If I'm really 13 but I tell you I'm 16...

@mommyboo (13198)
United States
November 3, 2008 2:05am CST
Does this upset or anger you? *I* am not that young, but just a day sgo a 13 year old girl told my 17 year old son that she was 16. As a parent, this is a problem. As a woman myself, this bothers me. I also have a 4 year old daughter. Have you ever lied about your age in order to get noticed, do something older people do, feel more 'adult'? How can you justify this? If you're a parent, do you try hard to make sure people realize your young teens are YOUNG TEENS, ie 13 and not 16, 18, or however old they try to say they are this week? The fact is, older teens prey on younger ones, especially girls. Psycho ADULTS prey on young teens too, especially girls. Why do little girls constantly try to pretend they are older? They are just as bad for pretending as someone over 18 is bad for not verifying that they aren't actually legal.
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@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
3 Nov 08
I think that is the problem with most countries. Teens just don't look like teens anymore because of the way they speak, the way they dress and the way they act. I even have a problem proving my age since people don't accept me for my real age, they say I look much much younger and it's weird. Anyhow, I think these are one of the problems now-a-days with teens. They want to be older (fast) and they don't realize that they're actually wasting their moment of enjoying their age because of the social peer pressure around. I think it's all because of peer pressure. For me? I do pretend I'm older. Why? Well, it's not really for the sake of having to be noticed, it's more of trying to tell them that I'm not available anymore. Look, I'm 28 but they say I'm only 20 or even less. So, I tell them out front I'm 30. Most especially if these guys are like 20-ish. It's just a means for me to tell them to back off. Well, for young adults, lying about age is ok. But I see what you're getting at, it's quite difficult for teens to be lying about their age. You're right when you said that there are a lot of Psycho Adults who are preying on them. But there's nothing we can do about it, I guess. It's the social pressure. Kids just want to get older fast, they want their so-called independence, only to find out when they're older that they've had it good when they were still young and yet they wasted it. Whew! I guess you can start by letting your kids appreciate their age. How? Well, for one thing, don't make them see that being an adult gives you more 'freedom'. I've seen kids now wearing make-up at a very young age. Now, they're more 'conscious' about the way they look?! They're even conscious about their figures! For another, I guess it's good once in a while not to treat them as adults, don't force them to be adults. Independence is good, but it robs kids of their childhood, they're forced to be conscious instead of just having fun. :) Anyhow, I'm no expert about these things, but I know for sure that these could be avoided, it's all about the family I guess. Yes, we can't control our kids and how they act, but maybe if they are given more slack to just behave like kids, then maybe they'd see that who they are are pleasing to our eyes and that no social pressure could ever change them that fast.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
4 Nov 08
I have the same problem you do, I look younger than I am - but I'm 34 and married, and I have kids. I don't lie about my age, although I do often have to produce my license to prove it. It's bad, when I was 21 people thought I was 16, when I was 16 people thought I was 13. I don't think I look that young! If people would be a little more noticeable about how people ACT instead of just using a physical appearance to judge age, it would help. A 13 year old just isn't as mature as a 16 year old unless the 16 year old is VERY immature. All the time when somebody gets caught you hear the perp saying 'I thought she was 18' or 'she told me she was 21, how was I to know she was 15??' Gee, I dunno. Ask for some ID? Think with your real brain, not the one in your pants? LOL! There are many 'fun' things about being an adult but those fun things are tempered with a ton of NOT FUN things we HAVE to do. I remember asking my son when he was 12 what he thought I did all day. Do you know what he said? That I shopped online and ate ice cream and changed the baby and shopped some more...hmmm. Don't I wish! It's kind of a fine line to walk because you want them to have enough freedom to not rebel but at the same time teach them enough to help them make their OWN good decisions and give peer pressure a kick in the pants. I know that I don't want my four year old looking like she is 16 when she is 12, I'll have a heart attack!
