Everything Has Two Handles
By prudhvi27
@prudhvi27 (414)
India
October 15, 2008 7:36am CST
Everything has two handles: one by which it may be carried, the other by which it can't.
If, for example, your brother or sister treats you poorly, don't grasp the situation by the handle of hurt or injustice, or you won't be able to bear it and will become bitter. Do the Opposite. Grasp the situation by the handle of familial ties. In other words, focus on the fact that this is your brother or sister, that you were brought up together, and thus have an enduring, unbreakable bond. Viewing the situation that way, you understand it correctly and preserve and your equilibrium
Please share ur opinions and coments on this discussion
Thank You
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3 responses
@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
2 Nov 08
I think it is true that everything has two handles. You can't always change or choose the situation, but you can choose how you handle that situation and you can choose your thoughts about the situation. You can make choices based on anger or hurt or you can see things in a bigger perspective. Maybe the situation is unfair and you have a "right" to be angry, but what do you get out of that? If you get angry or bitter, it is not only going to hurt others, it is going to hurt yourself most of all, it's YOU who will have to suffer from all those feelings of bitterness etc, it is not the other person involved.
That is my opinion about this, and the things you wrote makes a lot of sense to me. On the other hand I know how hard it is to remember those thoughts when I get angry, but hope that I will eventually get better at choosing "the right handle" in the situation.
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
18 Oct 08
This thing about handles is confusing to me. Why only two handles? Could there be more handles? I can't see why not. This whole universe is so vast and incomprehensible it could not be handled by just a couple of handles. Cheers!!
@redwarrior82 (480)
• Singapore
15 Oct 08
It's not that easy you know. Why appreciate the fact that your siblings were brought up together with you? They're still so mean anyway. If they don't give a damn about family ties, then how does it help for me to focus on the fact that we were brought up together?
