How to help the mother of my brothers baby
By dwcorona
@dwcorona (187)
United States
October 27, 2008 12:14pm CST
My brother and a girl he was seeing had a baby last month, they are both young and she has been talking to me about what is going on with them, I have only met her once and got along with her very well, she is really shy and quiet and I told her if she ever needed anything to let me know I was also young when we had out first and we went through alot together and I told her I know how she feels sometimes. I really didn't expect to hear from her but I did, she told me somethings like she didn't feel important to my brother and he doesn't spend alot of time with the baby, I don't know what to tell or how to help? I know my brother very well and I think he might be playing games with her. They live about 3 hrs apart and when he is home to visit he just wants to go out partying and hang out with his friends and other girls, she feels like she is suppose to sit home and raise the baby and not do anything. Should I tell her to move on and not sit and wait for him? I think she should go out and enjoy herself when she can get a sitter, I'm also afraid she might suffer from post partum depression or it might lead to that.............
any advice would be great!
danielle
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
28 Oct 08
i think it's very nice of you to be nice to her. i'm sure she can use a friend. she's got a hard road ahead of her raising a child by herself. been there, done that. as for your brother he needs to grow up & think about her & the baby instead of himself. she does need to move on.
@dwcorona (187)
• United States
28 Oct 08
Thanks! and your right he does need to grow up and realize it's not all fun and games, he can't just be a dad when it's convenient for him he has to all the time. i know she wants to be with him and that's what is making it hard for her to move on, especially being young and her hormones are probably going crazy and making her feel this way.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
28 Oct 08
it's a shame a woman has to grow up no matter what age when she has a child or she should anyway but guys can just keep on keeping on & not take any responsibily like they should. some of them do but i think they are few & far betwen sometimes.
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@dwcorona (187)
• United States
29 Oct 08
Yes they are! Even though my bf and I weren't together for awhile he was always there for our 1st and then when we got serious and had our 2nd he is still there. He takes care of all of us, we have had our problems but he always made sure I was taken care of also which was decent of him since a lot of guys can care less about the mom of there baby. but we are togehter and happy and our boys are happy!
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@celticeagle (160064)
• Boise, Idaho
29 Oct 08
This is why young people need to wait to start a family. She needs to move on. In an emotional, romantic moment we overlook the possibilities of our actions. and move forward with decisions that will play on the rest of your life. Our decisions follow us all the rest of our lives. Think alittle. Pays in the long run!
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Oct 08
hi dwcorona I noticed you said my brother and a girl he was seeing, so even though its his baby,how important is this
girl? If she is supposedly his girl friend he sure isnt being
'very kind to the mom of his baby. As he is not married I suppose'
he thinks he can play around with other girls and still have his
pleasure when he wants it with the girl he is seeing.He needs to'
grow up and decide whether or not he wants a relationship with this girl or not. If not, he still has some obligations to take care of the child he fathered, also to let her know he does not want to be committed to a relationship with her. If he doesnt want a relationship she should get on with her life. I am sorry to say this about your brother but he needs to grow up. Either decide to committ to a relationship with his babys mom, or tell her its all off.Tell her to get on with her life as your brother isnt ready to be committed to her at all.There are other men out there who could love her a nd care for her and her baby, and treat her as she deserves to be treated.Your brother sounds like he should never have gotten her pregnant as he is still too immature to handle a committed relationship.
