Do you have a relationship with your childs boyfriend or girlfriend?

I don't have children, but I'd like to answer the other side of this question. I actually have no relationship with my in-laws at all. They were never very receptive of me. I was very shy and quiet and always afraid I was imposing on them whenever I went over their house when we were younger and my husband was still living there. I always tried to be as nice as possible. They worked from home, so I tried to stay out of the main room and stay in his bedroom so I didn't bother them. I always said thank you, I never asked for anything, I even spent a Thanksgiving cooking with his mother. They never really cared. They bonded to his younger brother's girlfriend who was rude and mean and yelled at them, stole from them and constantly came over without asking permission. I haven't seen them in over two years, they didn't even come to our wedding. I never want to see them again.

I do not have any children, yet. But it is great to know that you have such a good relationship with your son's girlfriend. She sounds like daughter-in-law material to me. I hope that everything works out right for them.

That's great that you're able to have a close relationship with your son's girlfriend, and that she opens up to you about anything and everything :) It was also nice for him to introduce you to her and her mom - sounds like a responsible kid your son! My son is only 6 and there is a girl that has a wee crush on him since Kindergarten and they are best of friends. Nothing to worry about but I hope that our relationship continues to remain open and that when he gets to that age, that we are able to share about anything and everything too :)

Very nice relationship. I wish I had this relationship with my boyfriend's mother too. My boyfriend's mother despises me. She always blames me if something bad happens to the grade of my boyfriend. She insists on me being a bad influence for her son. She did not even gave me a chance to know me well before judging me.

now you are really a sweet momma not everyone will accept the relation like that so easily you are goodhearted its really difficult to find people with such kind of thoughts and one who is so broadminded

That is great to hear. I myself am on the younger side, at 19 years of age I try to make it a habit to be in good standings with my girlfriends parents. After all, it is they who raised their daughter and I like to make sure that my plans are OK with the parents. It is also nice to talk to parents that are not your own about subject matters that are important. Also by being in a good relationship with the parents you get an idea of how they raised their kids and usually the kids will represent them later on. So if the parents were good and responsible, usually the child is the same.

I have tried to get to know my daughters ex-boyfriend but he was very distant. They are no longer together. I think it is nice to build some kind of relationship though.

Oh... when I have kids of my own, I would love to be able to be close to their significant other. It is rare that they are able to socialize well with you or your spouse. Cos to me, if they are the special one, and my kid is gonna be marrying them one they, I would love to be able to share my kids time with them. Even when their priorities have changed, there is no need to be isolated from each other. Therefore, given the chance to know them better before marriage, would be great! Most times, once the kids get hitched, they would like to escape to their own little world. Not making the effort to let their parents learn to know their significant other a little better. That is why we are always hearing stories of monster in-laws and unreasonable sons or daughters in-laws. This is due mainly to the miscommunication between them. Each are brought up with different customs and culture. And if not given time to be understood, there is bound to be conflicts. That is why it is good that your son's girlfriend is able to socialize with you well. Happy for you!

I wish I could say that I had a close relationship with my daughter's boyfriend's but that isn't too be. Maybe one day they will find an awesome boyfriend that I will be able to establish one with them. My oldest daughter has a daughter that is one and her daddy is in prison. My youngest daughter just found out yesterday that she is pregnant by a loser as well. So no chance of establishing a close relationship with either of them.

well seeing my daughters are only 13 an 15 not yet an hopefully not for a long time

wow! that is so great! i feel so envious because i cannot do that on my own because they don't like me...no good impression catches their heart...i hope i can do that...so far i am having a good bonding with my lil sister's boyfriend..he does the same thing..help me out with things and tell stories that i don't wanna know as well..

I'm only 21 and don't have kids, but I have a good relationship with my boyfriend's parents, and he does with mine too, but it's a bit different. I will sit down with my boyfriend's mum and have a cup of tea and a chat if my boyfriend's busy when I get to his house, I get on really well with her. My boyfriend moved two and a half hours north a few weeks ago and he picked me up on the way so I could help him move in, his parents went up later in the day, then made a massive detour on their way home a few days later to drop me back at my house. My parents really like my boyfriend, but they don't have quite the same relationship with him as I do with his parents. I see more of his parents than he sees of mine though, so I think that plays quite a big part in it.

great dear 34momma , lovely , and you are lucky . normally such relations are not to the fore in this part of the world!!even after a marriage the distances between the mother in law and daughter in law do not remain sweet! yes till or before marriage it may be possible in close knit families!!

Your relationship with your son is very frank and friendly.I think your son's girlfriend is very intelligent. Perhaps she is trying to make good relationship with her future mother-in-law.She is making clear her future.It is good for both of you.In general relatioship between mother-in-law and sister-in-law is not good. I got no chance to make relationship with my daughter's boyfriend. I'm a man. If so happend I would be delighted.