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• United States
4 Nov 08
I know what you mean about little girls worrying about their weight. I used to teach 3rd grade and most of the kids are 8 turning 9. I had one girl who refused to eat lunch because she didn't want to get "fat". She was a bean pole. Even the other girls didn't think it was right and came to talk to me about it. I know her mom, who is also thin and really doesn't have to work at it. We talked about it and we both talked to her. In fact, I sat down with that whole group of girls and discussed ways to eat health as opposed to not eating at all or crash dieting. We looked at food labels, looked up eating disorders and their consequences, and listed healthy foods they could bring in their lunches. It seemed to make a difference at the time. I think kids just think grownups have it really great, like your son thinks you eat ice cream all day. I talked to my 8 year old daughter about this and pointed out all the things I have to do that are not very fun! She told me, "Mommy, I think I'll just stay a kid." With my daughter it's "teen agers" this and "teenagers" that. Now that I think about it, teenagers really do have a pretty great life!
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@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
5 Nov 08
Hehehhe I think this is one of the ironies in life, every kid wants to be an adult and every adult wants to be kids once again. Truly man's desires are insatiable. I just hope that kids won't grow up too fast for their own good. And guys, you're right, they need to see the not so good things we do in order for them to appreciate their own age and their own lives. =0)
@BYOLA2871 (4373)
• South Africa
4 Nov 08
really its a very important thing for parents to actually make people realise how young their kids are especially the girls as they may sometimes tell lies about their age so they can be allowd to do some things they are not supposed to do,i dont see a ny reason why i should tell lies about my age but sometimes people feel they will be looked down on if they say they are younger buyt it shouldnt be so
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
10 Nov 08
People care too much about others' opinions of them. lol! My hope is that people can begin to be confident enough to stop lying in order to gain acceptance from people who do not matter.
@BYOLA2871 (4373)
• South Africa
12 Dec 08
its funny because the recognition you gain through lies you will loose when people discover that you have lied about them lies dont live on for ever unfoertunately
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
13 Dec 08
Exactly! And some people are pretty dumb to think they can lie and always get away with it.
6 Nov 08
It wouldn't anger me but would make me question why you would have lie about your age in the first place, what else have you lied about and are you really telling me your age now!!?? I think when a girl lies about her age she has to accept some responsibility about wehat may happen with the person she is communicating with. Its hard to guess some people's age by looking at them, some do act older than they are without pretending to be older than their age. They are just mature for their age but yet the ones who want to get noticed are the ones that are lying about their age and its only the blokes that can get blamed for it. No one seems to blame the girls for telling them they are such an age like 16 or 18.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
10 Nov 08
Oh I blame the girls. Believe me, I do. There were girls who claimed to be older when I was a girl too, and it used to irritate me because they would get away with it. I always wanted them to get what they deserved in the end, which was to be caught and punished for lying and for sneaking into situations that only older people should be in. LOL! Common sense dictates that people only lie or try to hide something IF they actually have something to hide, if you have nothing to hide then you wouldn't be hiding anything or lying about it.
