Do you consider yourself to be shy?

@rocketj1 (6960)
United States
November 7, 2008 11:47am CST
In what situations are you shy? Have you always been that way? OR Are you always outgoing? Are you never shy?
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@peedielyn (1210)
• United States
7 Nov 08
WOW! Good question. I am bold no matter where I go. I can go to a club and just talk to anyone. I can go to friends' houses with people there I don't know and just have a blast. I cannot, however, go with someone to a strange place. For example, I have a dear friend that I have known for many years and when he takes me places that are unknown to me, I freak out. I don't know these people and I am supposed to be "Rose" around them. Most of my friends take me as I am, I don't know how to react to people that don't know me!
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
8 Nov 08
Sounds like you like to feel comfortable in your surroundings to be able to be yourself. That is probably very normal. Thanks for your response:)
@eaforeman6 (8983)
• United States
7 Nov 08
I love talking to people and I doont think that I am shy. However when I was young , then yes, I was shy. I grew out of that. I am glad that I did. I am very interested in people and what they think and what they do, and it lead me out of the shyness...
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
8 Nov 08
Yes, I think it IS something that people often outgrow. Thanks, eaforeman:) Have a wonderful weekend!
@royal52gens (5380)
• United States
7 Nov 08
I am shy at times. When I am among friends, where I am comfortable, I tend to be outgoing. There are some situations that I find myself quite shy.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
8 Nov 08
So it really depends on the situation. Thanks:)
• Philippines
11 Nov 08
i consider myself to be extremely shy...i am a quiet person and it takes sometime for me to totally be comfortable with new acquaintances. sometimes people think of me as snobbish. i am pretty friendly and approachable, but i really am just shy...i dont understand why...
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@teedyboo (56)
11 Nov 08
As a child I was very shy and awkward - I had close friends but was quiet and studious and consequently wasn't that popular with the 'cool kids'. I wasn't bullied or anything but got my fair share of teasing for this reason and that. It made me very self-conscious and I had very little confidence. Then when I was 18 I met my now-husband and the love and attention he showed me gave me loads of self-esteem. I went off to uni and although I wasn't a social butterfly out drinking every night, I did make friends and got on with all the different people on my course. I'm 28 now and have improved a lot - I used to quake with fear at the thought of doing a presentation or speaking in front of a group, but now I find that with a bit of preparation and deep breathing I can get through most things like that. I don't really enjoy making small talk with strangers either, but I find I can force myself to be confident if I try. I'm a big fan of The Secret by Rhonda Byrne and I do believe that if you truly expect something then it will happen. I'm working on making myself believe that I am a confident and sociable person and I think it's working... ;o) Best wishes, Teedyboo :o)
@CanadaGal (4304)
• Canada
10 Nov 08
I can be very shy or very outgoing, and it all depends on my mood or the situation I'm in. If I'm put in a leadership role, I have no problem taking charge and being assertive. But when in a participants role, I tend to play more shy, and let others take the lead.
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@cynthiann (18613)
• Jamaica
7 Nov 08
I was born shy or conditiopned to be shy. I'm not sure which! all my life I was shy and being a teacher this was very difficult for me. (By the way, all my typos is not becasue of my lack of grammer or spelling - it is because my fingers are stiffening up with a little arthritus!) Anyway, to take devotion for the whole school was an ordeal. Then a very strange thing happend. I did a religious course called "Life in the Spirit' and at the end of this 6 month course I was prayed over for the release of my gifts of the spirit. Gues what? One of the gifts was treaching. I now read regularly at Church and am now considered to be an excellent speaker who can speak so eloquently at the drop of a hat on any occasion. Of course, I know that this gift is from God and not from me. My husnabnd used to ask where was the shy girl that he married.LOL. Who's shy? Not me, not anymore
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
8 Nov 08
cynthiann, I have found in my own personal life that my shyness was mostly caused by the lies that I had grown to believe about myself. When I learned more about who I am in Christ, these things were brought to light as the untruths that they are. Now I seek to have my mind renewed by God. This has empowered me to do things for Him that I never had confidence to do before. Thank you for your testimony here!
@cynthiann (18613)
• Jamaica
8 Nov 08
Fear rocket, You write tings that amaze me. I know that you are a young person but you are very wise. In life, I have found that we really have to look into ourselves and peel away the layers of what we thought we were until we reach the core or the heart of ourselves. Then we know that we belong to our Creator. Nothing bad comes from God - only good. I loved this response from yuou. Have a blessed weekend.
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@cynthiann (18613)
• Jamaica
8 Nov 08
My arthritic fingers! Of course it should have read "dear not Fear Rocket! apologies
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@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
7 Nov 08
i don't guess i've run up on that situation yet, heidi. lol if i do i'll let u know. have a good one.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
12 Nov 08
I didn't think you'd be shy, jo! Thanks:)
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@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
12 Nov 08
i think u are right. lol hope all is well w/you & yours. don't seem like i hear from u like i did.are u cooking thanksgiving? i am. i sort of dread it but i can do a littlee along & it's not as hard as it use to be when i was working. ijust don't feel good anymore & i'm slower than i use to be. old age, u know. lol
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
12 Nov 08
We've been married 18 years and in all this time, we've never had Thanksgiving here. I take that back. One time we did. It was just my in laws and we did ham instead of turkey. My FIL insisted on working on our sink (we were replacing our faucet) He had the worst time. He never did get it right! It was bad. That's probably why I've blocked it from my memory. My FIL finally quit after I insisted that he did! We called a plumber friend from church the next week and he fixed it in about 10 minutes. I didn't want to tell my FIL that! I think my husband did though.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
8 Nov 08
Hello rocketj1 I am very out going but there are certain situations that I am shy, like I would never ask a man out on a date and I get a bit shy around men in general unless I am drunk of course and then they had better watch out! Just kidding!
