"You Cant Eat That" You Are A Diabetic?!!!!!

@Hatley (164266)
Garden Grove, California
October 9, 2008 11:35pm CST
hi for all my diabetic friends and friends of diabetics, do you ever start to eat something only to have a friend yell, You cant eat that? Doesnt it really irk you to have someone question your right to eat whatever it is that they are yelling about? To me it says you dont know what you're doing so I have to save you. Now if I was pigging out on candy or ice cream, ordrinking a soft drinkI could understand.But I was not. this was a dish of fruit. I just said ,why yes, I can have this and I am going to enjoy it. I do know what I am doing. this i can eat with my dietiticans blessings.What is your intake on this? Dont you feel your relatives and friends should trust you and your doctor to know what you can eat?
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@fwidman (11515)
• United States
10 Oct 08
I suppose it would be nice of them to be thinking about what you can or cannot have, but, on the flip side, they really should trust your judgement
@Hatley (164266)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Oct 08
hi fwidman oh they do mean well but they do not know all the changes in the last few years as to what we can and cannot eat so yes they really should trust our judgment. We can even have some sugar in our desserts and eat some ice cream, its just a matter of portion control and carb control. We check our blood glucose several times a day so we know how various foods affect us, and thus we know what we can eat ,and what we cannot eat. glucometers have made life so much better for all diabetics now.
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@fwidman (11515)
• United States
10 Oct 08
Advances have, indeed, made life easier for diabetics
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@Hatley (164266)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Sep 09
hi fwidman sometimes its nice but really we know ourown disease'better than anyone else and what we can and cannot eat.
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
10 Oct 08
I think everyone should trust you and your doctors judgement also when it comes to what you eat. You know what you can handle and what you can't.
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@Hatley (164266)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Oct 08
hi stephcjh right on, most of us worked hard to get control and just want to sit down and enjoy what is okay for us to eat. We do know what we can handle. but a lot of friends and relatives sometimes need to be educated a bit.
• Philippines
26 Sep 09
Sometimes other people behind us acts like they were much better than our doctors... so funny but its true. As a diabetic patient, we must know our limitations when it comes to diet or else we die earlier.
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@Hatley (164266)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Oct 09
hi you are so right we have to educate ourselves and work'with our doctor and nurse diabetes educator, and know just what we can eat then trust others to not interfere hopefully.
@juhi06 (1850)
• India
10 Oct 08
well they yell and tell only for the benefit of the diabetic patients and their dear ones!! and definitely for them selves!!
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@Hatley (164266)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Oct 08
juhio6 no its not for the benefit of the diabetic patient as they havent a clue as to what we can and cannot eat.You are assuming we do not take care of ourselves which is a crock. most of us have had diabetes for years and we know what we can eat and cannot eat, we have medical supervision, we have nutritionists and we should damned well be treated as having common sense.Dont tell a diabetic what he or she can eat, as she knows mujch better than you what she can eat. Most of you non diabetics still have info that has been disproven in the last couple of years.We can even eat desserts that have some sugar in them and even ice cream. read up on the latest info on diabetes before you make rash statements about it.Most of us you would not know we have diabetes unless you ask us or someone tell you about it.this is 2008 not 1900 by the way.
@Hatley (164266)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Oct 09
the people who tell us what we should eat have no more'sense than billy goats, for we already know what we can and cannot' handle. so I am so tempted to say will you just trust me that' I do know what I am doing?
• United States
10 Oct 08
i take care of my 84 year old grandmother. who is a diabetic. she is also stubborn and always "right" lol! she hates doing what the doctor tells her to, so its up to me to either convince her or slowly nudge her into eating/doing the things she needs to eat or vice versa..stay away from things she should not be eating. of course i also respect the fact that she is a woman grown, not a child, aware of how her body is responding to things (even IF she claims its cause she ate a piece of celery and she's sure its NOT the medication making a difference ::sigh::) since i make the shopping list, i try to limit the types of things that are in the house and have plenty of the good stuff..like fruits and veggies. when she does get an eye on something that is too sweet i subtly mention for her to make sure to check her sugar level after eating that, cause it might kick it up pretty high..and that usually makes her think about it lol. it never actually deters her from eating whatever the sweet might be, but she will severely cut the portion..which i figure is the best i can do right?
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@Hatley (164266)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Oct 08
hi cinder in my soul the best is all we any of us can do,its hard to care for an elderly person with diabetes,I care for myself and have learned just what I can eat and cant because I check my glucose levels before and after eating.
