Are you close to your mother?

@mona269 (133)
Philippines
September 17, 2008 9:26am CST
Are you close to your mother? Like do you share the same interests? like the same shops? like to go out and bond together? My mother and I are as close as the north pole is to the south pole. We are like so totally different that we almost always end up arguing. I sometimes envy those who can go out shopping and spending countless hours in the mall with their mothers. I guess it's partly my fault. I should also exert more effort in trying to listen and understand her. But then again, it's hard to be understanding to someone who refuses to be understood.
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@shanemre (357)
• Saudi Arabia
17 Sep 08
My mother is like my best friend. I tell her about everything that is happening to me. I cry with her, I laugh with her, I giggle with her about cute boys in my early years. We are like this... but of course we also fight sometimes, mother's will always be moms.. But one thing for sure... my mother has given up a lot of things for me without thinking twice, this is how much she loves me. This is why also, I am too much close to me. She is a part of me I will never want to change. I love her too much, as much as she loves me.
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@TessWhite (3146)
• United States
17 Sep 08
This is the way it should be. I had that type of relationship with my mom. I lost her last year to cancer. Cherish the time you have with yours, because we never know what the future may bring.
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@mona269 (133)
• Philippines
20 Sep 08
lucky you! i couldn't and i wouldn't even dare discuss my lovelife with my mom.
@sindhu88 (306)
• India
17 Sep 08
ya Iam very close to my mother .She is my best friend in my life.I wil share every thing with her . we wil enjoy watching tv,fighting,chating together.Iam open to my mother and i wil tell everything to her wat happened daily after comin home.I love my mom very much.
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@mona269 (133)
• Philippines
20 Sep 08
hi sindhu88! thanks for responding!
• Canada
17 Sep 08
My mother and I are not close at all !! I love my mother but we have nothing in common , she doesn't understand anything I do and we can't be together for any length of time without getting in a fight over something stupid . She can't accept that I am not like her and that I can think for myself . For instantce I have five children and this has always bothered her . She didn't want any children and ended up having two , and never wanted us to have any . It bothered her each time I got pregnant and when I was miscarrying she was happy about this as it hurt my feelings . I wanted this child and didn't think it was something to celebrate but she felt it was a good thing . She tries to be there for me but she always does something that goes against what I beleive in and then can't figure out why I am upset . I will always love my mohter and I do believe she loves me but we don't see eye to eye on many things and for this reason we will never have the close relationship that I would love to have with her .
@TessWhite (3146)
• United States
17 Sep 08
How sad. I can't imagine a mother feeling the way yours does.
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@mona269 (133)
• Philippines
20 Sep 08
hi samtaylorskykierajen! thanks for responding! my mom is so much like you mom! my mom only wanted one child and ended up with eight. she'd always discourage anyone of us to get married until "we've done everything we want with our lives". i guess, it's because it must have been terribly hard for her to have time for herself especially when her eight children came almost 11 months apart!
@icegermany (2524)
• India
17 Sep 08
i am close to my mother and i share everything with my mother and have you heard the saying that a mother becomes a friend of the daughter when she young and exactly it applies to me and my mother i can also tell that she is my friend too. i always had a good time with my mother. like you even my and my moms taste differs and we always use to endup arguing when we are out on shopping but then too it does not matter in our relationship and i think it will never matter in any of the mother and daughter relationship as the love between them is so strong enough that this all minor things just passes unseen. i always like to be with my mom but after wedding i had leave her and stay with my husband but then too i frequently use to visit her and speak over the phone daily. but now as i am far away from her i really miss her and i am just waiting to meet her as we are going to my home place in december and i am eagerly waiting for december.
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@mona269 (133)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
i really envy your relationship with your mom. Actually, I don't really hate my mom. She will always be my mother and i love her. It's just that our views about things are oftentimes, and i mean often, just worlds apart. If i say yes, she'll say no. If i choose white, she'll go for black.
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@rkrish (3003)
• India
17 Sep 08
me and my mother are so close upto my graduation and once i started my career my father has replaced and he has become well supported man in the place. i still love my mother but father speaks a lot everyday with me to motivate
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@mona269 (133)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
I am actually more of a daddy's girl and he's been the one giving me pep talks about life and business since I was young.
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@JPeralta (44)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I can't really get along with my mother either, its not that she refuses to be understood it's that I just don't agree with her. She is just very close minded at times. It dosen't matter what I say, if she says it black, its black. Lots of times what she says makes sence, but sometimes I just belive that I wouldn't do or bother with whatever she's advicing me to do, because I feel I have an easier way, or a better way. I think most women have that same issue, I can go shopping with her and stuff, but I could never go back to living with her.
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@mona269 (133)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
Your comment really made me smile as we seem to be thinking along the same lines.
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@cuttyrish (2667)
• United States
17 Sep 08
my mom and i are very close even if i am in college already...my mom and i go to the salon, when we have free time andn we are fond of shopping with each other..and we share fashion styles.. and we always talk to each other using the phone.. and she even help me in some of my projects, and she give me ideas in my political science subjects.. we are like best friends..
