I'm in a bad mood

United States
September 27, 2008 3:56pm CST
I don't know why, I just am. Everything is irritating me lately. Most especially the kids, and for no particular reason, they're just being kids really. My husband will be home from work soon, and part of me really wants to go out somewhere for awhile to just get away. Problem is part of me is just too lazy to get dressed up to go out. And even if I got myself dressed up, I have no where to go. I don't have any friends I can just call up to go out with, and there's really nowhere to go alone. It's raining so I can't just go walk somewhere. I don't have a whole lot of money to go spend. I just really want to get away so I don't have to deal with it anymore. Just want to release my stress and get myself in a better mood. But how? What do you do when you feel like this?
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19 responses
@milindp (123)
• India
27 Sep 08
I simply do this, take a deep breath, hold it for 2 second, and release , i do this until my heart beats become normal, than i think of my girl friend, i love her very much, i try to recollect the movement we met, the craziness in writing kiddish love letter, i like her cute smile so i smile when i see her smile, hey stop that, see she is tickling me, so thats how i am happy now, thank you KATS for making my day, today i am more happy than tomorrow, that the funda of happy human being. just close your eye's and try to recollect your past where you have spend your world most happy movement so that you laugh and smile a while, thank you.
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@carmela0210 (1591)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
why not arrange to a small vacation that doesnt require too much money, or why not go out see a movie or window shop, being alone in going anywhere doenst mean you wont enjoy, or try to go to spa's and relax, maybe a good massage will be a big help to release stress...by the way mom how old are you?? happy posting
• United States
28 Sep 08
None of those suggestions are possible on my budget. We're a single income family of 7.
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• United States
28 Sep 08
Don't worry! Every one has days like that. Just kick back and read a favorite book or watch a TV show online. Get your mind off of stuff and you'll come away feeling so refreshed.
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• United States
28 Sep 08
LOL, mostly I gotta get away from the kids. Hubby had a 6 day work week last week so I'm frazzled. Where ya been, haven't seen ya around lately?
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@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
28 Sep 08
I am in bad mood too. I feel homesick during festivals. I have some food, which are supposed to be delicious, to eat. However, it just doesn't feel right. I hope everything will be better for u
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@mayrah (1144)
• United States
28 Sep 08
Sometimes I feel the same also specially when I encounter so many problems. It help me when I took at least fifteen to twenty minutes of exercise a day.
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@thanujad (405)
• Sri Lanka
28 Sep 08
Hi. I think you should take a deep breath and start meditating. Believe me I too had the same problem but If you don't try to get away from the stress you should start thinknig positively. You must always think that you have something that others do not have. I will try to play with my kids and play an internet game or I would chat with someone whom I may not known through internet. Sometimes if you meet a correct person a smile will come to you face. If it's raining I will think of making a hot pudding or cutlets. Keep smiling and don't just go to think more and more. Live for that moment.
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
27 Sep 08
I go to Barnes & Noble and window shop LOL I don't know what it is about that place, but just being around the books helps. I know what you mean about a bad mood. Yesterday I was super up until hubby called and said he was down sized AGAIN. Then I was super upset, then okay and today I am just meh. Everything is annoying me
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@shana123 (2095)
• India
28 Sep 08
Yes i even dont have much friends around , so i feel so , even my guy is too far away always busy with his work so he cant just spend much time with me , i dont have friends to hang out with so i just sit in pc and work in pc , this somewhat actually releives my mind when im stressed out , even i dont have enough money to hang out alone , i dont have any place to go alone . i dont know , i think you can be more happier with your kids, you can take them to some park , i dont think it will cost you much ! you can also enjoy along with your kids or call your parents or relatives often or keep yourself busy with handi works something, this will all help you to stress out
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
27 Sep 08
I just put on relaxing music, and try to think about the positive things in my life. I try to remember images of people who in a situation which is worse than mine, those who are suffering from famine, war and other problems.
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@mom4kids (657)
• Canada
27 Sep 08
I have days like this too and I think its important to get time away so you do not take it out on your kids. When I need time alone I will tell my husband and go for a walk or just go for a nap. Sometimes I just go to our room to be alone and read. I don't drive but could you just go for a drive. One doesn't need to go to a particular place or spend any money. Just having some time alone is a godsend.
@redkathy (3374)
• United States
27 Sep 08
Take a shower, put on some fresh pjs and eat a bowl of chocolate ice cream!! No really, when I feel like this I try doing something worthwhile and repetitious that takes some energy. Maybe that has been on the cleaning waiting list. It lets me get out some aggression that I might not even realize I have and gives a sense of accomplishment. Then I do the ice cream thing for real!