@zandi458 (27951)
• Malaysia
10 Oct 08
It is a common saying 'you are what you eat'. So it goes to say that whatever we put in, we have to be accountable for the reaction of the food to our body. My mom who is allergic to most kind of nuts and seafoods has avoided eating this stuff and of late she has become phobia to all kind of food even chicken is no longer in her diet. She has deprived herself of almost all nutrient giving food and live mostly on plain rice broth. It didn't take her long to become anemic and was hospitalised due to her low blood count. Due to this incident she is slowly accepting food that she would not take before. Others can only give out their opinions but it is up to us to analyse what food is good or not good for us. We are our best dietician who can conform to our body needs.
@Hatley (164266)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Oct 08
hi zandi you are so right we are our own best dieticians
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
10 Oct 08
Hi hatley, Yes you are so right! I'm sure it is rather annoying when people butt into your business and say things like that to you. Don't they understand that you know what you are doing and what you should and should not eat by now. It must be really frustrating to have to hear this from others time and time again. I now how difficult it is to be a diabetic to begin with. I have know quite a few diabetics and how difficult it was for them to watch every little thing that they ate and all the things that they had to give up and the last thing that they wanted to hear was people telling them what they could or could not eat. So I'm sure that is the very last thing that you want to have people saying to you.
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@Hatley (164266)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Oct 08
hi opal right on we really try to learn how to eat and care for ourselves so we can lead happy and productive lives.
• United States
10 Oct 08
Hatley, why do people seem to think they know better than we do what's right for us? One of the women I have lunch with examines my lunch every day to be sure I have no sugar. Since my jaw's been dislocated and I can't eat, she's really frustrated, because she doesn't know what's in the smoothie in my thermos! She makes a big show of telling everyoe she can't eat this or that because she doesn't want to become diabetic and suffer as I do. I don't. I've been diabetic for so long, I sort of automatically know what I need to do, and I do it. No fanfare is necessary. It's not suffering, by any means.
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@Hatley (164266)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Oct 08
hi cobra teacher oh thats really funny, I wonder if she could 'get ahold of some of your smoothie she would go get it analyzed to see whats in it.lol.And the darned suffer part,I hear that a lot too. I have also been a diabetic for so long too that I know just what Ican do and cant, and I am doing just fine. I too am not suffering at all. If I am still doing great at 82 then diabetes is not the horrible killer people think it is, if you just learn to eat properly and to enjoy each day as it comes.Of course if you refuse to learn how to care for yourself then you can get really ill.But most people dont do that anymore, we care for ourselves and live a normal life, and even have fun.In fact if your worried woman colleague stresses so about what she cant eat she could stress herself into the very disease shes so worried about.lol for sure.Stress will raise your blood sugar like crazy.
@mojcica (1512)
• Slovenia
10 Oct 08
As a diabetic you shouldnt eat too many fruits (especially not sweet fruits like grapes for example) but that doesnt mean you shouldnt have any fruits at all. Its like saying you shouldnt enjoy a candy if you really feel like it. You shouldnt overdo it of course, which I doubt you did. To react in such a way like your friends did its a bit extreme. A reasonable diet is important, but noone can stick to a diet if its too strickt. I am no diabetic my self, but my father has been for over 30 years, so I have quite some idea whats it about :)
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@Hatley (164266)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Oct 08
hi mojcica I know all about fruit, I have had diabetes for many many years, so have le arned just what I can eat, and how much I c an eat, so nobody need try to tell me what I c an or cannot have as they dont know my body or anything about diabetes
@mojcica (1512)
• Slovenia
11 Oct 08
I agree with that! If you have your diabetes under control then they had no business sticking their nose into it. But still, they did it because they care for you ;) What happend at my house was that my father just wouldnt care for it,he refused to take medicine, or sticking to a diet. His sugar level was 28 the highest (dont know if you have the same levels there..anyways the higher border of normal level is 6,1) and still he wouldnt do anything about it. He was ok for few months and then just stopped with medicines, of course we all went crazy when he did that. He regrets it now, because at the age of 58 he has so many health issues, because of his uncontroled diabetes. He wouldnt even be alive anymore if his body wasnt that strong...he is lucky in that way, but if the strongest fall at the end. Now he is taking diabetes seriously and takes care of himself, but if started at least 10y before, he'd be better now and his life wouldnt be so limited as it is now, due to all the problems. I am sorry for him but there really isnt anything we could do, afterall you cant force people into taking care of themselves.
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@Hatley (164266)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Sep 09
moj cica hi 11 months later I know more than ever what foods IU can eat and what I cannot and I do not let other people fuss withme over my choices. I s ay so you know more than my doctor or my diabetes educator? if not then leave me the heck alone.