11 Nov 08
I totally agree with you, when I was in my teens and at my dads. I used to use chat rooms but I wouldnt lie about my age. I didnt have any need to, if they wanted to talk to me then they would knowing exactly how old I was.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
12 Nov 08
Maybe it takes a certain amount of security to hold people to WYSIWYG (you chat so I figure you know that's - what you see is what you get) but somewhere in that whole 'desire to be liked', people need to understand that they are what they are or who they are, and if you try to pretend you are something or someone else, eventually you will be caught and then people REALLY won't like you! I like knowing that the people I'm closest to really like ME, not some IDEA of what I am. I also like knowing if someone DOESN'T like me that it's likely their issue and not me because hey, there are some people I don't like because they are simply negative about everything, so it isn't personal.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
4 Nov 08
No I haven't lied about my age before. That's what wrong with kids nowadays they want to grow up to fast and if that involves lying then they do it. Which isn't good because it can become second nature to them because of the web of lies they will have to weave to keep from getting caught at lying. I am glad you know the girl lied so you can warn your son about her age. I would be worried about a child lying about their age because I have a niece who is 17 and is ready to have her second child her first child being born a week before her 14th birthday. She didn't lie about her age but she looked older and boys just assumed she was older because of it. Got her into alot of trouble.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
10 Nov 08
My mom had a friend whose daughter got in the same situation, I think she was 11 when I met her. She got pregnant when she was 12 and the father of the baby was 18. I don't recall any charges being filed though because he remained her boyfriend for awhile and nobody who knew about it had a problem. I didn't think it was NORMAL but at the time I think I was 14, maybe 15. She DID look older than she was but she didn't really ACT any older. Obviously she engaged in risky behavior rather early, she had a second child by the time she was 14, and by 16 she had four. They are beautiful kids but my thought is that she really lost her childhood by having babies when she was still a baby, and she was NOT independent nor financially stable. She wasn't mature enough to understand that some decisions you can make based on 'a good time' can affect you for the rest of your life and alter the benefits available to you longterm.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
10 Nov 08
My niece went on birth control after the birth of her first child which I am glad because that was to young. She tried going back to school but ended up having to be home schooled because of kids at school and their cruelty when they found out she had a baby even though they had moved to a different area so not everyone would know she had a baby. The father was 16 and he split when she was 6 months. She is married now ,she married her husband in Oct of last year and she is expecting the birth of her second child between late February or early March if things go okay since the first one was a preemie. I feel that maybe this person who had 4 children by 16 should have tried birth control of some type. Her life can't be easy that is for sure. I am not judging her by no means just feeling sorry that she wasn't able to have a full childhood.
• Philippines
4 Nov 08
I used to do that when I was 12 but nobody wants to believe me as I look younger than my real age.Now I'm 21,nobody wants to believe that I'm that old as I still look like a teenager.
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• Philippines
4 Nov 08
We've got the same problem my princess, hehehe. Do I have to say it's a problem or a blessing since we're still look young.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
10 Nov 08
It's still a problem for me. I get carded often still and I'm 34!
@mentalward (14695)
• United States
4 Nov 08
Oh, man! Do I EVER have a story about that!!! My son, who was 20 when this happened, had been corresponding with a girl who claimed to be 18. He had known her for 3 years and she said she was 15 when they met online, but she was really only 13! She lived in Tennessee, my son in Maryland. He went to Tennessee to meet her, honestly believing her to now be 18 years old. She had lied for 3 years about her age! He planned to spend a little time in Tennessee, maybe even moving there because he really cared for this gal (or thought he did). Anyway, I got a phone call in the middle of the night from another girl from Tennessee. Phone calls in the middle of the night are NEVER good! My son had been arrested and was in jail awaiting a preliminary hearing for statutory rape!!! The girl, who claimed to be 18 was only 16 years old! It was a nightmare! I had just been through some major health problems and was not driving. I had very little money, but I sent my son what I could so he could call me whenever he got the chance. I called around and finally got advice from a friend of mine who is an attorney. I simply couldn't see my son living the rest of his life as a convicted child molester when he was only guilty of being gullible and believing this gal's lies. I hired a lawyer for my son, then gathered as much information as I could... printing out emails, calling the gal in question, etc. She admitted to me in an email that she had lied to my son about her age. I mailed a copy of that email to my son's lawyer. I bought a bus ticket to Tennessee. Twenty-three hours on the bus... one way! My other son went with me. We spent the night in a cheap motel because that was all I could afford. Luckily, the lawyer I had hired was a real spitfire and got the charges dropped against my son. Then, the three of us went back to Maryland. All this because a 16-year-old girl had been lying about her age! I actually got her to reveal the truth and help my son however she could by telling her that SHE could go to jail as a minor enticing an adult to meet them across State lines. (That IS a crime!) This was a case of a YOUNGER teen preying on an older person! She wanted my son to come riding in on a white horse and whisk her away to Never-Never land! It's horrible! I hope the day comes when we all have access to lie detectors so we can verify for certain how old a person actually is. I.D. cards can be forged and bought. At least my son learned a HUGE lesson about that! He not only asks gals now to show him their I.D., but talks with people who know these girls to verify their true age before he gets totally involved. The internet is a terrific invention in many ways but it has also caused countless heartaches because of people lying about their age or marital status!
