My husband is so angry right now
By MrsRich723
@MrsRich723 (602)
United States
September 17, 2008 12:49pm CST
My husband and I work at the same place but different departments. He is outside a lot of the time while I am inside at my desk. Well, an incident took place where there was some miscommunication between some people who he work with and their boss found out about it and they all got blasted for it. The part that made my husband mad is the boss took out most of his anger on my husband saying it was his fault that this incident took place. Now, I know exactly what took place and there were four people involved (who are supposedly his friends) but two of them turned on him. Now he's angry (rightfully so) and wants to quit because whenever things go on he always takes the blame, even if it's someone else's fault. My husband is an excellent worker and the boss praises him for his performance but when something goes on the boss is quick to take out the blame on him. The part that really upset him was his supervisor didn't handle the situation amongst the for people who were involved, he went straight to the boss and told him what happened. Now, I'm trying to calm my husband down but he takes it as me taking their side! So, I have 3 questions:
1. Should I agree with my husband in quitting (he has another job lined up if he does so money won't be a problem)
2. Should I just get angry with him and agree instead of trying to make him see it another way (although there is no other way)
3. Should I key his supervisors car? (Just kidding :-) )
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5 responses
@ShellyB (5241)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I would not quit a job with the way economy is going right now, if indeed he has another job it might be a good idea to find out how secure that job might be?
And sometimes all a spouse wants is vent and have someone be angry at the things the spouse is upset over, talking things over will be great when he is calm.
No keying anyone's car, you might be caught on camara 
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@MrsRich723 (602)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I believe that's what he wanted to do as well. Venting does help. Thanks for the response. Oh, and I won't key the car.
@Essie119 (673)
• Canada
17 Sep 08
There are times when it is just important for a man to know that you are on their side whether you totally agree with them or not. In this case (iwthout knowing all the particulars) I would think that your husband should take the other job. Nobody needs the stress of a two-faced boss. As unfair as it is, people don't change. If your husband is good at his job and is still used as a scapegoat, then the supervisor is probably going to continue to do this. However, don't let him leave without filing a grievance. As far as keying the car is concerned - wait a couple of weeks so no one will suspect you or your husband!
@MrsRich723 (602)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I agree with you as far as the other job but I would miss him so if he did. I like the fact that we work in the same place because we usually take out breaks together and eat lunch together and we ride to work together. All our "together" time will be cut down tremendously and I don't like that; however, if it would give him more peace I definitely would stand behind him on that. I just would really miss him. :-( Thanks for the post.
@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
17 Sep 08
Keying the supervisor's car??? No, bad option. Don't do that. Allow your husband to talk things out. Be his sounding board but avoid making any decisions for him. Allow him to make his own decision on this matter. Don't agree and don't disagree. There is no reason for you to get mad or upset as this would only hurt you in the long run. Trust that he will see things in a different light on his own. Be supportive, loving and listening. Have a hug ready for him no matter what he decides to do. He had to do some of this on his own a little. Remind him that whatever he chooses to do, you will still be in his life.
@MrsRich723 (602)
• United States
17 Sep 08
That is some good advice. I am going to do that. Thanks for the post.
