Who Is The Nurturer in Your Fanily???

He he he he...I guess more often than not, it's the female that nurtures in the family. It happens to my family, too...and to hubby's family. :-))))

HI LadyMarissa: I'm that person in my family, I always said I was born last to bury everyone which is NOT a fun job at all not by any means; but Yes I think in most families its always gonna be the woman who winds up being there for everyone, doing what needs to be done; and still we have to do our jobs and every other thing in our households; When My brother was sick and dying, which today Sept 20, he passed away 13 years ago, seems like yesterday but anyway when he was sick and dying, I was working two jobs, and still took many many shifts to be there with him in his home; all 2 1/2 yrs he was ill...he had to have round the clock care; it was awful today is awful but I've been trying my best to keep busy and not dwell on what today is, but its very hard to ignore, I just can't you know? but yes I do believe that for most families it will always be the woman;

In our family my husband helps out to when one of our children is sick. In fact with all the kids he is the one that liked getting up at nights to feed them. He said that was "his" time to be with them. Of course he couldnt do it all the time with work but when he could he did. In fact the other night our 21 month old kept waking up and even thou it was a work night for him after me trying for about an hour he got up with her and she actually went to sleep and stayed to sleep. Guess she needed to see him.. LOL! About the only thing I have noticed is that he cant stand to watch someone to throw-up or the sound of it. But that works as I can be there for them but no way can I clean it up. LOL!

hi the nurturer in our house has alwayz been my mom and she will alwayz be.i agree with you that it is alwayz the female members who are care givers.that is because it is there in their nature to care for their loved ones.its not only among humas but also seen amongst animals too.we had this female dog who gave birth to 2 pups for first time and the way she looked after them was really amazing.

I suppose it's me doing the cooking and cleaning - and I've been very lucky that nobody has needed long term care in bed yet. The kids only ever had colds and flu, which have only needed a day or two at home - or the odd earache or sore throat. I'm not really a very nurturing person, so I hope nobody becomes chronically ill. I think they'd find me fairly useless.

Hi LadyMarissa, Well there is only two us, my husband and I, but my husband is useless so I can't afford to be ill and when ever he is not well its me who have to look ater him, thank goodness we don't fall in often. Tamara

To be honest, I think in many ways I was always the caregiver/nurturer in my family. Looking back I realize that it was a classic case of role reversal...I was more the mother than my mother was, if you get my meaning. Since there were no males in the household...my folks were divorced when I was really young...it was my grandmother, mother and me living together. My role as caregiver was especially true the last year of my mother's. She, being the stubborn one, could have had a visiting nurse, but nope, adamantly refused outside help...so it was all up to me

Hi LadyM..at the moment no-one looks after me if I'm ill not even my son who lives with me and he is actually a care nurse!! So I do it myself and it has made me woner what will happen when I really do need that help when a bit older..whom of my son and daughter will be the one who helps me..guess thats something I'll find out when it happens...hugs littleowl

when i was growing up my mum was always the carer when we was ill, but now that i'm married my children are lucky because me and my husband can be just as good. After the kids are sick i'll change the bed sheets while my husband gets the medicine or the other way round ect

My husband stinks at being the caregiver, so I just don't get sick!! LOL All the women in our family are the caregivers. I really think men don't know how because their fathers never were, their moms always did it and it was just expected that women would be, so it's not something taught to most men. I have complained to my husband about it for years, but to no avail. When he had to be home with my kids, when they were sick and I was at work, I had to call him to make sure he did stuff. I learned that the hard way. My daughter was running a high fever and I told him that she had to have plenty of fluids throughout the day, to make sure he didn't forget. Well, she slept most of the day, he never woke her up and when I got home, she was dehydrated! I wanted to kill him. He said, "She was sleeping so I did not want to wake her." GRRRR!!! LOL

You know, you do have some good points here. It does seem that the females are always the caregivers. I think as women we are just nurturers by habit. We were designed that way. Some men do help out from time to time but it looks like it is us women who shoulder a lot of the challenges. I am not complaining either and it does seem that the man is kind of looking over in our direction waiting for our next move on how we will take care of something. I am just speaking from personal experience as a middle aged woman. I would say that I am basically the caregiver here.

In the house it's me. My wife has little sympathy unless I'm curled in a ball of pain. She is sick a lot. She has probles with allergies and food problems. Old Doc Carl has to become the nurse when it gets bad and sometimes has to hold her back. She had the flu last year. The Real Flu. it was clear she hadn't had it in a long time because she didn't recognize the symptoms or believe me when I told her how it was going to go. for three weeks she would go through several hours of feeling it was over and she could get back to work only to have the fever return with a vengeance and drop her back into bed. She was continually calling work to say she was ready to come back only to call back and change the story a few hours later. I tolder her not to make any decisions until she had at least 24 hours of feeling better but it was more than a week before she believed me. Outside of the house is a different story. She has no problem going to sit at her mothers house for days on end when mum is recovering from a hospital visit. Other family members and even some close friends can count on her to come and help out when illness lays them low.

My father is always away so my mother had to take care of us all. Although I can sense my father loves us as well, it's my mother who always devote her time when in comes to us, whether we are sick or not.