Is 18 too young to get married?

United States
October 28, 2008 6:16pm CST
I have found the perfect guy, God has blessed me. I love him with all my heart and i will be 18 in Febuary and we are planning to get married! Some of his and my family members think that is okay as long as we set ourselves up, and make sure that we can do this and that we are ready! What do u think?
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@fasttalker (2796)
• United States
28 Oct 08
I don't think it is so much an age as a maturity level. Some 18 year olds are ready and some are not. If you are both responsible and prepared for the life you are entering then I say go for it! Good Luck and congratulations!
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@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
wait, it is too early, marriage is not just about love..it is about everything else not just love. There will be more experiences that will await you, more things you could achieve, more to experience...i had been there and no i do not regret because i love my husband and we are stronger than ever but at times i would think that there are things that a single person could do that married ones cannot..enjoy every moment of it and dont get married yet..think it through..goodluck
@rsa101 (37968)
• Philippines
29 Oct 08
Well for me I guess you are young for marriage, but as they say it is your maturity that matters not the age. For as long as you two can live together and would not need any parental support then go. But if I were you enjoy your singleness at this age since there are many things that you will not enjoy when you are already married. For me Ideal age is about 25 although I got married at 30 already. Also besides being able to feel you are ready emotionally you should also secure yourselves financially meaning you two have a stable job to lean on and is ready to face any possible problems that is encountered during the marriage. Many couples that do get married are so relying on emotional feelings but when they finally settled down they discovered that marriage is not a bed of roses when you wake up you have to do something else than just hugs and kisses it also means you have to face the real world and survive as a couple.
@psspurgeon1 (1109)
• United States
28 Oct 08
I got married at 18 after being with him for 1.5 years prior. We celebrated our 7 year wedding anniversary last month. I think it is incredibly hard to make a marriage work, the earlier the harder BUT BUT BUT if you go into it knowing that he wont always seem perfect to you at times and that it is inevitable to get tough, I think you can make it work. As far as being to young, no I don't think so. Just know that like 50% of marriages end in the first 4 years due to financial strain. You have to want it and so does he. If you feel ready then I wish you all the best, for us it was nice being married even though we went through all the young, broke newleywed things. I wish you all the happiness in the world and congradulations on finding "the one". Some people go their entire lives not knowing the love that is associated with "the one" and it is a true celebration when you do!
• United States
28 Oct 08
ok this is what i think i got married at the age of 20 and yes i think that 18 is to young to get married but yet its not cause it can also be a learning experience but if you think that you have found the perfect man and you think that you will be together for ever then go for it
@maroseqf (3657)
• Philippines
29 Oct 08
generally, people at the age of 18 are not yet matured enough to handle serious matters like marriage. although a few maybe psychologically ready, i still think that 18 is too young for that. marriage entails alot of adjustments and acceptance.
@SketcherD (1114)
• Canada
28 Oct 08
I got married at 21 and have stayed married for over 22 years. Yes I know I just gave away my age. Oh well. LOL I know I was not ready at 18 to be married as I was still in high school. When I went to school we had 5 years of high school not 4 and then I went away to school. I believe if you are finished school, have a good job and can support yourselves then perhaps you are ready. But if you have not finished school then perhaps you can wait until you have at least finished and graduated to get married. I just feel that it would be less stressful this way. Just my thoughts here.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
28 Oct 08
Have you finished school? Maybe best to wait til that's done and then see about marriage. You don't want to be struggling with bills because you couldn't get a decent paying job. Do you know what it takes to keep a relationship going if times get hard? I would also recommend to hold off any plans for children until you have enough money coming in to take care of them, yourselves and your bills and not have to worry.
@katran (585)
• United States
28 Oct 08
My dad used to tell me something that I think is very true in hindsight: Love doesn't pay the bills. Getting married is not just about sharing your love with one another. You can do that without ever putting the ring on your finger. Getting married is about sharing your lives together, and you cannot share your life if you have not built one yet. Has your boyfriend gone to college? Does he have a job? Can he support you? Money problems cause most divorces, and no one is going to have more money problems than an 18 year old with no education and no earning capacity. If you are really committed to each other, then why rush to get married? Wait until you are out of college, and if you still love each other, then you can get married. College changes people, and it is a proven fact that the brain is not finished developing until the age of 25, so you won't be the same people in 6 years. Give it a little more consideration before you rush in to something.