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
10 Nov 08
Ugh, my computer ate my reply. I feel for you SO much in this situation! Did this girl ever feel guilty about leading him on? I am glad that there was a way to get the charges dropped, and I think if somebody lies while completely duping the other party and then this happens, the person who lies SHOULD go to jail for lying. Maybe it would teach them a lesson, you don't have the right to play with someone's life and label them a rapist or molester for the rest of their life!! I do have one question though, if this girl had legally emancipated herself, wouldn't it have waived that since she would not longer have been considered a minor? I am surprised why more people do not go that route in order to protect themselves.
@mentalward (14695)
• United States
10 Nov 08
No, she hadn't emancipated herself. She was still living at home with her mother. My son had rented a room nearby when he went there. The really sad thing was that the age of consent in Maryland is 16, while it's 18 in Tennessee! None of this would have happened if it had happened in Maryland! I think she should have gone to jail herself. IF she felt guilty, she didn't show it. She didn't even show up at the preliminary hearing! I think a worse punishment would have been to force her to pay all the fees involved. The court fee alone was $300.00! The lawyer cost me $1,000.00. I spent a total of $3,000.00 because of that girl and her lies. SHE should be the one to pay me back, not my son. But, at least she's out of our lives and my son is EXTREMELY careful now!
@dawnald (84070)
• Shingle Springs, California
3 Nov 08
Reminds me of one of the Narnia books, forget which one, in which Susan, the older sister, was growing up and didn't believe any more in "childish" things. And Aslan said something about what a pity it was young girls were in such a hurry to get to the silliest age and that women tried so hard to stay there after they had passed it. We over glamorize the late teens and early 20's on tv, in magazines, etc. So no wonder that girls are in such a hurry to grow up too early and be that age. It's natural but at the same time it's scary on so many levels! Too many young people get involved in things that they just aren't equipped to handle. And where are the parents? Sad.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
4 Nov 08
This is how I feel too... I mean I understand a desire to be attractive to a bunch of other attractive people BUT...it just isn't right when you're still a kid. It will come soon enough, know what I mean? I do remember it felt like FOREVER before a year changed to the next when I was a kid but now I barely get used to writing 2007 and I have to write 2008 and heck look, 2009 is around the corner. I feel like I have amnesia or something, wasn't I just pregnant, and yet my daughter will be 5 next year. I wish there was a way to get these kids to understand how unprepared they are for adult things and just to wait until they can handle the responsibility - AND the consequences. There are so many consequences for things that are part of the adult realm, and we as adults balance pros and cons every day. Kids, especially younger teens, just cannot do that, most of them don't even SEE the cons! They always maintain it will 'never happen to them' or 'they are invincible' and they aren't, life just isn't that way.
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@dawnald (84070)
• Shingle Springs, California
4 Nov 08
I wish there were too. My older daughter is 11 and she "knows everything". Fortunately, her head is in the right place. How scary if she were into dangerous things and though that she knew everything.
• United States
3 Nov 08
This is a major problem... High schools are swamped with concern over this very issue. I think it's peer pressure. Wanting to belong, and craving for attention. I put some of the blame on the parents. C'mon let's face it, if they are claiming the age that they are not then their searching for attention that they cant get else where. In my opinion, keeping a child involved in sports or some sort of activity as long as possible keeps them balanced. My teen daughter has alot of pressure from her peers at school everyday. But she's balanced and it helps.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
4 Nov 08
I guess it's harder for me to understand the desire to cave to peer pressure because I didn't really feel like I HAD to. I made my own choices based on what mattered to me, not what my friends did and certainly not what the 'popular crowd' did either. I figured why go to the trouble of impressing people I didn't even LIKE? Attention is nice, but if you have to not even act like yourself in order to belong, what is the point? I wish kids could be more secure as kids and then they wouldn't go to these awful lengths to 'belong' when it doesn't do them any favors. Sports, volunteering, a job, other hobbies, all things that can help self confidence and the ability of a teen to see themselves as important and to think about their future, not going along with their friends doing risky things.
