Is he the one?!
November 3, 2008 12:23pm CST
I have a new boyfriend. We are together for a month now. I can totally say that he is different from the other guys that I have loved before. But he is just too good to be true. My past relationships didn't work out due to my stupidity and stubborness(I admit!)but without them helping me to work things out,it will really not work. I love them,and I know that they did eveything to work on our relationship.But sad to say,It is not enough. Now, here comes another guy. He totally changed me,as a person and help me grow-up on my childish attitude and help me become mature enough to make just decisions. He's so sweet than my ex-boyfriends. I am not comparing them,but the differences that is so obvious makes me think that this new guy is really taking so much effort to make our relationship workout,than my ex-boyfriends that were contented on being together. Well,I didn't want to demand anything from them and I can say that what they are showing is enough to prove their worth. But this new guy is really something... After a lot of relationships that I've gone through,He is the first one to give me something concrete,he gave me a TEDDY BEAR. It is the first gift I ever received from a boyfriend.Rather than just hugs and kisses,that we can do or give each other everytime we are together,something solid/concrete makes the relationship more special. I know that material things aren't so important. But showing additional effort is a plus to the relationship right?! I can totally say that he is the ideal man that a woman can have in her life,and I can say that I can live with him for the rest of my life. But as what I've gone through,I still am not sure if he is "THE ONE"... I'd like to believe that he is...but the fear of being lost and alone frightens me.. I had taken the risk,but I can not 100% say that I am willing to face the consequences,especially if it will turn out to be what I have feared most... What will I do?!
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4 Nov 08
Whoa! Slow down there! You've only known this guy a month and your're already sure he's the one for you? Could that be why your past relationships did not work out? Before you get hurt again, just give things some time. REALLY get to know him. See him in all kinds of situations like with his family, with your family, with your friends. If he IS the one he'll still be there six months or a year from now. Don't let your fear of being alone drive you into a relationship that is wrong for you. You are worth so much more than that!! You asked, "What will I do?" Just have fun!! Get to know him. Spend lots of time together. Do silly, fun, cool things together. Just don't move too fast, sweetie. I don't want to log on one day and see a post from you about your heart being broken!! Just have a good time together. All my best to you and your new boyfriend. He does sound awfully nice!
4 Nov 08
I wish you all the happiness you deserve, dear. Take your time and Always remember to be yourselves. It is true that you will get a sign once the guy you're with is really the one meant for you. so just be patient and pray.
3 Nov 08
This relationship is still young. I would advise you though to stop comparing him with your ex's it is not right. Remember that every individual has different personalities some may be different from what you expect. Please to take things slowly and try to be a friend while in love. I have found out that friendship in a relationship works out very good. It is good that he is encouraging you and also building your self esteem but don't rush. Sometimes us as girls tend to see a good guy comes along and push him to do things he is not ready for. Just try to be a friend remember you cannot learn about a person in one month. There are more months and years to come. Males are deceitful and I know that you don't know everything about him. Don't set up yourself for a broken heart. Take it slowly.
6 Nov 08
mheckglo, One cannot attempt to Love without risking being hurt. Like two sides of a coin, it is just part of the deal as you accept Love into your life. When you open the floodgates, you will take in all things, both good and bad. If you are weary about the other party's intention, then you need to avoid taking haste and making irrational decision. Hence, your next course of action would be to figure out if he is the right fit - at least a comfortable fit. Halt that emotions for just a moment first - enjoy the platonic and casual friendship naturally, without placing yourself into some self-constructed commitment. Since you both are still within the 'friendship' zone, then behave and think likewise (albeit you probably will not be able to feel along this direction, but that's alright). This course of action will allow the both of you the much needed time and space to let each other explore and express oneself. So, like they always say Less haste, less waste. Take care.