What age did you potty train your baby?

yz and potty train - this is my baby, yz sitting on her potty, waiting for her to pee. this potty is inside the room, the other one in the toilet
@babyfuzz (1078)
Philippines
October 9, 2008 11:46am CST
I have read in the book, the Baby Whisperer, that we can start potty training at 9 months since the baby can sit on their own and not later than 2 years old since the baby will be harder to manage at this age. You also need to be consistent since babies rely on routines. I started when she was 8 months since I have a yaya back then. But her yaya was like, No! You wait till she's 1 year old".. so we argue everytime about it. I stopped training her since she cries when I put her in the potty (the one that you put on top of the toilet bowl cover). I tried again after a week, but she's anxious about sitting on it. Whenever I pee or poop, I bring her in the toilet so she'll feel comfortable and get the idea. When she turned 1 year, she got used to sitting on it, but never peed. When I carry her and put her in the bath area, that's the time that she pees. it's funny and frustrating at the same time. I tried again, after a month or two, she was really peeing. She started talking straight then, but when she says, uh-uh, sometimes she already peed or pooped. So i put her in the potty every 20 or 30 minutes, and every time she wakes up. so I have two potty trainers. One is the small one that looks like a small chair, and the potty that you put in the toilet.
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@jarael (665)
10 Oct 08
i dont think there is a set age, it depends on the child. i disagree with that book a little cus at least if the child is older they can tell u they are needing the toilet. i know some 9 month old babies can talk but i still think its a little young to be potty training. my youngest was 15 months when she started, i got her a potty chair to get used to it and the very first day i bought it home she was using it. but then speech wise she was very bright and could tell me when she needed to go when out etc so, all was done in about a week. and she was dry at night at 2 and a half. she used to drink loads but only wee a few times in the day, was like she was letting it all out at night. my youngest showed no interest wat so ever, even at 2 if i sat her on the potty she would sit there for ages playing or reading a book, but then she would stand up and wee on the floor in front of it. so i waited until she was 2 and a half still no interest. i started panicking, not because i thought something was wrong with her, but because i had people nagging me saying ooh she should be dry by noow, mines was dry at such an age. but at the end of the day no matter how old they r they will do it when they are ready. its not just about timing, they also have to be emotionally ready. they need to realise the signs that they need a wee and also timing how quickly they need to get to the potty. this sometimes is a lot harder then managing to get them on the potty at the right time. my youngest was 3 and a half when she was finanally dry in the day, one day she was wettin the next i decided to try again and that was it. then a week later she was dry at night too. my eldest still had the odd accident up until the age of 4, but my youngest has only wet maybe twice in the day and has never wet the bed as yet.
@babyfuzz (1078)
• Philippines
18 Oct 08
No problem.. thanks also for your time sharing your experiences. good luck being a mommy! cheers! ^^v
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@babyfuzz (1078)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Thanks, jarael.. I think so too. I mean, of course children grow at their own pace. And like your kids, they're never the same. At the end of the book is the Chapter titled: Just when you think you've got it.. everything changes.. And so as the quote: Babies don't come in with instruction manuals. Every kid is different so we can't expect that if I did this to my first born, or to my nephew, that's how it should be with this one. I don't want to be ungrateful and thought as unrespectful to the elders, but comparing people especially kids is crap. Maybe my stinginess gets the better of me. Hubby always complains that her diapers depletes rapidly. haha! maybe that causes me the panic. thanks again, dearie!
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@jarael (665)
17 Oct 08
hiya, just posting to say thank you for the best response reward and this was a good discussion.
@mienkoos (95)
• Netherlands
10 Oct 08
I don't have a child of my own, but I do know something about potty training, because I work with children as a childpsychologist. I know (and have experienced) that it's better not to start to early with potty training, and not to make it a big deal if it doesn't work. Children go through stages at different times and you should not feel you're child is late because you heard about another child allready doing something. I noticed that a lot of parents who have problems with their child staying on the potty are surprised that their child is sitting on the potty if they see other children sitting on it. If a child is in a group then it's quite 'normal' for the child to do so. So I don't know if she's going to a daycare? If she does, you could have a chat with them to see if she can see other children going to the toilet there? The thing is: emphasise the nice things about going to the toilet. Maybe play with a doll (the doll is going on the potty, yeah! And she's doing peeing! Good girl!!). Not being mad if there is no pee, and being extremely glad if there is a pee.
@babyfuzz (1078)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Yes, I do that. We carry her fave doll or a new toy if she's uncomfortable or not in the mood to sit on her potty chair. I think she's doing a great job now. yeah, I guess you got me there. I used to compare my kid with other babies. and maybe because of the things I hear from the oldies, her grandparents, for example... "she should do this, she should be like this, at her age she should be"... But I don't care much. I know what she's capable of doing and she'll do it at her own pace. Thanks, mienkoos! ^^v
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• Netherlands
10 Oct 08
Probably if you're relaxed about it and don't stress her and yourself to much, it won't be a struggle, but a natural thing. And it's very important to enjoy these steps she'll take on her own time. Because there will come a lot of more steps to take! And don't mind all the people having an opinion (I'm having one now too, I know, hihi! ;) ). Trust the natural interest in learning your daughter has, she's going to be fine.
