getting what you want

South Korea
September 1, 2008 7:22am CST
there's a saying 'you can't always get what you want'...but isn't that because we don't appreciate or don't work towards it?
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@ruperto (1552)
• Philippines
1 Sep 08
Interesting topic. There is a saying: "b careful about what you wish for, 'coz you just might get it." It seems that means we may desire certain things BUT we may not always really win when we get what we desire. Consider a hypothetical: a person who desires to win a huge lottery price. He gets what he desires but becomes a victim of having too much. (a very common reality...) It seems knowing one's self is crucial. Great people began with a desire to help mankind. There is a saying "all great achievements for mankind began as an emotion." Those who got to know themselves early would know what they really want and will give all they can -not just because they are gifted; but primarily because they chose the dream for which they felt the most for. Some people seem to refer to it as the "flow"; where a person feels for a desire to achieve so much that there seems an invisible force pulling toward achievement. Please share your views. Cheers:)
• South Korea
1 Sep 08
your response is very comprehensive ...I am about to start another topic, hoping that it would be much clearer. I suppose winning a lottery would be too much of a shock for a person, not used to living with big money and also not knowing how to manage it will in turn make as if the money has life and can control the person.('where money can be the root of evil' is applied) Some people believe in fate (strong external locus of control ) and some believe in themselves as if 'nothing is impossible, because 'I'mpossible''... the reason why I came across people saying that ' you can't always get what you want' was because I almost seemed to do something that looks too difficult to achieve in their eyes...which in turn blended in many question marks in my head, but eventually shook it out, I believe things happen for reason, but not on its own, because we need to cause reason to take its place. Of course it was hard to achieve it, but it was worth the while.
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@relundad (2311)
• United States
1 Sep 08
What is a "victim of having too much" Ruperto? Who decides what is too much?
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@relundad (2311)
• United States
1 Sep 08
I personally don't think there is "too much" in terms of wants. Nor those things that you obtain. I have worked very hard to get to the financial point that I am. I don't think that anyone should have the right to tell me what is too much or enough for me. Let's take a house for example, it may be that you think since I am one person that a small house should suffice, and it would, but who decides that I only need to suffice. If all I wanted was minimal then lets be realistic for what am I busting my butt off for monetary gain, if only to have the minimal. Lets take a car, sure a 20 year old tiny car would get me from point A to point B, but is that what i want? NO. Does the amount of money or assets change me as a person? No. When I had no money, I had big dreams. Now that I have money, I have bigger dreams. And I am the one who has to put in the work to achieve those dreams. Because it doesn't match the next person's doesn't make it wrong or "too much"
@relundad (2311)
• United States
1 Sep 08
I somewhat agree with what you are saying, but only as it compares to my own life. I feel like anything that I want, I can mostly likely have with proper planning and working hard to get it. This is not necessarily specific to tangible items.
• South Korea
1 Sep 08
thankz...that saying puts me off though, because I come across people who say that to me, so I am happy to hear that.
• South Korea
1 Sep 08
may I ask, what's your profession?
@relundad (2311)
• United States
1 Sep 08
Sure, I own a auto dealership and a mortage company. I am also a licensed real estate agent and real estate investor.
@relundad (2311)
• United States
1 Sep 08
I worked many years in corporate America to perfect my skills and knowlegde of the fields that I was interested in, starting from the ground level working my way to senior level management. My goal was to quit my job and become self employed at the age of 40. I did that, I quit on my 40th birthday as a birthday present to me. Also as I was working to achieve my goals, I was researching,investing, budgeting, becoming debt free and building my portfolio of assets. Thats why I say that I have put the work in, so nobody should be able to tell me what is too much for me. Nobody ever told me that I was working too much. lol
@relundad (2311)
• United States
1 Sep 08
OOPS this was meant as a comment to a poster above.
• South Korea
1 Sep 08
That's a real long way, pretty glad you made it all the way, I have known some people who also had a dream of being self employed, but they have not tried hard enough to meet that kind of success.
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@relundad (2311)
• United States
1 Sep 08
This is just my story. Everybody is different with different dreams and goals.
@tianli (311)
• China
1 Sep 08
No body can forecast the future,so just try your best is ok. If work towards to your aim ,you will have chance to achieve it .However, you don't cost energy,there is seldom dawn .
• South Korea
1 Sep 08
your words are thought provoking (",)