How do you control your anger?

@limcyjain (3523)
India
October 2, 2008 12:03pm CST
One does get angry at times and during this time if one does not control oneself and try to find an amicable solution to the problems the ultimate results are bad. One needs to keep one's emotions under control and study the situation before taking steps on that particular issue. But i know it is easier said than done. I too sometimes feel that i should have remained calm especially when i get angry with my daughter when she does not study? How do you control yourself when you are angry or do you simply engage in to a fight and try to end the issue in your favour.
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31 responses
• Malaysia
5 Oct 08
I have similar situation. I can control well for the anger if that's job related issue but when it comes to educate my daughter, i have big problem. I believe that's because we love her so much and we don't want her to learn the bad things. Also, that's our responsibility to educate them properly. So the pressure for parent is really uncountable. For the situation, the last choice is cane. =P
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@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
3 Oct 08
I was able to control my emotions when i am mad. Usually i keep quiet for a while and avoid anything that could lead to confrontation. As much as possible i try to calm down myself by doing something or rest at my room for a while. I was able to handle my anger by doing that. And so far everything is good. We still cant avoid argument though but if i notice that the it will lead to a heated argument i usually change the topic or just let him talk and not say any word at all. Then when we are both fine and not anymore upset thats the time i started to clear things up so he will also hear my side.
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• Philippines
3 Oct 08
In my mind I count one to ten and then I'm done, all my worries and anger are gone by doing that!!
@munna007 (227)
• India
3 Oct 08
it seems that to count will be very dificult when we r in anger.......
• India
2 Oct 08
hi My way of controlling anger is somewhat typically Whenever i find reason to be angry, i remind myself that if i get angry it'll only shoot up my blood pressure and make me sick. And i'm really really sick of getting sick. So i cool down.
3 Oct 08
Same here. I try to control my anger by telling myself- opps, dont get angry, your grey hair will appear and soon you'll be old to look upon..lol. Yah, i do get angry especially with my children when they left things undone. But, basically, am not the type of person who will blow up like a bomb when i get angry. I just keep silent because if i'd say a word- you will really hate me, promise..so better be quite..
• India
5 Apr 10
Hi Jain i am a cool person, i don't get angry soon and easily, but once i am it is difficult to cool down, during my 44 years of teaching i have faced several student dada's (some nasty cheap politician behind him), dissatisfied junior staff, i could handle them.. It is best not to yell or argue with an angry person or mob, it helps.. Thanks for this nice post, cheers Happy easter Prof
• Canada
27 Nov 09
I know how it feels to be at the end of someone else's emotional problems, and this motivates me not to put someone else at the end of mine. When I get angry, I step back and think about what is going on. I know that it's better that I control the situation, than the situation controls me.
@ms1323 (259)
• United States
3 Oct 08
I am overall, a very calm person. having said that, my husband is the ultimate "button pusher." I have never met anyone in my life so intent on getting me upset. When we first started our relationship I fell for it, every time. Then I became aware of the fact that he was doing this intentionally, why? I have no idea. So then I stopped listening to him or would repeat whatever it was he said and he would feel rediculous. For the most part, he doesn't engage in this anymore, but sometimes... For anyone else, I shut my mouth, take a deep breath and walk away. When I come back I am much more in control and can form an articulate statement, argument, whatever, and discuss the issue w/o it blowing up into a fight.
• India
3 Oct 08
I like to sit alone for half an hour to control myself,if i get anger.
• United States
3 Oct 08
That's easy I think about the consequences. I have a good idea on what will happen to me if I am in prison. Even if I don't go to prison I will have to look behind by back. I don't want to live in fear.
@zola10 (49)
• Ukraine
3 Oct 08
patience is all one need to be able to control his or her anger.what get me angry may not be what will get you angey also. As for me when i say do and you don't that what gets me angey the most. but onething with me is that i can control anger no matter what.patience is the key to that, so if you lack that you have a lot of work to do.lol
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
3 Oct 08
I try to isolate myself, do something mindless like play solitaire games, while I think about and work through the issue. That allows me to approach it calmly and (hopefully) logically. With a teenage daughter, I play more games than I used to...
@despompa (472)
• Philippines
3 Oct 08
i think that it's impossible for you to say that you can always control your anger. even me, that's one thing that i always avoided. because i know my capacity as an individual how mad i can be. as much as possible, i wanted to go out and get some fresh air whenever i feel that the tension is really growing.i can be as bad as hell when im mad, but a good listener to friends. i just cant pretend to like someone i don't and im not good in hiding my emotions.
@yenwie84 (1345)
• Malaysia
3 Oct 08
I think the best way to control anger is by releasing it well and not burst out too aggressively. My way of controlling anger is by eating my favorite food or have a cold drink instead of scolding the person I am angry with for a long period of time,but of course at first I would scold that person to point out what is his or her mistake before I proceed with my ways. I like to drink cold drinks when I am angry to calm myself down or I will get myself some snacks. Lol.
• India
3 Oct 08
there is a famous quote given by aristotle on this..it goes like this..anyone can become angry but to be angry at the right time with right person for the right reason,that is not within the control of humans..i think there is nothing impossible in this world if we belive in that.we can avoid becoming angry.it comes by practice and patients..its always wise to be away from situations with make us angry rather than controling it..hope u understand what i mean...
@shana123 (2096)
• India
3 Oct 08
Hey the best remedy is to do some meditation , through that you can control your anger but for me nothing works out , i just gulp a glass of water or take deep breathe which really gives me some changes and i can quench my anger with that.I know im experiencing the same but then i can do it with these small tips..
@ddp_dev (184)
• India
3 Oct 08
you should not become angry because for you to say the thing loudly or say it softly it will take the same time . but by saying the thing loudly you are hurting the person.and also remember that it is very easy to become angry but very hard to say it softly.
@seeths (413)
3 Oct 08
Anger this is something there within everyone of us.To control ur anger try mediatation and this would really hel u.Now a days when I get angry I just try to chant some mantra for sometime and this has really helped me.Other alternative is that I think about my son his smiling face and that really helps me. Regards
@insulin (2480)
• Philippines
3 Oct 08
Well If I am angry or I got arguments with someone,I just easily tell him or her that I need to go for awhile because I know myself already..I mean I am the type of person that talk straight without knowing that the person I am talking is already hurt to much and because of that,Lots of people used to hate me but thank GOd,My bestfriend change me and he just said that just go far so that there will be no trouble and if I am not that high temper then its time to have a good conversation about the argument..:-0 GOd bless and have a nice day.:-0
@ersmommy1 (12596)
• United States
3 Oct 08
There is sometimes an argument. I can count to 10. Or I just leave the room. Then try and continue when I am calmer.
3 Oct 08
mostly i will remain silent ..........and i laugh at the situaton where i am supposed to be angry.....so i am always kool ....