@mona269 (133)
• Philippines
20 Sep 08
how i wish my mom and i have a lot of common things to talk about over the phone.
@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
1 Oct 08
I'm very close to my mom! We don't share all the same interests- but we are close just the same. I do things that my mom enjoys and she does the same. My mom is my closest friend. She is there no matter what! I look forward to spending time with my mom. I'm 35 and she is still the one I go to to chat things over with. There are times when we don't agree- but I'm respectful and we just agree to disagree. My mom is great! I only hope my relationship with my daughter is as great as mine with my mom- when she is 35 :)
@kellys3ps (3723)
• United States
22 Sep 08
Unfortunately, I am not very close to my mother - she has never really treated me as a mother should treat her daughter.
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
20 Sep 08
My mother and i used to be close when i was little. I was raised by my grandparents and was the middle child. my mom used to come over and give me indivigal attention. I would visit her regular as an adult. But now i live 1,000 miles away from her. I should call sometimes what with the unlimited long distance i have now. Any way basement apt and cell phones dont go well together. My daughter and i are like best friends. We do shop together and spend time together.
@yparson (581)
• United States
18 Sep 08
my mother and I are like two peas in a pod. I love her so dearly. We have our disagreements but who doesn't. She is my heart. My kids have been taught to respect her and treat her with love as well. You only get one mother in the life time, the rest of them of fill-in mothers. Love you Mother and try to understand her, after all she did birth you.
@msedge (4011)
• United States
14 Oct 08
I was very very close to my mom.We were just like sisters.I shared everything to her.Oh i really miss her.I wish she still alive.My life has never been the same without her.I always ran to her whenever i was down.But she taught me to be strong and thats probably why i had faced the difficult times in my life.Love your mother and try to understand her because you will only realize how important a person to you if she's gone.
@candysky (855)
• Malaysia
19 Sep 08
Before... i not really close with my mom... my mom is the kind of traditional n serious people... coz i'm a chinese, in chinese, they will love son more than daughter.... so sometime i feel my mom was very unfair... my brother doing wrong, i been scolded... or sometime both of us doing the same things, but i the person who b scolded.... but now, i try to change my mind... n start talking, joking with her... now she is better than b4 n sometimes can joke n chat with me.... but sometimes, when joke oso need 2 b carefull... she has her own guideline... can't over... if not sure will b scolded....
• China
19 Sep 08
No, I feel sad to say that. My mother and I never closed. sometimes we do shopping together, but it limite in food market and super market. We never share the important thing in my life or in her life. I know she love me and I love her too, but we can't communicate smoothly. she have low-grade paranoea.
@mflower2053 (3223)
• United States
18 Sep 08
My mom and I have gotten closer with everything that has happened in my life. When I was younger she would flip out often so we weren't very close b/c I was scared of her and how she would react to things. In fact when I got pregnant I was kind of scared to tell her but now we are close and I can tell her just about everything and anything. I'm glad we have the relationship that we do.
@quinnkl (1667)
• United States
18 Sep 08
This is similar to another discussion. No, I am not particularly close to my mother either. We, too, are just totally different people. I love her and we aren't enemies by any means, but we just aren't close. We really don't spend any time together for that reason. She has my two sisters who are definitely more like her and like to do the same things she does, so she doesn't need me for that! I don't think it is necessarily your fault or that you should feel you HAVE to bond. Some people just aren't alike. And that goes for mothers and daughters sometimes as well.
@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
18 Sep 08
I am close, to a point, as we live 100 miles apart, but she can be very demanding and Miss Know it All, so I can only take so much of her, at times. I love her to pieces but she is very strong willed and wants things her way and pouts when she can't get it. She also likes to dominate us. When we have company, when she's over, and they seem to dominate more time with us, she's like a little girl who's mommy won't give her all the attention. We try our best but it's a little disconcerting that she is like this. She will call and if we are not home, leave a message, "Hi, it's your mother. Don't wait too long to call me, I not getting younger and could die." I email her a lot but she says, "It's not the same." No, it's not but I don't always have time to call and when I do, I get her machine. I should leave the same message, but I don't. LOL Don't get me wrong, I love her and being with her but she is like Marie from Everybody Loves Raymond, pushy and has no clue that she does it! LOL
@vimaal (3361)
• India
18 Sep 08
hi friend, iam so close to my mother. take care have a nice day.
@mlh8087 (368)
• United States
18 Sep 08
My mother and I live in different parts of the country, that's how well we got along. It was like mixing oil and water. The relationship between myself and my daughter is much different. We get along very well. Right now we are watching a movie together.
@candymarie (1368)
• Canada
18 Sep 08
I'd like to say I'm closer to my mother (and family) now that I'm out of the house and across the country, so I barely see them, except at xmas time (but not this year, because I can't afford it). When I was home in the summer, my mother and I went out to get a tattoo together, because I got one previously, and wanted to get another one, so she got her first tattoo ever on that second trip for me, so we would always have a connection haha. She loved it, and now wants to get ANOTHER one! You have to be careful with the ink cause it can get addictive I tells yah!