After 8 months why do i still miss my Ex?

United States
October 13, 2008 7:43pm CST
We dated for 2 years. She broke up with me because she found another guy.I guess i wasn't good enough. The problem is i can't get over her.No matter how many girls likes me, i just don't care.I want to know why do i still miss her so much.Right after we broke up she dated her so called bf now.Right now...i think about her less n less but i still miss her.Can anyone help?
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@ronaldinu (12439)
• Malta
8 Nov 08
It does not mean that you split up that you were not good enough. Perhaps you were not mean for each other. Sometimes it is a blessing in disguise even at that time it is very hard to understand. go out and date other girls. © ronaldinu 2008
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@Unah08 (671)
• Philippines
14 Jun 10
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@subha12 (18450)
• India
14 Oct 08
It is because you still love her. may be she has left you, but deep down your heart the love is still there. so you miss her.
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• India
16 Jun 10
It has nothing to do with love
@JOIEMARVIC (2341)
• Philippines
14 Oct 08
Sorry to hear that,but i guess the very first thing you should do is to let go.Acceptance.try to accept the fact that the girl has a new one.her life is long been moving on,and your stuck there missing her.Dont let yourself be miserable.Accept that she is not your girl anymore.Then learn to let go.All of the memories,the sad and happy ones.Dont think about her or anthing that leads to her.She already has a life,you should also have to make one to.And as an advice,dont go jumping from one girl to another just to foget about her.Just forget about her.She did that to you.Why dont you do the same?Stay cool,focus on other things,on your studies or your work.Do something creative or recreational.Engage yourself into spports.Slowly,you can forget about her.As you move on,try to love yourself.When you have ompletely love yourself,love,the one that is really meant for you will find its way. goodluck! welcome to mylot!
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@annjilena (5620)
• United States
14 Oct 08
hi pie, sorry about your break up its not that you wasn,t good enough for her,it,s her lost that she don,t have you, the reason you can,t get over her when you are with someone else is because you are not over her yet you haven,t given any girl you dated a chance to really be with you.if you try you may just get over her.she have moved on. anytime you are rejected by someone you have those feeling strong for that person thats rejected you.this is a natural response focus on something else it will help you get over her,if not another girl find a sport are some sort of hobbie to take your mind off her. you have a bless day.
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14 Oct 08
find religion it helps sooth the pain
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• India
16 Jun 10
Hello, I am addressing your question directly. Its not because you still love her. Its just because when she left you were extremely humiliated. Probably you loved her, and the fact that she didn't respect your love is bugging you more than anything else. You are probably thinking, how shameless and ungrateful someone can be. After all that you did to her she gathered up the courage to forsake your love. You can't get over her because she turned you upside down when she went and shattered your self esteem. You are wounded severely and that is exactly why you still think about her. You had no slightest hint that she was gonna do this to you. You are shocked and its quite normal to undergo this phase. If you think, my interpretation is correct, then just let me know and I will tell you secrets to get over her completely. I will be more than happy if I can restore your life. Thanks God bless you
@indahfth (11169)
• Indonesia
14 Jun 10
It's hard to forget the people who have been with you and so you are loved. But try to look busy and try to know a lot of female friends. At some point you will definitely find better than your ex.
• India
14 Jun 10
Firstly my dear friend stop blamming yourself. The reason you are you are not able to forget her is because you feel guilty of broke up of your relationship and also your love was true towards her. Time is good healer. Spent time with your friends. Enjoy life slowly you will forget her. Remember, you a unique creation of God and you are best. You will defintely get a beautiful understanding girl. She will give you true love.Stop worring or stop forcing yourself to forget her.Be happy.
@juggerogre (1658)
• Philippines
14 Jun 10
Maybe you haven't found someone that's a lot better than her. Or you are so blinded by your love to your ex that you haven't realize that a better person is already near or in front of you. Just move on. Date anyone. Don't just ignore them. Then time will come that you will already get over her.
@_Honey_ (781)
• Philippines
14 Jun 10
Hello. I am sorry to hear about the heartbreak you can't get over with. I assume that you really loved her so it was very hard for you to move on. But that's okay. It really happens. It may be slow but aren't you glad to realize that you think of her less and less everyday now? At least, you're moving no matter how slow or gradual it is. I remember breaking up with my first boyfriend for almost three years. It took me almost three years to forget about him. But I think it's a matter of choice. Give yourself a chance to explore how beautiful life is. Enjoy your job, meet new people and there you'll see that there are many wonderful people in this world. You'll realize that you deserve someone so much better and you'll realize that you have so much to work on yourself as well. I wish you good luck, happiness and all the love in the world.
@jinjer168 (1598)
• Philippines
14 Jun 10
Hello there! Maybe you still love her. Two years is two years, quite long enough to build a good relationship between you and your ex. Maybe its time for you to move on and search for another girl to love so you could get over with her and start to have a new life with another person. Your ex is happy now with her current life and bf so better start another relationship once more. Good luck!