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@icegermany (2524)
• India
28 Sep 08
i know there are times when this kind of feelin g exists with me too and at that time my whole day goes in the same mood but i always try to think at that time that i am not going to release this kind of bad mood on anyone i just tell this to myself and i try to control and i just dont speak much at home so that i avoid shouting on others and my small son keep playing whole day and if he does anything i know i am going to scold him and at this time there are high chances and i dont want to do this and i really try to control all this and i just concentrate anywhere else to that i can laugh or so i just watch some comedy movie so that my mood becomes a little proper.
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• United States
27 Sep 08
HI Kats; don't feel bad, I too have a lot of those kind of days, I think mostly the rain brings in on, ( for me it does) . I just hate dark gloomy days myself; sounds like you do need a break however having a family can be a lot to deal with, I don't have kids but I do understand what you are going through; How about a good nap? I'm getting ready to go take one myself. maybe a good book to read? Listen to some music alone, or better yet if you have a tub go take a nice relaxing bubble bath, light some candles just pamper yourself a little bit and hang in there;
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• China
28 Sep 08
i don't link so,let's me help you my friend.
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
28 Sep 08
katsmeow1213, Sounds like you are having your period. (Chuckles) Anyway, just be selfish for once. Do whatever you want, I mean you can always go out once in a while with your natural beauty - no make ups and dress ups. Just be yourself and feel comfortable and most of all good about it and yourself. I am sure that your husband would be lovingly understanding here. Just say what you want to say and do what you want to do - for your are entitled to that once every month so make good use of it and have a ball of a time.
• United States
28 Sep 08
No, that's not the problem.. that just ended. I'm almost always going out with my natural beauty, that's why when I go somewhere important I try to wear make up. I have a hard time feeling confident without make up when I'm doing something aside from the usual. And as far as my hubby goes... he's always very understanding, regardless of the time of month. He's just a great guy. Thanks for the thought anyways.
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@gemini_rose (16264)
28 Sep 08
I get like this a lot, I think it comes from being at home such a lot with the kids all the time, well it does for me anyway. Sometimes along with the irritation I get this horrible feeling of being trapped, I feel like I have the four walls of the hours and that is it, it is a horrible feeling. Then I think to myself, I need to get out more, but I then have no where to go! There are no nice places to walk too where I live, when I feel like this there is nothing I can do except just hope that it passes soon.
• United States
28 Sep 08
I usually get in a better mood when my husband comes home, because then I at least have adult conversation. He always brings new excitement from the "outside" world to our conversations, lol. Of course his long hours make my moods last a lot longer than they should, and that's the part that gets hard to deal with.
@yenwie84 (1344)
• Malaysia
28 Sep 08
I experienced this situation before. Everything seemed not in the way I wanted them to be. I wanted to go out but no one to go with me. I wanted to spend money but I did no have extra to spend on. Everything had made me in bad mood. Normally when I experience this kind of mood swing,I will get my boyfriend to have some talks with me,we will go out to eat something and walk to look around just to relax our mind. If he is not free to accompany me,I will just buy some entertainment magazines to read,or surf some movies to watch to occupy my time. While reading or watching movie,I will get my favorite drink or some snacks. After all these,I will be cheer up. Lol.
• United States
28 Sep 08
Those are all good ways of cheering yourself up, but it's not as easy when you have children.
@camomom (7535)
• United States
28 Sep 08
i know exactly how you feel. i feel this way atleast once a week. i'm a stay at home mom and my fiance works 40 hours a week. i really don't have friends. the few that i do have or thought i had don't return my calls when i try to make plans. some have kids of their own so they can't just drop things to hang out with me. my best friend lives in another state. i wouldn't care about the rain, i'd go for a walk anyway. we are broke all the time so we can't go anywhere together either and also can never get a sitter. i just explain to him that i need to vent or need time alone. sometimes he'll listen to me b*tch other times he'll take the kids for a drive so i can relax. sometimes i'll wait until my youngest is asleep and the 2 oldest are both home to play with each other and i'll go take a shower to relax. i've also considered taking a drive to... well, nowhere... just a drive. sometimes with the kids because they usually quiet down in the car. sometimes i call my best friend to vent. i think its just a parent thing to feel this way. good luck
• United States
28 Sep 08
My husband works over 50 hours a week. I don't think my moods would be as bad if he didn't work such long hours. That's the hard part. There are times I have a few extra dollars to go do something alone, but I feel bad if I don't spend time with hubby since I get so little time with him.
@camomom (7535)
• United States
28 Sep 08
i still know how you feel. mine works 40 hours a week and does online work when he gets home. he also has a son from a previous marriage thats at our house everyday after school for a few hours so our time together is limited. i can't imagine him being away for 50 hours a week. atleast when he's online working i can still talk to him and see him. best of luck to us all that go through these same feelings.
• China
28 Sep 08
Life is not easy for everyone, but easier for optimistic ones. The words seems to be childish,maybe. Then why we build a family to have each other in our own life? Life is not easy so we need close parters. Maybe you just find a time to taik your good friends or your husbands about your probelms in suitable way. Talk about it!