What would you do for your perfect spouse?

Sheepie, a large part of what would make her my perfect spouse would be that she accepts me for what I am and doesn't see a need to change me, and that she shares my morality and so wouldn't be asking me to do anything against it, like murder someone. There is always a prioe to pay. For me it would be giving up the solitude I so love, and having to (because I loved her) consider somebody else's needs as much as my own, which is a real price for me because I'm as self-centred as a gyroscope. Everyone has to give up something to become part of a relationship. Lash

I certainly wouldn't change my beliefs, my name or kill. If he is perfect, he might be worth $5. I wouldn't change my name because of my children, even though they're adults. Our name is one of the things we share. You know, maybe I wouldn't want the guy. I'm happy as I am right now and don't want to change. If he were perfect for me, maybe the changes would be worth it but somehow changing my life for someone doesn't indicate to me that he's perfect. Besides, I like the toilet lid staying down and the floor around it being clean!

Is there such a thing out there these days? I would not pay for a spouse for anything. I would and have changed my name for my husband. I would not change my beliefs or kill. The only price I would ever pay, is to help with our bills.

I would move a very long way to be with him! And, I did! Happy to have done that.

I actually do have my perfect spouse and he asked nothing of me that I was not prepared to give. There is always a price to pay in a relationship and that it to learn to share your life and to be willing to consider and accommodate your spouses needs. I had already learned some important lessons in my previous relationships so I new that you cannot change someone so you choose someone you like and you accept him as he is or move on. I have no wish to change my partner and I am perfectly comfortable with our relationship.

Hi Sheepie, I rather not do all those things you mentioned for the perfect, but I would just change my name as if I married him I would have to anyway, but there is no such thing as a perfect person. Tamara

I seriously considered the question of killing twice, all because of my spouse which got me thinking. This is not a good thing and maybe there is something seriously wrong with my perfect spouse. I loved her with a love which was more than love that I think God became jealous and gave me problems. Cheers!!

i don't think there is such a thing as a perfect spouse or a perfect person period.

Well, if they were perfect for me, they'd never ask or even WANT me to change my name or my beliefs. I wouldn't kill for anyone and anyone who did would not be my perfect partner. The perfect partner for anyone would be free of charge. Remember, if they are perfect for me, I am also perfect for them. If money were to change hands, it would be an equal exchange.

I did change my name when I married my husband (that didn't worry me at all) - and at the time I might have been willing to change my beliefs, but I'm not sure I'd do it now. I definitely wouldn't kill - and I doubt I'd pay money, either - hahaha! I don't think ANY spouse is perfect ... and I'm certainly not, so maybe my husband would like a refund!