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@babyfuzz (1078)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Yes, I know. Thanks again, mienkoos. I'm enjoying every step of the way. ^^v
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@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
10 Oct 08
9 months is really too young, sure there may be babies that can do it, but on average that is way to young. You should wait until the baby shows signs of rediness like being uncomfortable in wet diapers. At 8 months old she is way to young to even comprehend what you are doing. Children should be able to walk before they are expected to use the pooty, they should also be able to talk and understand what it is you are expecting of them. Honestly I don't know where the author of that book is getting their information from. Most people don't start training until the child is 1 1/2 and with some children 2 years old. It really depends on the child. It took several months to train my sons. It took only a couple of weeks to train my daughter, but the boys were very hard, and if they don't want to to or they don't they don't think they are ready they will not do it. Honestly I think at just one years old or even younger you are being overly optimistic. They have to at least be old enough to have some understanding of what you are expecting of them, and under 1 year of age you should not expect much of them, they are trying to learn more basic things at that age.
@babyfuzz (1078)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
To each his own I guess. Maybe like I quoted, the author of the book is avoiding the No-no stage, and that's the age 2. But still she says that we should wait for the signs and most especially if the kid can walk, sitd and stand alone. Well maybe that's why it's called training. You train the kids to do a certain thing and not wait for them to do it alone. Maybe I'm just pressured because of the elders, neighbors, or what I read from books and the net. thank you, ladym! ^^v
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@jccjr5 (62)
• United States
10 Oct 08
The problem with trying to train so young is that they just don't understand what you are doing so in turn they are getting frustrated. There is no reason to push these things. Girls tend to train faster than boys. My daughter was 18 mo old when I first started and she understood what was going on but was just not ready. I waited a month or so and tried again. By the time she was two she was completely done and had very few accidents. My sons on the other hand were different. My middle son was 2 1/2 and my youngest was nearly 3. I was very ready for him to be done, I had been changing diapers for 5 years straight without a break!! Whatever you do don't force her or it will be more frustrating and more work for the both of you. Taking her to the potty every 20-30 minutes will start to wear on the both of you and may turn her off of the potty. When it is time, you will be surprised how easily it happens. I would keep the potty chair in your bathroom and let her come in with you if she follows.
@babyfuzz (1078)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
yeah, you have a point there, jccjr5. As for now, she's getting used to it and she knows the tingling feeling and tells me if she's gonna go. I am proud of her at times, and yeah, I get frustrated when she already peed on her panty/diaper. No harm done, though. Soon I know she'll do it the right way. ^^v
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@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
My baby is not born yet but i might try doing the same training when the baby reach 1 year old. I am afraid that if i did that when the baby is still 8 months i might hurt the baby. Glad that you posted this discussion it gives me an idea on at what age my baby should be train to poop and pee in a potty.
@babyfuzz (1078)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Hey, belk! Good luck being a mommy. Yeah, I think I had one topic like this before, but not much commented. This is a very perfect timing for me too. Have you read all their comments here? Very interesting, aren't they? Don't worry, we got your back. We'll share everything we know. Just don't forget that babies are different. We can't expect them to be angels now and forever. They change so fast. Like they say, Just when you think you've got it... everything changes.. ^^v Congratulations! ^^v
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@chaska (170)
• United States
10 Oct 08
It all depends on the child. The child usually gives you signs that they are ready to learn. My kids both seemed to start giving me signs at about 15 months or so. They would sometimes take their diaper off when it was wet or they would tell me they were wet. they mastered it after they were 2 but currently my 3 year old still wears a pull up to bed at night she has some bedwetting still.
@babyfuzz (1078)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Hi, chaska! Wow, that's great! At least that saves you a lot of time and money. Like they say, don't sweat it. They will soon learn. Bedwetting at 3 I think is normal. I'm just excited to see her sleep without diapers. Maybe because what I hear from other people, adults mostly, especially since disposable diapers weren't that popular during their times. And yeah, I don't want to get used to diapers, may they be disposable or the washable ones. When we are in the living room, I let her on her panties only. But still she does pee on it. Sometimes when she feels the urge, she tells me she wants to go. ^^v
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@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
9 Oct 08
I think that 9 months old is way too young to start potty training. My oldest son trained at 16 months and that was early (I thought). Most parents in my area start trying to train them when they turn 2 in hopes that they are completely trained by the age of 21/2. All of my other children were trained when they were 2, but I started at about 1 1/2 because they were interested in it due to having an older brother who went on the potty. I always used potty chairs that didn't go on the toilet...I had to empty it into the potty.
@babyfuzz (1078)
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
Yes, I think so, too. That's a good sign that they are ready to be trained. At least they are the ones who are interested. You don't need to pull them into the bathroom/potty chair just to eliminate. ^^v They say it's also about the kid's development. I'm not in a hurry though, I want her to learn at her own pace. It's funny and challenging, and at the same time it gives me fulfillment.
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@heaven11 (1159)
• United States
9 Oct 08
Hi babyfuzz I started with both of mine at about 15 months my daughter was comoletly trained by 18 months and my son by 2 the thing you have to look for is the signs is she pulling or taking her diaper off after using the bathroom does she go 2 hours with a dry diaper ect Its really no rush yes its more convient for us as parents but doctors say they are fin up until 3 they say if there not potty trained by 3 then it will be very diffucult from 3-4 not sure why just give her time shell get there goodluck
@babyfuzz (1078)
• Philippines
9 Oct 08
Yeah, everyday is a challenge. The first few days that she actually pees in her potty, we are really excited. She calls, "daddy!" as if boasting (hey, look at me! I'm actually using my potty!) I'm not really in a hurry. My mom told me she potty trained us when I was 3. Imagine? I think that's all right during those times because there's not much interruptions. Unlike now, the baby wants to play and don't want to be bothered. So potty train is not on her list. Unless you make it fun for them. She already talks. She tells me, "mommy, uh-uh!" sometimes I don't wait for her to say that. At least now, she gets the idea and knows that feeling in her tummy that she needs to eliminate. ^^v
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• Pakistan
10 Oct 08
hi u r a big baby
@babyfuzz (1078)
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
Hi, nomi_shomi.. what do you mean? ^^v
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