@laydee (12809)
• Philippines
14 Jun 10
I think that is common. It's been 8months still, I couldn't recover till about 2years more or less. But, it doesn't have to be that way. My brother once told me when I asked him why he could get over the girls quickly even if they've been together for several years (more than 2years). He just told me, "whenever you think about the good stuff, you will miss her. But if you start thinking about the bad things she has done to you, the longing just vanishes." I think you're just thinking too much about the happy times. That's why you cannot get over her. But, try thinking about how stupid you felt when she left you for someone else. The bad habits she has. Everything about her that's bad. Soon, you'll be turned-off and eventually move on. Remember, don't mope around for someone who isn't sorry that you're no longer together. For all we know, she doesn't even remember you name.
@mokkka (883)
• Bulgaria
6 Jun 10
There is no way that you forget her.You have spend a long time together so you will always remember her and recall of some things you uesed to do together.The only way of not thinking about her is to fall in love with another girl.You won't of course forget about your ex but your new love will give you emotions which will make you live your today's life and not think about your past one.
• India
6 Jun 10
Sorry to learn about the breakup, but you miss that shows the love is still there and it is pure nonselfish real love, hope you get her back soon.. Thanks for sharing. Welcome always. Cheers. Prof
@jlamela (4906)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
Hello there,you still miss her maybe because you have no proper closure on the relationship, or maybe you are still clinging to some hopes that you gonna get back together, or maybe simply you really love here, the feeling is genuine. But because she is too preoccupied somewhere else, you really have to move on, I know this is a difficult move but this is the only way to cure emptiness. There are lots of things which can help you cope up with lost love: engaged in physical activities like sports, jogging, work out, these formula are tried and tested to combat stress, tension and anxieties, pray a lot-you know this is an old style of coping with sadness and emptiness, but a very effective one and really works!believe me, confide your feelings and apprehensions to the Lord and He will take care of everything, pray for peace of mind and heart. I am in the same situation with you, but mine is more painful, because I am so inlove (until now)to a guy who did not love me at all, everyday I saw him discussing his obsession to other girls, very very painful. But I learned to deal with it, I just pray hard, attend mass every sunday and ignore his presence. When depression hits me, I just eat plenty of fruits and vegetables rich in antioxidants and fibers to eliminate whatever distressing emotions I have. May these tips can help you, goodluck and Godbless you!
@nadooa247 (1096)
• United States
13 Nov 08
It has to do that you got no closure. You thought things were fine apparently and for some reason without much explanation it seems she found another guy. You miss her because you love her, you think of her less and less because you are healing. But you will still miss her because again... you never got closure, no real reason for her to do what she did. (a lowdown thing if i may say so myself.) It will take time before you are interested in someone else in that way or in a similar way. Try to heal but don't get to serious till you feel that you are at least accepting what she did and are ready to move on. You don't want to do the same to a girl and then when you find who you think is ms. right leave her... because then.. you'd be dishing out the same hurt to someone else. And i really doubt you want to do that.
@mykmari_08 (2464)
• Philippines
4 Nov 08
Honestly, I think you're still so much inlove with her until now. A couple of years is quite enough to be inlove with someone. But don't think that the reason why she broke up with you is because you're not good enough. I hope you both talked about this when you were in the communication process of breaking up but nevertheless, I guess she must have decided to move on with her own life. You could do the same by getting yourself into dates with other girls. This may help but better yet, do some searching of yourself and assessing your feelings; what you really want in life. If you feel you can't live without her, then take enough courage to court her or win her back again. Talk to her if she permits this. But if she confirms that she loves his current boyfriend more than you, I believe you should try to move on as well. Good luck. I do remember a song lyrics which goes like this, "...they say if you love someone, then set him free. If he comes back again, then in the end it was meant to be." Sometimes, girls still hold on to the feelings of love before finally giving it all up after a long time. Even if she has a new boyfriend now, there is no guarantee that they will end up getting married, so there's still a chance for the both of you if you really deserve her love. Again, good luck.
@23uday (2998)
• India
4 Nov 08
Hi buddies, 1 year ago i have girl frnd we were quarrel and broke up our relationship with me for simple reason she broke up with me,She told me you are not good enough to me, But iam not happy,i her liked so much,iam not caring about her and i don't want, Some times i will thinking about my exgf and i still miss my exgirl frnd. What about you?
• United States
4 Nov 08
wow, your post probably wasn't the best thing for me to read. I dated my ex on and off in hs from sophmore year till right before college started. I broke up with him because even tho our schools were close it was going to be strenuous. I think he thinks i broke up with him bc of another guy. I even dated a guy for a few months. But I can't get over my ex, I still love him, always have. We are still friends so I talk to him every month or so, which makes it worse! How I wish this is him posting.....
@bombshell (11265)
• Germany
14 Oct 08
sorry to hear that but means you still love her and try to cheer up yourself a bit.life is too short and keep on smiling