is it okey for a guy to cry?

Philippines
October 19, 2008 5:47am CST
i have had it. i am a guy. i have a lot of problems and struggles. everday is like something i could not bare. a lot of stuffs to settle. a lot of things to consider. i have to balance things out. many were expecting from me. i have to do my part. part that should and must bless others. i could not make it. i am alone, nobody understands. each one has its own problems too. i want to cry, is it okey?...
20 people like this
74 responses
@James72 (26794)
• Australia
19 Oct 08
There is always a time and a place for this jing but I don't see any problem with a man crying at all. Sometimes we need to let go of our emotions in this way and just because this doesn't make us any less masculine than any other male that doesn't! There is too much emphasis these days on men being men and we too get just as emotional as anyone else so I say let it all out. I am sure you will feel better for doing it.
4 people like this
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
thanks a lot men. i am sure you had cried yourself too. i really don't want to be crying though. i just don't want to feel that way. i wanted to take it in. and live something that is not really too emotional..
2 people like this
@deeeky (3667)
• Edinburgh, Scotland
20 Oct 08
I agree with this response as it is best not to bottle things up inside and to cry helps the tension release itself from the mind and body and a better time can be had to enjoy life more.
3 people like this
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
thanks a lot.. i really needed this ... thank you.. cry..
2 people like this
• Philippines
19 Oct 08
For me it is okay for a guy to cry if he feels like crying. I don't really care if they cry, they can still have my respect and I don't think it will lessen there masculinity if they cry. So if you feel like crying, just do so
3 people like this
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
thank you.. but won't you care to ask of what is the reason why he cries?.. well,as for me, when i saw people crying i would then ask why.. why?...
1 person likes this
@Khushi309 (139)
• India
19 Oct 08
i think it is. i personally feel very awkward if a guy would cry in front of me, because i usually associate a girl with crying and the guy with consoling. i guess it is okay to reverse the roles, nothing wrong with that. my personal experience has taught me that if i see a guy crying, he would be really broken... truly... because i believe that guys usually don't cry and if they do, it's gotta be something really dreadful that happened to him... yeah, but crying to often might make you look like a wimp, so better watch out for that. otherwise, crying is the best way to let out pent up emotions and stress... happy myLotting
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
and i do cry secretly. i cried somewhere that is not seen by anyone.. i would cry at the comfort room and somewhere that is really less people around...
• India
20 Oct 08
yes, well, i am a girl, but i still find it hard to cry in public. i feel it is so embarrassing. unless there is no way i could control myself, i would avoid crying in public. in fact, i don't remember crying in public, i guess i have been very lucky that way. touchwood...
1 person likes this
• Philippines
22 Oct 08
me too. i find it hard to cry in public. but there are some cases where i could not control it..especially during service or fellwship and that the message is so touching... thnaks!
@idowrite72 (2213)
• United States
1 Nov 08
There is nothing wrong with a guy crying. I have always thought that only real men can cry. I think that emotions need to be released and if that is the way that it works for you, then it needs to be done. There is no reason that a guy shouldn't be able to cry if that is the way he feels and he shouldn't be ashamed to.
2 people like this
• Philippines
17 Dec 08
last night, i did cry in front of another guy. it was a confrontation between the two of us. i have poeace while crying. i poured out all my emotions. and now, i know what i did was right. there is nothing left to say or do.. i wanted to give up already. i am just so tired of this.. huhu..
2 people like this
• Ireland
1 Nov 08
Yes of course it is ok for a guy to cry, everybody cries, there is no exception, its perfectly normal for a guy to cry
2 people like this
• Philippines
17 Dec 08
thank you. last night, i did cry in my room. i cried aloud. i am mad at myself and the things that is happening around me.. thank you...
2 people like this
• United States
20 Oct 08
Yes it is okay for a guy to cry ya just cry your eyes out and i bet ya will feel much better
2 people like this
• Philippines
25 Oct 08
it feels better when after crying.. hehe. it is so funny because i get to see my face and the reasons why i cry.. wah, it was funny..
• Philippines
19 Oct 08
Regardless of who and what you are, you can cry... that's state of emotion... just be yourself...
2 people like this
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
thanks a lot.. so the song, big girls dont cry, do not apply then.. heheh
• United States
10 Dec 08
I always thought it was silly that people made the association that if you cry, it somehow makes you less of a person. People need to cry at times. Men do too. Sometimes things just push you to that point, I think crying is a better release than others that people may do to relieve some upset. No one can understand something unless you explain it to them. And sadly, we are all alone sometimes. Whatever other hardships you are experiencing, it is just this way now, things change, they get better. If everyday you have the feeling that you can not handle things, just think... everyday before that, you have beat that feeling. You did bare it. It is always hard to be optimistic when you are down. I have random spells when I am alone during the day, and I always think I will not get through it, but then later when my partner comes home, things are nearly okay again. Years ago things were pretty bleak, and though things at times seem rough now, I know deep down that things will get better, even if it is not noticable at first. I hope you feel better.