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
10 Oct 08
One of the very reasons why I decided to back off when it came to my husband and his Type 2 Diabetes. I was constantly getting in his face about his food choices, his smoking, this and that and after I joined a online Diabetes group to learn more about it, and to help him start to focus on his diet and sorts, one of the moderators, even though nice, gave me the hard word and pretty much said to me to back off and let him make his choices. He is an adult and knows what he has to do to get this under control. I appreciated her comment and needed to hear it, so I backed off. Nothing much has changed. He's put more weight on, considers walking to the metro and to his office exercise (10-15 mins), and has not quit smoking. He stopped checking his blood glucose a couple of months ago and after a very hard word from his recent check up from his doctor, he is now checking his BGs. His eye sight is deteriorating, he's lethargic and just looks sick to me. I've given him lots of encouragement, went along with him to his Diabetes Education workshops, cleaned out the cupboards and got rid of the bad foods, and now trying to stick to a more healthy diet. I've encouraged him to try the Nicotine patch, even the gum and if he didn't want to, to ask his doctor at the last checkup for help. He didn't ask. It really hurts to not see him try and even though I've told him how I feel, all he says is that "You and Maddy will be taken care of." WTH?!? Aargh, I am frustrated and don't know what to do. Sorry for going off on a tangent - I might just make a discussion out of my reply. Thanks for letting me vent Hatley :)
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• United States
10 Oct 08
I saw your response to a post that I too responded to. I know your stress and pain because I too have been there. My response is number 16 on the list. Please take the time to read it. I am not connected with any health organization or supplier of any health equipment. I am just a Wife, Mother and Aunt of Diabetics.Please feel free to keep in touch with me if you would like God Bless and Good Luck Theresa
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@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
10 Oct 08
Thanks for your comment and I will go and read your post. I appreciate your support. Rachel.
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@Hatley (164266)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Oct 09
hi oh my you are indeed having trouble with your hubby'You know I think diabetes is harder on men and some men will not admit' they even have it, while we women tend to try to take good'care of ourselves. I think it is an ego thing or a macho thing,as if they are less as a man if they admit they have diabetes and will eat correctly and exercise . I have seen this in the diabetes group that I belonged to , the women were doing well but a lot of men absolutely were balking at doing the things that would make them feel better, they would the wrong stuff then come to the meeting and complain about feeling lousy.You do need someone or something to break through to him he has to take this seriously, and smoking oh God that killed myhubby,it got his heart. I hope this 11 month late comment finds you and your hubby in a better situation.treated we can live long happy lives but do like your hubby is doing, will kill him. good luck.
@balasri (26549)
• India
11 Oct 08
May be they don't know that we know what we are doing.They yell for different reasons.I.Out of concern for you. 2.To derive a sadistic pleasure of not letting you eat things they can indulge.3.To show off their medical knowledge about diabetes and drag you in to their boring speech on diabetes maintenance.Well I have come across all kinds of these people.Ijust take them with a pinch of smile.
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@Hatley (164266)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Sep 09
hi balasri right but I did know what i was doing as I had 'studied and learned.this is 11 months later. some still'try to 'tell me they know better than I do. wah.
@balasri (26549)
• India
4 Sep 09
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
13 Oct 08
I was diagnosed as a borderline diabetic some 13 years ago...they told me to control it with diet...no sweets, very few breads and no soda. I quit drinking sweet tea and soda and got used to water. I cut out cakes, candies, cookies, doughnuts and only occasionally have a piece of pie. I look for sugar free candies or (and here's a trick) if I have regular candy I drink 2-3 bottles of water with it. The water washes it through your system faster so it doesn't get the chance to let the sugars soak into your system. I've managed over the last 13 years to control it...without any medication. The way I see it when the time comes that I really do need the medication, it'll still be an option. As for ppl telling me what I can and can't have, most ppl around me know that I control mine on my own...if anything they are always offering me doughnuts, cookies and such and I have to be strong and tell them no. [b]~~IN SEARCH OF PEACE WITHIN~~ **AGAINST THE STORMS, I WILL STAND STRONG** [/b]
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@Hatley (164266)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Sep 09
hi twoey 68 I went through that when i was first diagnosed'and my mom was the worst, always trying to get me to eat something that' was not good for me. 11 months later
• United States
11 Oct 08
My mom is diabetic, and she knows what she can have and can't have. However, there will be times when she accidentally slips up and has something small that she shouldn't. That's okay. She's only human. If I feel that it's something that'll mess her up, I will let her know my concern. She doesn't trust doctors (and there's a good long story why), and so, she trusts what her body does. If her body tells her that she can or can't have it, she'll listen. So far, she hasn't had to go back to a doctor since being diagnosed 2-3 years ago. Then again, she must have some super human powers that I apparently didn't inherit.
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@Hatley (164266)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Sep 09
hi irish rose some doctors do more harm than good,thank goodness i lucked out with mine. I go to have a diabetic checkup about ev ery'six months or sometimes 4 months.