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
8 Nov 08
Oooooo, boy!!! Thanks for the laugh today! You always make my day!
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@Humbug25 (12551)
8 Nov 08
That's nice to know, thanks!
@Nhey16 (2518)
• Philippines
7 Nov 08
am i shy??? i guess, or maybe i'll use the word quiet person rather than shy... whenever im in a crowd, i just love to listen to my friends to whatever topic we discussed. :)
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
12 Nov 08
I think shy can be fearful and it's sounds like you are just quiet. That's different, right? Thanks:)
@Nhey16 (2518)
• Philippines
13 Nov 08
yeah... they are different... i'd say im a quiet type of person...
@Daffodil20 (1754)
• India
7 Nov 08
People take me for an outgoing person because I successfully portray myself as one. But deep down I know and those who are close to me, they know that I am a shy person. I behave differently because I don't want others to know about my week qualities. lol.
@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
8 Nov 08
Self-preservation, right? Thanks:)
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• India
12 Nov 08
Yes, it helps. I learnt it pretty early from similar people know.
@zhaychel (610)
• United Arab Emirates
8 Nov 08
No, I'm very outspoken and confident person. I was never shy even when I was young. During family gathering, my aunties and uncles would tell me to dance, I would immediately go to their center and start dancing like a cute macarena girl. As a grew up, I still have the traits to be very outgoing and straight forward. I also need it in my job as well. We termed ourselves having THICK faces. heheh.. ^^,
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
12 Nov 08
Good for you! You are very outgoing! Thanks:)
@mojcica (1512)
• Slovenia
8 Nov 08
Mostly I am not shy, there are situations when I feel uncomfort, but generally no I would say I am not shy.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
12 Nov 08
Thanks for your response:)
• India
8 Nov 08
I've always been an introvert. I don't really seek social situations, and I always have to have at least a little while each day where I can be by myself. But as for shyness - It really depends on the situation. Get me around the right people (and it just doesn't have to be people that I know well) and I can talk too much. But around other people you're lucky to get three words out of me (and I'm afraid I come off as a grunting fool to those types of people.) The amount of authority they hold has something to do with it - but there's also a million other little things (that I can't really explain) that come into play in deciding whether I'm completely open or utterly shy (or somewhere in between) around a person. I never do well with small talk - but even if the "conversation" with someone in the group that tends to make me shy turns toward something I care about - like movies (I'm a cinephile) or certain political issues or Bob Dylan or travel (etc.) - I still have a hard time thinking of anything to say. Anyways - I know I do worry far too much about what people think of me. And I always think of things to say minutes or hours (or days) after a conversation is ended. I'm horrible at small talk, and almost always remain awkwardly silent around certain people. So yeah, I probably would consider myself shy. Though it really depends on who is trying to strike up a conversation.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
12 Nov 08
I think what you are saying is totally understandable. I think we need a sense of trust or familiarity with people to be able to feel totally comfortable right away. Thanks:)
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
8 Nov 08
I used to be shy when I was younger, but I am not now, nor have I been for quite a few years.. I belive with age comes a certain sense of who you are and you learn to like yourself and it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of you.. That is the way that I am now, I like myself and I don't really care if anyone else does or not, I am me and only me, I never try to act as if I am any different that what anyone sees.. But again, I was so shy when I was younger, I do remember hiding behind my mothers dress tails..
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
12 Nov 08
I did the same. Yes. I think you are right about age and our sense of who we are. Thanks:)
@aditya540 (328)
• India
8 Nov 08
yeah ofcourse i am very shy person and eventhough i am a boy i feel shy whenever i see any outside girls..!! Please dont imagine that i am a kinda person who runs away seeing other girls,definately not but,i feel shy to talk with them freely and to share my thoughts and views..!! I need some time to mingle..!!1
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
12 Nov 08
You need to take time to feel comfortable around new people, right? Thanks:)
@sarazeng (221)
• China
8 Nov 08
Hi rocketj1! I will feel shy when someone praise me..What about you, rocketj1?
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
12 Nov 08
Oh, wonderful, lovely sarazeng!! Have I done it now? Thanks:)
@salonga (27835)
• Philippines
8 Nov 08
Nope! I don't think I am no. I used to have a bit of shyness when I was younger but I have completely overcome the feeling of shyness ever since I become a Christian. For as long as I am walking uprightly with God and not doing anything wrong I need not be shy. I think God has given me enough self confidence so I am so thankful to him.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
12 Nov 08
I think you are right. Shyness can also be fear. We are not to be fearful as Christians. God is always helping me with that too. Thanks:)
@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
8 Nov 08
I was a very shy person when I was still schooling. I found it hard to deal and mingle with people. I remembered when I was in kindergarten, I would never go to the board for the board work without my mother with me. When I was in high school, I was always afraid to recite or talk in front of my classmates, but I can when I am in a group. Thanks to my PE teacher because she included me in the dance group that I was able to gain a little confidence. Until now, I still have this shyness in me, but I try to fight it.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
12 Nov 08
Things like being in a dance group can really help, can't they? Sometimes we have to push our way through! Thanks:)
@ch88ss (2270)
• United States
7 Nov 08
Yes I see myself as shy and I feel this has also affected my career since I am not too outgoing I miss out on a lot of great opportunity.
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
12 Nov 08
Yes. It can hold us back. Thanks:)