@GLOBALSHEEN (1005)
• India
31 Oct 08
Your problem has a solution. Just believe on Jesus. Tell Him all your problems and cryout to Him. Only He can help you.No man can give any help the way GOD can. He will help you to come out of it and help you lead a normal life.Only JESUS.
@dodo19 (45729)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
30 Oct 08
Having emotions is part of being a human being is about, in my opinion. This also includes crying. It's normal to want to cry, if you're sad, or something. It shouldn't matter if you're man or a woman. As a human being, you have a right to feel whatever you're feeling. I don't think there should be a problem for a guy to cry. Yes, okay, guys are stereotypically seen as the 'strong one in the relationship', or something like that. But personally, it's just a stereotype. Guys have as much right to cry as girls do, in my opinion.
2 people like this
• United States
29 Oct 08
Of course it is . In fact it shows that the guy has feelings and emotions and that's sexy to me and moat girls!!
2 people like this
@saundyl (9785)
• Canada
26 Oct 08
Crying is fine for guys...its not unmanly or anything else. Its just releasing emotion and a way to deal with things.
2 people like this
@commanderxo (1494)
• Canada
20 Oct 08
Go ahead. There is absolutely nothing wrong with crying. As a matter of fact, it will help release built up tension, and enable you to relax and gather your thoughts afterwards. Far more...you WILL be a man for doing so.
@anne12d (676)
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
It's ok to cry even you are a man. That doesn't mean when you cry you are considered... you know. I know some friends who cry over my shoulder when they have problems and I know for sure that they are truely men. They cried because of having problems too. So if you want to cry its ok... Cry just by yourself or with a trusted friend that is willing to share his/her shoulder for you.
2 people like this
@sanzi1201 (644)
• China
20 Oct 08
I don't like to see a man crying before us.But,I feel aching when I saw my bf weeping when he looking my photoes.Because he didn't want to go to school and leave me.I was feelingly at that moment.I know he love me as I love him.
2 people like this
@Pose123 (21641)
• Canada
20 Oct 08
Hi jingbautista, Crying is a very necessary emotional response for everyone, men included. I have seen some very strong men cry and it has not in any way lessened my opinion of them. I'm not sure where the idea came from that men shouldn't cry but a lot of people believe it. It just isn't true so go and have a good cry, it will make you feel much better. Blessings.
2 people like this
• Philippines
19 Oct 08
hi there friend, crying is not a sign of weakness. even for a guy like you. it is okay to cry to let out all your frustrations and hurts in life. although a lot of people might think that it would be unlikely but it is not. it is one way of letting go of your hurts. i think that is why most guys do suffer heart attack as compared to women because they have issues of showing to much emotions and it just builds up inside. Lift it all to God and He will surely light your way. Remember it is not easy to follow God's path but it's worth it. don't mind whatever criticisms that may come your way just be steadfast with your Faith. hope this helps. :)
1 person likes this
• Philippines
22 Oct 08
thank you.. i really need some christian advice.. and God never failed me. for days, i had been crying now for bcause i have a lot of problems to settle...
• Philippines
23 Oct 08
You are very welcome friend. just lift it all to God and claim His promises and He will never ever fail you. be strong and never let go. :)
1 person likes this
• Philippines
23 Oct 08
thank you.. for days, i had been crying to God. finding comfort by faith.. thanks!
@zatak07 (699)
• India
19 Oct 08
ya as 'princejayevents' has said its a state of emotions but at the same time it doesn't seems a guy thing to cry right ? there are other ways to show your emotions or feelings .
1 person likes this
• Philippines
22 Oct 08
surely, there are other ways to show our emotions and feelings. but crying is the best way to show that we are in pain and we wanted healing and help.. thanks
1 person likes this
@zatak07 (699)
• India
22 Oct 08
what about a guy like me, i hardly cry even though i'm overwhelm with emotions :-)
1 person likes this
@Metalchick (1391)
19 Oct 08
In my opinion it really isn't a bad thing if a gut cries. Crying is just a physical way of releasing mental and physical pain, fears or problems. If you didn't cry occasionally in your lifetime just imagine all those pent up feelings and emotions with no where to go. They'll just build up until their more of a problem.
1 person likes this
• Philippines
26 Oct 08
crying is just a physical way of releasing mental and physical pain, fears or problems. surely it is!.. our emotions would be nowhere when we don't cry. thanks a lot!
26 Oct 08
No problem it's good to be able to give my opinion on it.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
20 Oct 08
Be coregeous. Don't loose your patience. You are not alone. Everybody has lot of prolems like you.Why should you cry? Be strong.I'm sure you will overcome all the problems.Make friendship to others.Then you will not be alone.Share yours prollems with your friends. They will help you to solve your problems.A man never crys.It is shameful.
1 person likes this
• Philippines
26 Oct 08
thanks a lot. it helps though..