Easier said than done....
@Zelmarq (12607)
Cebu City, Philippines
September 13, 2008 5:34pm CST
There are many things easier said than done and most of the time we dont mean what we say. Sometimes we fall to this trap when we have to lie or not to tell the whole truth coz we are afraid that we might hurt the other party. There was one time I got deeply hurt by a friend, it took more than one week for me to text him for forgiveness, I asked forgiveness, of course I meant it, it was from the heart, though in my heart I still feel the pain of what he has done to me. It took me courage to do that though I said that it was ok, deep inside i still feel the pain. Maybe sooner or later this will fade and I can move on and totaly forgive him.
have a nice day and thank you in advance for sharing.
Happy mylotting !!!!!
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@ElicBxn (64169)
• United States
16 Sep 08
I have reached the point in my life - well, actually I reached this point quite some time ago - where if they are too much work, they aren't friends, they are users. I am just NOT going to work that on them. They can grow up and be friends or they can go away, I don't need "toxic people" in my life.
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@Zelmarq (12607)
• Cebu City, Philippines
16 Sep 08
It took humility for me to be able to do tha, my fault was that I was too sensitive with the issue and choose not to talk to the person coz I was hurt, but then I realized not talking just made it worst for us and the people around us.
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@Zelmarq (12607)
• Cebu City, Philippines
16 Sep 08
I did my part, i also have the fault, i was to sensitive.
@g_aileen09 (1354)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
That's true, Zelmarc. We are prompted to say something assuring just to get out of an "ambush" situation. We tend to say things that we do not actually mean, hoping of all hopes that this would carry us away from a compelling moment.
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@Zelmarq (12607)
• Cebu City, Philippines
18 Sep 08
Yes, its what I thought of and Im jsu glad it turned out right.
@Zelmarq (12607)
• Cebu City, Philippines
18 Sep 08
Yes, the idea of forgiving soemone is a nice thought but doing it makes it harder.
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
the very common way to explain a discussion as EASIER SAID THAN DONE is diet. it is easier said than done. lol. like my other discussion about my sister afraid to get birth when she was still pregnant and a lot of advices i read is to just feel okay... well from a first time pregnant woman not being scared of giving birth is easier said than done. asking forgiveness is really not easy specially when the fault or the hurt we cause is really unforgivable accepting forgiveness is not that easy too specially if it is so so so painful.
@Zelmarq (12607)
• Cebu City, Philippines
18 Sep 08
Yes, when it comes to food there are really efforts that should be exerted. Thats also one of my weaknesses food food and food.
have a nice day and take care!!!
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
16 Sep 08
yea some things are easier to say than to do
I wouldn't let pride get in the way if I am wrong and I will apologize, but in your case I don't understand why did you apologize if it wasn't your fault?
Do you think that a part of it was your fault? I'm not trying to interfere, I just don't think you should bear somebody else's mistakes. If you are trying to teach this person to apologize when they are wrong, well the right way to do it is to not apologize when you haven't done anything wrong and let them realize that later. If they never realize it, well someday someone else will teach them a lesson. no wonder you are in pain, you are doing what you are not supposed to do ...
@Zelmarq (12607)
• Cebu City, Philippines
18 Sep 08
I also have the fault in the issue, I allowed him to say those not so good words to me, which for me was damaging and I allowed him to get through me through those not so good words. The big fault was that I was too sensitive and was not willing to talk to him for more than a week. I hated the person and not the wrong doing, I guess it was more of a reverse psychology on my part. he acused me of something I didnt do and I told him that I did not do it, the way he thought I did.
@idaantipolo (472)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
I agree with you...I'm one person who finds it hard to forget events that are hurtful for me, and the person who made me feel the pain. There is this one person in my life whom I loved so dearly, but things didn't work out one day and this person said a lot of hurtful things to me, it's been nearly a decade, but I still have not forgotten. There were efforts that this person is doing for me to forgive him, but the efforts fell short since he's doing the same things over and over and there seems to be no sincere effort.
It all depends on how sincere a person is in order for one to forgive him.
@Zelmarq (12607)
• Cebu City, Philippines
17 Sep 08
My friend was sincere, maybe he is just naive and i am the one who is the super sensitive, thats why we dont always meet somewhere. NOw he is acting as if nothing happened but I can feel thers this gap between us, a gap maybe that will be fixed in time.
Have a nice day and I hope that you and that person could talk things out, its not good living a life with unfinished business, if you want to tell him something, tell him while you ahve the chance to do so than regret of not being able to tell him in your lifetime.
@Sheepie (3112)
• United States
14 Sep 08
Some things can be really hard to say, sometimes you have to tell someone something that they really do not want to hear. There are also times in which you have to do something which is very hard, but a lot of life is full of things that are hard to do! Nobody said any of this life was going to be easy!
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@Zelmarq (12607)
• Cebu City, Philippines
14 Sep 08
yes my friend, I totatlly agree with you. We are not for this world and its expected that we face troubles and pain but its good that sometimes we can also make things better for us.
Thank you and have a nice day!!!