• United States
4 Nov 08
When I was a kid things were so much different. Again I think if the parents are more involved with there kids then it's less likely the kid will be searching for attention elsewhere. Thanks for commenting back
@gradyslady (4055)
• United States
3 Nov 08
I actually have the reverse problem...people think I look younger than what I am. In a month and 20 days I'll be 23, but everyone always looks at me and says I'm 15, I show them my ID they think it's fake...but it sucks because it makes me so furious. Age and looking your age is a hard thing to do, most of my friends that are younger than me look way older, well most of them are guys and they have facial hair but still they never get carded if we go to a bar, but I'm the only one that does, and I'm 2-3 years older than all of them....:( You can't really tell how old someone is by looking at them and it kind of sucks.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
4 Nov 08
I am not a good judge of age, and usually I will not attempt to guess unless I'm put on the spot. People get upset whether you guess too young or too old. People always think I'm younger as well and it sucks. Recently I've been getting carded less but less is not good enough.
@gyimah (46)
• Ghana
4 Nov 08
I always say age is number but some people are looking as a hard thing to do, but when looking at somebody you will think he/she is 50 years and the same apply to someone who is 50 as 20 year, face can't really tell age.
@laglen (19779)
• United States
8 Nov 08
I think all 13 year old girls want to be older. My biggest concern with your situation, I would contact the girls mother to let her know what her daughter is doing. This could put her in a very dangerous situation. I have a 14 year old girl and I would want to know if she was doing this.
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
10 Nov 08
Oh, the grandma knows. She expressed concern for how to handle it, and I think she just isn't sure what to do. She IS aware that it happened though, so at least she isn't completely in the dark.
@quinnkl (1667)
• United States
5 Nov 08
This is a world wide problem these days. Why do they think they have to grow up so fast! I don't think they actually realize how dangerous this is or the actual repercussions this can have. As parents I guess we have to just keep pounding this into their heads. It is scary for me, as a mom, to think about. I have never done this or felt the need, as a young girl or young woman, to do this. Is this a different kind of peer pressure the young girls are feeling these days? I just don't know.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
10 Nov 08
It's hard for me to know whether it's a different kind of pressure or just that the pressures are WORSE or begin younger these days. I've never felt the pressure to lie or try to get myself into a situation I couldn't handle. I think some kids have some type of innate NEED for acceptance and to follow others, and these are often the kids who get drawn in to pressures and lying. Kids who don't need this and really don't care don't tend to get in the same types of trouble.
@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
4 Nov 08
I never lied about my age and am not about to. I do not know if most teens realize that we, as adults, can usually tell. I have been teaching teens for close to 40 years and I can usually get an idea of how old they are by certain things that they say and do. I rarely meet a 13 year old who comes across as age 16, although there are few. Why do they do that? I never understood that.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
10 Nov 08
It must be some strange way of having their cake and eating it too, although we know that is a falsehood.
• Philippines
4 Nov 08
It's hard when your age does not fit your actual physical appearance. Sometimes people thinks that your immature. Like me, I'm 24 but I still look like I'm 20 or younger. My body is 3 years younger than my age. To forget all the frustrations, I just sometimes flirt with younger girls.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
10 Nov 08
Well I too look younger than I am, but I am 34. I guess it's not so bad for someone to think perhaps that I am 30, or maybe even 24, but to assume I am not even 21? That is insulting. LOL! People need to pay attention to more than just a 2 second impression based only on looks.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
4 Nov 08
It may be the girl tried to attract your 17 year boy.So she tried to proof that she is becoming adult. So she can't be neglected. So the girl lied her age.I think you observe the girl's movement.You should also keep your eye on your son. Both the girl and your son are teenagers.Teen agers love is a social problem. Some times teen age love creats unwanted situation.So my advice be alert about your son and observe the girl's movement.You may also notice it to the girl's parents.
