark (4302)
31 Aug 08
I appreciated your response to this discussion, you find some people are lonely being alone and some afraid to be alone and feel lonely that's why they are getting married and someone feel inlove like me thats why i get married.but some remain single and they are contented to be like that. thnx, happy myloting, cheers!
@xParanoiax (6997)
• United States
29 Aug 08
I'm a happily single lady but lemme just say this: Not all married people's relationships are the same. Not everyone has inlaws, not all inlaws are evil incarnate...not all couples even argue or fuss at eachother constantly. No responsibilities or obligations? I have responsibilities and obligations, I'm not free from family problems. I can't see how anyone who wants to live can completely avoid responsibilities and obligations, actually. Sure, I don't have kids...but I had to raise my brother and baby animals for a portion of my life...I know what its like. And it's not like single people can't adopt or have kids, either...
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@rainmark (4302)
29 Aug 08
Hello paranoiax thnx for the comment and i appreciate it, your such a wonderful then that you share you life and you share obligations to your family even you are single. I know that everything is not the same, that's why there's a discussion arise because of it and it's so nice to know everyone's opinions. Happy mylotting.
@SangsTurks (1446)
• India
29 Aug 08
That was exactly the reason why i married late. My friends are still surprised that i got married!! But one thing i would like to confess, being single had a diffrent kind of fun amd excitement and being married has a diffrent kind of contentment to it, you know for a fact that have somebody. I cannot explain how i feel, yes you do get responsibilities on your head when you are married but then how long do you want to be single. I have enjoyed my self when i was working so that i dont regret not enjoying myself after marriage. things do change completely after marriage but then we change too, we dont remain 18 forever,do we!!??!! have fun till you can and settel down when you think you are ready for it.
@rainmark (4302)
29 Aug 08
Single and Married they are really different, yes some people they get married when they are already content and they had lots lots of fun in thier single days and they want to settle down, but some, they had no luck so they remain single. thnx for the comment, i see you baby is so cute. add me up on ur firends list. thnx
@jdyrj777 (6541)
• United States
3 Sep 08
I agree with you whole heartedly. You young people how ever should naturally want to pro create. The key is in responce #1. finding the right person. Some one who will live and let live. Someone who accepts you as you are and try not to change you. It is wonderful to have children in a happy harmonious life style. Children are a blessing.
@bombshell (11265)
• Germany
31 Aug 08
hi there,its a different happiness being a married than to a single.yes single has free life but there are times that we hate being a single or we need sometimes to talk to,to share evryrthing.but if you married the good one yes then life if full of happiness hehehe.
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