Who appologises & convinces when there is argument between you & your partner?
By sivanj
@sivanj (1263)
India
September 29, 2008 1:19am CST
This is an important facet of marriage life. Arguments always keep happening. Sometimes the arguments may lead to ego issues and breakage in marriage bonds.
So here is the most important question which will help you access yourself in marriage life. After an argument, started by you or your partner, who will applologise. Who will try to convince or console the other person and bring back the mood int he home to normalcy?
I ask this question because there shall be no ego between life partners and even though one may have done something wrong, the other can just say sorry for arguing and when the mood normalizes can put forward in the mind of the partner in a polite manner. This shall be more appealing in building a better and smoother family life.
Do you agree? How do you handle such situations in your family?
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3 responses
@meticulo (1286)
• United States
29 Sep 08
I have experienced having to let pride rule over things. And it done no good. So I agree with you. Maybe the best thing to do is really talk about what are the problems and not letting it pass by without saying a word. Pride can sometimes break marriage bonds.So I guess either both partners should say sorry and convince the other if they will try to make the relationship work and last long.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
29 Sep 08
am always the one to apologise and convince in my marriage. My husband will sit in silence for days without saying a word to me. I cannot stand that so I always speak first, even if it is not my fault. I hate to argue.
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
29 Sep 08
After spending many years together one comes to know what is wrong with the better half. She just cannot hide her displeasure, once she gets angry. When I know my better half is annoyed I used all the tricks up in my sleeve to set her right or in your words to please her. My weak point is I just cannot see her annoyed with me and I'll try to find out the reaons for her annoyance with me and once I have reached to the bottom of the problem, I find out the ways to set her mood right. I do not mind 'surrendering' and going for an 'apology' if that makes her happy. For me relations are more important than my ego. And once I bring her back to the track, things become quite normal or as routine and usual. I do not find any problems in pleasing a person, if the fellow is annoyed with me. I am sure I have the temperament to settle the dust.
