forget and forgive?

Pakistan
October 5, 2008 1:57am CST
hello people.. hope all you are doing fine... well i have a question for you.. suppose you've been cheated by your friend, he/she hurt you alot... and this has a very deep impression on your life... everything revolved around that realtion... and you were true friends... just on a little fight he/she insulted you infront of everyone... and your friendship was over with that friend... even you tried to patch up but that person won't do that, because he/she found a new friend... will you forgive that friend and forget? or will you not forgive that person at all? (remember that you alwayz was tere for him/her, did everything to make that person happy, but that person insulted you infront of everyone)
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@SomeCowgirl (32219)
• United States
5 Oct 08
I think that I would be very much happy that I found out what kind of person they were before anything else happened to humiliate me, or perhaps something that would cause me to seek the law's help. After all, I did forgive and forgot, but they were cruel and did not wish to be my friend, when I myself should have not been the one to forgive so easily. I had friends that were really not friends at all, and looking back I am glad I learned from the, but also glad that I learned the bad things about them that caused me to stop being friends with them before I was hurt any worse. I hope that you have a happy day, and if you and your friend had fought and are not friends, I would say count your lucky stars!
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• Pakistan
5 Oct 08
thanx alot dude for responding... well i really feel lucky that those peoepl are no more my friends, but still i do not forgive them, i wish they suffer in life the way i did
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• India
5 Oct 08
Have faced a similar situation in my life!! So instead of telling as to what i'll do i'll tell u wat I did when such an inccident happened :) In the first place a true friend will never cheat u,so if someone does that remember,they are not a good friend. A friend shud scold u when u do something wrong when u r alone and praise u in front of everyone. Coming to d topic,definitely i'll not forget,will take things as an experience be it good or bad.If he/she realises and gets back i'll definitely not say a NO. But once u experience a break,even after we patch up,some distance will creep in.. I'll NOT FORGET WILL FORGIVE (Conditions apply :P)
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@dare2fail (495)
• Philippines
5 Oct 08
hi there. it would take time but i will forgive. it is much harder to move on with our lives when we have this baggage lagging us all the time. i guess it's easier that way. regardless we become friends or not again, i think there must be closure on issues, that way we would be fair not only to that person but also with our next set of friends. enjoy posting more discussions!
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• India
5 Oct 08
If my friend insulting in such a way I will near forget it , But i will never show my anger in front of him, I will keep it in mind, what to do as the Christ jesus and told to forget your neighbour sin we wan to follow his word also
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@chengbeb (285)
• Philippines
5 Oct 08
It's better to forgive and forget. If that person doesn't want to do the same then he/she wasn't a real friend. Yes, we all make mistakes but making mistakes just show that we are human. It may have made a deep impression in your life but it gave you a lesson to learn. So learn from that mistake. If he/she doesn't forgive you that's fine. He/She will live with that forever. You may have lost a friend but you've gained inner peace by forgiving that person.
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@snebxu66 (379)
• China
6 Oct 08
I will forget him if he treated me as you said, then move on with my life.
@celticeagle (124703)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Oct 08
It might take some time to forgive but I am relatively sure I would come to terms with it so I would forgive and then get on with it.
• United States
5 Oct 08
I think that if you love this friend, you can forgive. However, forgetting takes awhile. They have to earn the respect back. Over time, as your relationship grows back to what it used to be or possibly more, than the forgetting will automatically take place.
• Thailand
5 Oct 08
I've saw a signboard in a World War II memorial "Forgive but not Forget". Forgive, because you don't know the future. You don't know that some day in the next 10 years you might need help from this friend. So... be friend is better than be foe. Not forget, because you must remind yourself what your friend've done. And never let the history to repeat itselft.