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
11 Oct 08
I don't think anybody has the right to get all over somebody else for what they eat or drink (or choose to read, watch, listen to, or wear). Even if it is not a HEALTHY choice, it is still up to the person to make that choice, don't you agree? I don't even think you have to explain that you know what you're doing. You don't have to prove anything to someone else. I feel people should trust each other that other people make the best choices for themselves and you make the best choice for you.
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@Hatley (164266)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Sep 09
hi mommy boo 11 months later yes they should trust us'as we have been diabetics for a long time and we learn from' our medical team all about food and everything else pertaining to diabetes.
@annjilena (5620)
• United States
11 Oct 08
i pretty much have what i want within moderation i dont eat a lot of sweets but i do have my fruit and within moderation you can have it.i hate diabetes this disease is a scary one there are days i don,t feel well maybe from something i have eaten.i have lost so much weight from this disease i lost 75 pounds at one time i was gaining a lot of weight i didn,t know why it changed and now my weight is ok iam losing about 2 pounds a month.i had this all my life but wasn,t treated until i was in my late 30.
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@Hatley (164266)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Sep 09
annjilena hi 11 months later I can also eat most anything in moderation as long as I leave out sweets and sweet desserts. You must have type 1 and that often causes you to lose weight'until you are diagnosed and put on insulin. I am type 2 noninsulin using diabetic and i was and still am overweight.
• United States
10 Oct 08
Yes! I do know people like that. I'm overweight, not diabetic and the same people that yell at you over your food choices are the ones who tsk tsk me over pasta. They compare low fat pasta with icecream and the two are NOT the same. They don't understand that any healthy food in small portions is alright to eat. And, it's smarter to eat a little healthy food (though high carb) when feeling hungry than to wait until cookies are the only other option! Thanks for your discussion.
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@Hatley (164266)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Sep 09
11 months later beauty queen yes you have had the same problems'as I have they just do not think we have any brains. you are so right any healthy food in small portions is good for you.
@cripfemme (7713)
• United States
10 Oct 08
I am not diabetic but people tell me what to eat because I'm bigger than you're allegedly supposed to be. More often than not this doesn't work out for them because I will just eat what I want to anyway just to spite them. So they had no gain by making this assertion. In fact, it resulted in behavior they didn't want. However, as stubborn as we tend to be about what we eat, especially if you're from certain cultures, we should also respect people who are trying to help us but you can do that without being annoying.
@Hatley (164266)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Oct 08
hi cripfemme dont you really hate it when they do that but like you say one can respect the person anyway.
@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
10 Oct 08
Yes, it definitely irritates me. My blood sugar is usually controlled quite well with medications. Thanks to that I AM able to eat candy, or sweets, in moderation. But other people only know I'm diabetic - and think they know more than me. It frustrates me to no end to have others think they should be the food police and tell me what I should or should not eat. I'm 49 years old for goodness sakes, I can surely determine what I can or cannot eat!!!
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@Hatley (164266)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Oct 08
hitesswhite thats it exactly, the food police, I have been a diabetic since I was fify five and am now eighty one so I must be doing something right. so I really dislike it when someone tries to tell me I cannot eat something I know I can eat.
• Philippines
10 Oct 08
My mom is a diabetic and she eats what she likes although she knows her limit. She said if she will follow all what she would not eat, she will starve. She also think that she knows her body better. Up until now, her blood sugar is under control and that is what really matters. She religiously takes her medicines and I think that helped her control her sugar level.
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@Hatley (164266)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Oct 08
hi yellow paisley thats the big point to keepyour blood'glucose under control, and check your b g at least four times a day. I know what I can eat and what I cant and how much I can eat too. so nobody needs to worry about me.
@ronaldinu (12439)
• Malta
10 Oct 08
I am not diabetic but my father in law is. He is strict when it comes to food intake. So there is no need to be vigilant on him. If I were a diabetic I would be irked if someone tells me what I can eat or not. But deep within down I would feel thankful to be surrounded by people who care about my health
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@Hatley (164266)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Oct 08
hi ronaldinu yes I do feel grateful for the people who care but still get irked as I am so careful with what I eat, and do know what I am doing.
• United States
10 Oct 08
Aww--- well...I think your friend was just so concern about your health though. However next time he or she shouldn't yell at you. She/ he could just grab you politely and say,"Are you sure you are allowed to eat that?" This is a good way to initiate and putting her/his concern towards you, not to yell in front of many others. Yeah, you are so responsible about your own health though and you know what's right or not right for you. You know what is complicated or not. Take care!
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@Hatley (164266)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Sep 09
blog8withJ I already knew from talks with my dietician what foods I could eat and not and thus knew much more than the people who seemed to think they knew more thatn the dieticain.