Do you judge people by the way they look?

@Masmasika (1921)
Philippines
October 25, 2008 10:27pm CST
It really depends. There are people who look their behavior and their are people who have misleading personalities. I sometimes judge people wrongly because I thought someone to be a snob only to find out when I got to finally talk to the person that my assumption was wrong. I could judge people better now that I have met and been with a lot of different kinds of people. People shouldn't judge others by the way they look. Physical appearances are sometimes deceiving. I don't judge a person by the way he looks. I need to be with that person first for a while before I could accurately judge that person.
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30 responses
• Singapore
26 Oct 08
Lets face it. The first thing you do when you meet a new person is to look at him or her. That is why people say that the first impression is very important and you only get to make it once. However, it is important to try to know the person's personalities better before judging his/her character. Assumption can be wrong. A potential friendship should not be ruined just because of an incident.
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• United States
26 Oct 08
You are so very correct!
@Foxxee (3653)
• United States
26 Oct 08
Very well said, although I don't ever judge by the way someone looks because you just can't tell by appearance. Yes the first thing I notice is their look, but I don't judge that. It's a look, not that important. I feel the person is more important over looks, but I do agree with what you say to a point.
• United States
26 Oct 08
Yeah, I think we all do this, I would rather not but no matter what you will, it's just human nature to see an appearance and jump to a conclusion about the way they were raised, the way they live, and their habits etc. When I see someone with their gut sticking out and they have grease stains all over their shirt, etc, I will automatically think that this person does not care about themselves very much, or that they are poor and uneducated, but the fact is, most of the time your conclusions are usually fact, the way someone presents themselves can tell you a lot about the way they live and their personality, I don't think we can deny this. It would be nice if there was no judgment, but it's just a natural thing that we have been doing since we have been alive, other animals do it as well. I can make these conclusions, though I will keep an open mind for a changed opinion and treat them as I would treat any other person, since we all have quirks anyway. Happy mylotting and have a great day or night!
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• United States
26 Oct 08
I liked your response very much! It is very realistic!
@Sheepie (3118)
• United States
26 Oct 08
Well, I don't think I could say that I have not ever looked at a person and made an opinion of them without hearing them talk first. But reasonably, if you see someone walking down the street, you can learn a lot about them from body language and dressing style. If I'm proven wrong at the end of the day, I've either made a new friend or a new enemy, but I might find out who they are sooner or later. My intuition is normally accurate, though!
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@genihanna (358)
• United States
26 Oct 08
Unfortunately it's human nature to do so. You know the old saying - You never get a second chance to make a first impression. By the same token we dress differently for different reasons and occasions. If one were to wear a pair of shorts and a t-shirt to a wedding, wouldn't we naturally make a "judgment" - or if someone comes to the beach in a tuxedo, wouldn't we look at them funny? As for their body shape or personal hygiene, it's just natural to assume things about different situations. If someone is messy and smelly, don't we have negative thoughts? It's just human nature. The difference is in how we express our judgments!
• United States
26 Oct 08
I just re-read your original post - you really need to read our responses. Everyone makes assumptions when first seeing a person. Admit it. We might not like that we do, but we do. Not how the person acts but that first impression - the first glance at a person - we all make assumptions or judgments. When someone comes to a job interview, if they are odd looking, there is little chance of getting past the receptionist. it's unfortunate, but it's the way it is.
@Foxxee (3653)
• United States
26 Oct 08
We don't all judge people by their looks. I don't. I'm always open to talk to someone & get to know them regardless of what they may or may not look like. As for the job interview part, well that's common sense that you should dress according to the dress code or whatever kind of job you are applying for.
• India
26 Oct 08
A person canbe judged only after that person opens his or her mouth. What you speak combined with your looks are very important in projectign your personality. Some people are too good till they open their mouth and some are very ordinary looking till they opentheir mouth and then their stature goes up. if one were to look at Dr Manmohan Singh, Indian Prime Minister, and not hear him speak, one would think that there must be some mistake. he couldn't be the Prime Minsiter of such a big country. Once you hear him speaking, his casual looks vanish and he grows in stature. Beauty and brains together of course are far superior. They impress you the most.
• United States
26 Oct 08
So mutes are just out-of-luck, huh?
@Foxxee (3653)
• United States
26 Oct 08
gen - people who are mute can sign & I know people who sign & some can be just as harsh as someone who can speak & then some can be sweet as gold. So no, mutes are not out of luck. Sign is just the same as speaking with your mouth.
• Singapore
26 Oct 08
I guess it really depends for me. I do not judge people by the way the look but i do judge on their behaviour and actions. Never judge a book by a cover, some people may look mean or weird but they are really nice people if you get to know them personally. I have come across quite a few people like this and im glad to say im friends with them for years now and they are really nice people, although not all are the same.
• United States
26 Oct 08
Hmm If Its The First Time I've Seen Them Then Maybe. But When I Get To Know Them,then never.
@june50 (111)
• China
26 Oct 08
It's hard to judge people only from the look. I will judge people only after I talk to them or see their act, or take others' opinion about them. And it takes time to really know a people. What we can see is just their appearance, but we have to judge their inner personality from what they do and what they say.