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
10 Nov 08
I'm not so worried about it any more. I think I was more shocked when it initially happened - which is what prompted me to ask how others view this situation. I simply feel that it's not just dishonest to pretend to be older than you are if you're a minor, it can cause a criminal situation and that is not fair to others and not respectful towards yourself. It should be avoided AND prevented, and parents and other adult figures should be aware and be held accountable as should the minors themselves.
@ShepherdSpy (8561)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
4 Nov 08
Do you happen to know this girl's family,or Her Mother? I'd hope Her parents are as concerned about Her! "Wait til you're older" is used to put kids off from getting or doing something by Parents.The Media (mainly TV shows and movies) as part of our consumer culture glamourises adulthood,with partying,shopping,clothes,freedom to do what you want,hang out with who you want,etc,etc,drawing in the young who aspire to that lifestyle.. I remember a line from "True Lies" where Arnie is something like James Bond with a family,they're unaware of what he does at work-his teen Daughter is a wild child,hanging out with a biker boyfriend and stealing money from Arnie's partner's wallet when he calls round-the partner says (paraphrasing!) "The little time you spend with her each day is outgunned by MTV-Madonna and Axl Rose are her parents now!" The control side of adulthood is responsibility-kids used to having their parents taking responsibility for them are getting into the "new car" of being an adult,and only know where the accelerator is-no brakes! Girls discovering themselves just want to become Women..so,adding a few years along with the right clothes and makeup helps..and online,you can be who you want,until a face to face meeting comes about..Unfortunately,ID is not usually the first thing on a Guy's mind when faced with a young,attractive,interested female..My age story-The UK drinking age is 18..I don't drink,but back in the day,went into Bars with Guys from High School on nights out,and being baby faced and a non drinker (I KNOW some of the Drinking Guys I was with were Younger than Me!) I was the one that got put out!
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
10 Nov 08
Well I still get carded, and depending on how the person carding me acts, sometimes it's not so bad, but sometimes it is flat out offensive. I have an issue with people arguing with someone who is clearly an an adult and produces an ID - yet doesn't even ASK an underage girl to prove who she is. This girl lives with her grandma and I think the grandma is at a loss for how to handle it. She sings professionally so she is perhaps much more accomplished than the average 13 year old, and she DOES look older but I don't think that alone condones her presenting herself as older. I am quick to point out the drawbacks of being an adult to kids who think it is nothing more than fun and games. If you are smart about planning your day, yes, it CAN be more fun than not, but there are still things adults must do that are not enjoyable and you can't just ignore them or you could cause serious trouble for yourself. The only reason kids can shirk responsibility is that they have PARENTS or other adults to pick up the slack. If the kid doesn't do their laundry, an adult may finish it for them. If the kid loses their wallet and school ID, the parent can replace the wallet and go to the school and request another ID. A kid could get in a minor fender bender but the parent is the one who must now pay higher insurance, take the car to be fixed, and deal with the consequences. You can take a license away from a kid or charge them to pay their own ins premium but the parent still primarily shoulders the burden. The kids don't realize what a great safety net they have and many of them take it for granted!
• United States
4 Nov 08
I think it was very deceptive for you too lie about your age, but I also think it was brave of you to tell the truth also And your right, perverts on the net want little 13 year olds, so the reason you day thay you. I hope you don,t have any problems. I would say, with confidentd that you won't have any problems here at my lot.
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
10 Nov 08
It's not me, it's the granddaughter of a lady whom my son met.
