Would you stay with someone if you weren't happy?

I am pretty happy with my boyfriend, but there are times when I question it all because he will do things that I really disagree with. He has never treated me badly, but he has just said things and done things that made question why I fell in love with him and why I love him? My mother says that that happens in relationships, but that you do your best to make things work if you can. You realize why you fell for him and why love him so much by all of the positive things that he does and the way that he makes you feel.

yes i would stay for the children because that messes up your child in the end. maybe you should seek advice from a therapist and add a new routine to your life find out whats missing or talk about what you don't like and how to fix it communication is the key

I was actually in your same shoes not even 5 months ago :) my husband and I were together for almost 11 yrs and for the past 2-3 yrs prior to that, I realize I wasn't happy anymore. He wasn't either, he just never let on. So after alot of thought, I decided to leave the marriage. The only rough part about all of this is we have 2 two kids together and they are living with him for now and with me working its hard for me to see them.. but like you I am much happier, finally moving on with my life and I have met a guy!

wow, that's sad. I always have this worry of getting married with someone and end up with a divorce, like, how would i know If I'd still be happy with a guy after 10, 20 years? what are the grounds I may consider of spending the rest of my life with this guy. what are the ways so both of us would be happy living together, for long? really bothers me. But if I were in ur situation, I guess I'd do the same. Well, I'll try to talk it over first with my husband,trying to make things up. u know, maybe, if we'll do some counselling, we still get the relationship work. I'll try to listen and say what's inside of me.then if this doesn't work, divorce is the last resort. I hope you would have peace of mind and in complete happiness once you get things done. Good luck to you.

I enjoy a happy marriage. Anyhow I have a rule. Ask my self once in a while: Is this the person I want to see every morning when I wake up? Would I be happier somewhere else? My answers usually make me appreciate What a Have and feel grateful for been consciuos. Sorry for your divorce but If you feel it was your best decision then you most feel relieve. The best of luck for you and your former husband!

I guess it's ok to break out of a relationship you are not happy with but.... If you find the courage to get divorced, have you the courage to make the relationship work, only if both of you have given it your best shot and tried to do everything possible to make each other happy should you think of breaking up. If you are able to identify you are not happy have you tried to find out the reasons why you are unhappy and what have you done about them. Wish you happiness for the future, all the best.

I'm not particularly happy, but I stay in my partnership because of our two boys. They are 12 and 13 years old, and I think it would be hard on them if their parents divorce. And feelings might change over time, anyway. I don't know how I will feel about my marriage in, let's say, 3 years time.

I actually made this decision myself almost 25 years ago. I was in a marriage in which neither or us was happy, but we had stayed together for 11 years anyway. We divorced, both remarried, and are both very happy. Many people will not divorce even thought they are unhappy because they have children to think about. My children, now all adults, say that they think it was best that we divorced - they can see that we are both happier apart and married to others.

if i am in a realtionship and i am not truly happy after giving it a try and a chance to work it out between me and my partner but still i would feel miserable i think i would call it quits. being in a relationship that makes you feel miserable is not healthy at all. this will give you a lot of stress and eventually this may change the way you see life. i know sometimes we tend to think of keeping and saving a relationship but if that doest work for both parties it would be better to end it than ending it late than both parties lose their respect to one another. great to hear that your and your husband agreed to stay as friends that would mean you still respect each other. Hope you''ll find your true happiness. I wish you all the best!!! :)

I'm happy in my relationship. My hon and I were in that situation a couple years ago and his mom convince him to talk to me instead and ever since then, things have gotten better. No relationship are ever perfect since it's one of those things that will always need improvement no matter what. We still have our ups and downs but it's great to be with someone that can make you happy especially if you have kids together. My hon and I are not married but been together for 13 years now. My hon and I have three very young girls together.

I think that the unhappiness definitely comes from the lack of communication and bonding. This world is so caught up with thinking love is a feeling and that it lasts forever, but it isn't. Love is a commitment and I think even when things are unhappy, people have to approach that situation/problem boldly. Couples who last in long relationships are like that because they understand it's not always about themselves and their own happiness, but the happiness of the other. They stay committed even when things are unhappy and things get hard. They even try to liven up their relationship with things they did in the beginning of the relationship and work hard together to put their part into the relationship. I recently got out of a 1 year relationship and we were both unhappy. I think it was from my low self-esteem and him being hurt by the way I would poison him and out of my insecurities, wihtout knowingly, constantly hurt him. He let go because after constant work and constant overlooking of the wrong, it was time for him to not be hurt.

well if you can work out the problem you can. if not i rather leave and move on with my life

I know a family who isnt happy. So many years just constant fighting and bickering. But they stay together because they care about the kids i guess. IF the family is split up so will be the kids.

I am happy in my current relationship. When I met my husband, I knew he was the one right away. But I had been in a relationship, unhappy, for the previous 4 years. I knew we had nothing in common and I still stuck around. I think that once you get into a rut, it is hard to get out because you feel like you have so much time and energy invested in the relationship. But I soon realized that if I didn't get out, I would be unhappy with this man for who knows how long. I was still young and there was no need to waste the rest of my life because I had already wasted 4 years. And it wasn't a waste after all. I learned a lot from that relationship, most importantly what I really wanted in a partner.

I am married for 3 years now , i am still happy with my husband, i know that he is happy too with our three lovely kids..its just hard at times when we ran out of money but we made a promise to stick it out until the end..sometimes we fight and quarrel but yeah its healthy for the relationship...my parents are not happy anymore and they are planning to split ways...see they have been married for 29 years..and somehow on their 30th wedding anniversary..i was planning to hold a surprise party for them...its really sad that they don't love each other anymore...it just breaks my heart...knowing what they have gone through...i really pray that they be both happy separately.

I am not happy. And he is sure not letting me go easily either...

I'm seriously thinking about this question at the moment. My marriage is fizzling out and I believe that the main cause is his mom staying with us. He refuses to acknowledge my feelings in this case and it has caused me a lot of grief. I still love him, but things are not working out. We have a daughter and I'd rather have a clean break now than later. It's just complicated and bery confused at the moment.

I stayed along time when i was not happy. It took me many years and alot of courage to leave. It was the best decsion i ever made. Sometimes change can be hard. I never wanted to be a divorced women. Or a women whose children did not grow up with both parents in the house. Partly i think because my sister and i did not grow up with a father. The one think i have learned is LIFE is too short not to be happy. Good luck to you and may you find peace and happiness!

Im sorry to hear that, I am married now and i am so much happy and satisfied with my husband. If was in your situation i will do the same cause i dont have any reason to stay so its better to tell him and just to be make friends it all.And it would not be fair for him and for me if we still stay if we dont love each other.I think GOD always have a good reason why he do that.

no , i will never stay with someone if i am not happy.