• United States
26 Oct 08
That sounds good on paper, but it's just NOT the way it is.
@Hatley (164338)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Oct 08
hi masmasika dont ever judge people by the way they look as it' is so unfair. I look like I am snobbish and I am not, I am just shy and would love to be able to make friends as easily as my best friend Nelda does. You must talk to us and let us respond then you will see just what sortof person we are. My mom used to get some people who remarked catily that she wasnt very learned and they were so wrong. Like me my mom was soft spoken and shy but if you made friends with her she was one smart cookie. She only went through high school but she was very intelligent and wise to the ways of the world too. to see my dear grandpa you would have said he looked a bit like abraham lincoln and was a bit homely but once you talked to him, he was the kindest, most gentle gentleman anyway could ever hope to meet. So you need to learn to know the person.
• United States
26 Oct 08
Unfortunately, it doesn't work that way. People immediately make an assumption the second they lay eyes on you. It stinks, but it's the way it is.
@apples99 (6562)
• United States
27 Oct 08
I think we all have been guilty of prejudging people but I think as long as we recognize that its wrong and make an effort to change our behavior and not judge a book by its cover and learn from our mistakes we'll be ok, because everyone has been a victim of some kind of wrongful judgment or has judged someone at one time or another, in fact I have been judged wrongfully before by people because I'm very differnt from whats considerd to be the norm, and people are often surprised when they meet me for the first time, but after they get to know me they realized that there judgments were wrong. like said you cant judge a book by its cover.
@monimo (83)
• Canada
27 Oct 08
hey there masmasika, OF COURSE i judge people, the same way they judge me. Of course there's a huge difference between judging, and letting your mouth run loose, or act on it. Nobody can say that seeing a gogeous man is the same as looking at a bum. Appearance is key in human life, and this is exactly how people see you as, and they will treat you the same. I say the best thing in life is to always look presentable no matter where you are and always be TIDY! :)
@katrhina23 (1282)
• United States
27 Oct 08
They said, first impressions last. A person can make like almost a hundred impressions in a minute towards another person. It is unfair to judge a person by the way he/she looks. Sometimes, we do giv the wrong impressions. It is much better to talk to the person first and be with the person for quite sometime to tell something about him/her. But be aware that it is difficult to trust people now. They might seem nice because they dress up nicely and professionally. Nowadays, thief, smugglers, rapists , holduppers , kidnappers, other bad people dress up like professionals.
@cupkitties (7619)
• United States
26 Oct 08
I've dealt with being judged for nothing other than my looks far too many times so I don't do that kind of thing to others. I've had people to treat me like I don't know better because they think I look "innocent" or say I'm stuck up probably because I tend to be very shy when meeting someone I don't know in person. My first impressions of someone is gathered by me through conversation.
• Canada
26 Oct 08
I do not judge people by the way they look. It is unfair to judge or assume things about people or treat them differently because of how they look. It is not their fault for looking like they do. Every person is beautiful in their own way. This can also go the other way. A person cannot be judged because he or she might look better then you. That would not be fair. The way we judge people should be on what kind of person they are and how they act in certain situations, and if they screw up like we all do how they respond to it after wards. People can change so i dont believe in judging them and giving them that way of judgment forever. This is a very complicated subject.
• United States
26 Oct 08
Well first off I would like to say that noone person can really judge the other... but sometimes people do look; wild, to exotic or just crazy. Everyone has their own style... it's about one's personality and sometimes their character that makes a person. Never judge a book by it's cover! I have learned!
• Australia
26 Oct 08
It's instinct for people to judge everyone else by their appearance. Stereotypes are automatically triggered because of its accessibility- in society, stereotypes and norms are used and enforced implicitly and explicitly- and they are often exaggerated. By getting to know the person, stereotypic characteristics can either be reinforced or made less prominent. Personality becomes the foremost object we see as we get familiar with the person, although stereotypes are hard to dispel.
@lakantar (1575)
• Greece
26 Oct 08
well I don't judge people about the way they look... at least I don't judge possible friends or friends about the way they look :P
@nimasa (122)
• Canada
26 Oct 08
I personaly don't judge them by just their looks. i will judge them by their behaviours.
@unuzzz (1274)
• Indonesia
26 Oct 08
hi Masmasika sad to say, yes.. i do judge people by the way they look on the first time we met but i don't think i judge the person forever with the same label o think my action is not an offensive one i also believe that the judgement i made might be wrong i just judge people as a kind of introduction to myself from my judgement i can say whether i was right or wrong about my opinion on the person mostly we chat for some times that time, and who knows the next time we met, we had broken the ice, so it'll be easier to know each other thanks Masmasika ! :D
• Philippines
26 Oct 08
I don't, its never my personality to judge other people by the way they look..i just happen to don't mind people who doesn't mind me as well..i know some who always misinterpret me as a snob, but on later part they just happen to realize i wasn't the one they are thinking i was..some of them had become my friends some didn't which i don't mind
26 Oct 08
I think everyone judges but one different levels. I try to not make assumptions but often my first impressions end up being spot on.