@ronaldinu (12439)
• Malta
4 Nov 08
The problem is that we are expecting our children to act older than their age. You can look at their clothes that fashion designers create for them. Some of them are just simply clothes that not even a sl*t will wear. We have robbed them of their innocence. I dont blame them. But I do blame us (society in general) © ronaldinu 2008
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
10 Nov 08
I do not think everybody expects their children to act older than they are. There is age appropriate, and then there is emotional maturity appropriate. Those are not always matching up. I hear you on the clothing front, and if you try to avoid trends, you can often find things that are still cute but more appropriate for a little girl than something that screams 'look at me, I am your fantasy but I'm only ten' LOL! For me as far as my kids, benefits (age and maturity related) follow proof of responsibility, and with greater proof of responsibility comes greater benefits. I am fairly sure that my youngest will probably be trusted to do some things that my older ones could not be trusted to do at a younger age, but she's just as likely to lose a privelage if she screws around.
@subha12 (18452)
• India
4 Nov 08
I think some people have the habit of telling lies with age. actually in our case people try to hide age and say younger ages actually tahn they are.but we are all true in this case
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
10 Nov 08
I don't mind at all if it is just between consenting legal adults. I have a problem if someone who is a minor claims they are 18 or over.
@kkanaka (887)
• Singapore
4 Nov 08
If this kind of lie is used to get noticed or do adult things I think this is a very serious problem and that teenagers dont understand the consequences of these things, and its sure upsetting, older girls are assumed to be cool so the younger ones pretend to be older, its the problem they face and that age and they are using the best way they know to tackle it.. maybe you can tell to the parent of the girl and ask your son to be more careful with little girls.....
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
10 Nov 08
I think girls should be warned about this from the time they are children - even kindergarten/first grade level. If every girl is told that they could attract predators with this type of lying behavior, it may help to prevent some of it. I don't think it will work in every case, and it also would include parental enforcement and encouragement, but it would be a step in the right direction. I would also advocate serious LEGAL consequences for a minor pretending to be older. Make an example of just a few and you may not have to keep making examples.
@Zeddzz (77)
• United States
4 Nov 08
It would upset me to an extent, but in most cases I would be able to pick out their real age withing a half an hour of talking to them. When I was thirteen no one knew I was that young. In person they knew, because I looked my age at the time, but if anyone talked to me over the phone or online they thought I was 5 or more years older than my true age. It made me feel important and responsible, but I also remembered that I was in fact only thirteen. I always corrected people when they mistook me for an older age, and I still do. I'm 18 now, and I get mistaken for being up to fifteen years older than I am. Now, I don't look fifteen years older, mayhap four or five. My point here is that even without a teenaged individual lying about their age to seem older, many of us are, or have been mistaken for being older. Let us not forget that people are inherently stupid. They will believe what they want to be true, or what they fear might be. Too few people take that important step back from emotions to see the truth as it is, and that's truely what is wrong with what you have posted here about, as well as society it's self.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
9 Nov 08
Yes, people are inherently stupid. I am reminded of that repeatedly in life . Unless I'm having a bad day, I really try to give the benefit of the doubt. You strike me as the type of person who will look at more factors than just someone's physical appearance. This is GOOD, because it means you're more likely to be correct than someone who takes in only appearance and is half drunk. Funny aside about the phone - apparently I sound like a kid on the phone. Now *I* don't think so and for the most part neither do my friends. RECENTLY in fact I received a call from someone who when I answered said 'is your mommy home'. After a couple beats of silence I said 'I AM the mommy and you have called my cell phone' LOL. What made it super funny for me was that it was a phone call from someone I was purchasing something from and I had specifically emailed her my cell number in case I wasn't home. My son does not always give me messages and I'm lax about checking voicemail. Keep in mind, I don't think lying about age is an issue AFTER people are all of legal age. I don't care if the guy at the bar who wanted to buy me a drink pretends he's 30 when he decides to approach me even if he's actually 22 because we're all legal and I'm married. I also see nothing wrong with a 35 year old woman saying she's 25 if she can pass for it and people believe her. There's no criminal or felony involved when everybody is over 18. Too few people take that important step back from emotions to see the truth as it is, and that's truely what is wrong with what you have posted here about, as well as society it's self. EXCELLENT POINT! I think I shall add you as a friend.