THOUGHT THIS WAS GOOD INFO TO PASS ALONG... Through a rapist's eyes!
@icedcoffeemallows (649)
Philippines
November 8, 2008 10:29pm CST
A group of rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:1.) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2.) The second thing men look for is clotting. They will look for women whose clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.
3.) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.
4.) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked at is a grocery store parking lot.
5.) Number two are office parking lots/garages.
6.) Number three are public restrooms.
7.) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.
8.) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9.) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.
10.) Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince there guys you're not worth it.
POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:
1.) If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like "what time is it", or make general small talk like "can't believe it is so cold out here, we're in for a bad winter." Now that you've seen their faces and could identify them in a line-up, you lose appeal as a target.
2.) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell "Stop!" or "Stay back!". Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
3.) If you carry pepper spray, yelling "I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY!" and holding it our will be a deterrent.
4.) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can try do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh - HARD. One woman in a class told that she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it, it really hurts.
5.) After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly fortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.
6.) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. These will end them up on their knees.
7.) Always be aware of our surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.
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@CinderInMySoul (4717)
• United States
9 Nov 08
thanks for posting this info! another couple i can add, and that i have spoken with my 13yr old girl a number of times (much to her annoyance lol)
If you are grabbed and you cant knee/kick him in the groin...go for the face, specifically THE EYES. every creature will try to protect its eyes. shove your thumb in as deep as it will go..push for the brain!
another is also on the head...go for the mouth..lips in particular..grab a lip and pull...now dont just yank it, RIP IT OFF...do everything you can to remove it from his face!
that and scream your head off, fight, kick, punch, scratch..DONT STOP FIGHTING BACK. you might think that if you "do what he says" (going quietly) that you will be ok..NOT TRUE. you cannot let them take you to that second location!!
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@icedcoffeemallows (649)
• Philippines
9 Nov 08
Thanks for the additional info you have there.But I might not want the blood all over my hands/body. Haha..
But that's a good alternative part that we can access easily. Thanks again! 
But that's a good alternative part that we can access easily. Thanks again! 
@pinkfloyd007 (375)
• India
9 Nov 08
Hey thats a really informative discussion. It will be helpful for all my female friends. Thank you for sharing this on myLot.
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@icedcoffeemallows (649)
• Philippines
9 Nov 08
Yup, i find it very useful. Share it with your friends to keep them informed as well
. Happy lotting! 
. Happy lotting! 
@ParaTed2k (22940)
• Sheboygan, Wisconsin
9 Nov 08
Thank you for forwarding this. I don't know how good the source is, but the information sounds good.
The number 1 way for anyone to reduce the threat of random violence is to be aware of their surroundings.
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@makingpots (11915)
• United States
9 Nov 08
This is a nice public service discussion. Interesting stuff. Thanks for sharing it with us here at myLot.
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@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
9 Nov 08
Those are really good points. I read through them and as sad as it is alot of them make sense. Women everyday are so busy and have a millionandone thingson their mind theiralways distracted and its making them easy targets. My boss was targeted ina walmart parking lot 9 oclock at night once. She was carrying diapers for her son to her car when a man started roughing her around. Thank got she had that big bag cause she hit him with it and jumped in her car. If she only had her tiny keys as a defence he woulda hurt her way before she had the chance to hurt him. Scary wat kind of things you have to worry about these days..
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@icedcoffeemallows (649)
• Philippines
9 Nov 08
Good thing your boss is safe. It is really hard to trust people this days. So we must always be aware and careful.
Take care! :)
Take care! :) @YamiKiba (937)
• United States
9 Nov 08
Wow. . .that's really interesting information and a lot of it is just plain common sense. Thanks for the valuable information. (: Haha I don't think I'll ever be targeted though as most people mistake me for a guy anyway. . .so unless I encounter someone who bats for both teams or really doesn't care as long as he (or she, women can be rapists too. .) gets some, but I'll keep the info just in case it does happen. xD Never know when a can of pepper spray can help you out. :3
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@gitfiddleplayer (10362)
• United States
9 Nov 08
Interesting stuff, thanks for the heads up.
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@kylie_quistis (1220)
• Philippines
9 Nov 08
Thanks for this very helpful info, it's really handy and full of useful information that is really worth to share. I should remember all of this, although I really wish I wouldn't encounter any situation like this one. Really great discussion to share, again thanks for sharing this. 

@GemmaR (8517)
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9 Nov 08
This made a really interesting read, thanks for posting it! I know a couple of people who have been affected by these 'issues' and they match your description perfectly.
At least I hopefully won't have to go through this now I can see how to avoid being in such a situation.
Thanks again.
@mercuryman3a (2477)
• India
9 Nov 08
I must say that a lot of thought has gone into these point. They are all good points and I am sure will be very helpful to women.
Another thing i have noticed is that at least in India most of the rapes and then murders are committed by people who are known to the victim. They have mostly followed them around and have looked for an opportunity. They have been reported against to teh police a number of times but have been emboldened by the in action of the police. Tackling such rapists is the mst difficult part as they are constantly a threat and keep an eye on you and always are on the look out for an opportunity. Could be a neighbouror a person in the same locality or a person in the place of work.
WE need to find ways to tackle such people.
@mariposaman (2959)
• Canada
9 Nov 08
While some of these might have some merit, if you think cutting your hair will protect you, you might want to think again. You would be better off taking a self defense course and avoiding parking lots alone late at night. Also do not get in the car. If they are going to kill you better do it right there as you will be alone and unreachable in that car.















