is getting a dna test important if he is suspected of fathering a child?
By annjilena
@annjilena (5618)
United States
November 8, 2008 10:46pm CST
many people jsut go by trust when they say honey iam pregnant but is this alway the wise thing to do.i know this girl sweared up and down this guy was the father when he was tested guess what he was not the father.she said she made a mistake it was this other guy we all human and we do sometimes make mistakes so he was tested and it was not his baby.now the second time is no mistake she tested the third guy it was not his baby so now to this date she don,t know who her baby father is.she had to raise him by herself and it,s been hard.so you have to know who the father of your baby when you want to get him tested as being the father.do you think after testing 2 and three time for the baby daddy that this is a mistake are she just didn,t take precaution to keep from getting pregnant.if you are told they are pregnant by then i think you should have her tested especially if you and her is not together anymore.
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
9 Nov 08
oh yes they need to get tested the very mihn. some gal tells this Hey honey I am PG.
This kid was about 13 when his mom decided to go after my son as the father.
My son never did get to see this woman and he didnt know her but got tested and he wasnt the father . What I wantt o know is why she pointed him out when he had never met her?
Was it cause he is so good looking she thught that might work? and that she would get him?
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@annjilena (5618)
• United States
9 Nov 08
could be people are crazy do alsort of things these days iam glad he was not the father of her baby.this dna test saved him from 18 years of taking care of someone elses child thank for sharing
@carmela0210 (1591)
• Philippines
9 Nov 08
hahahah, 3 times!!whoa, how come he indulge to many different guys...but maybe it was her choice anyway!!i cant judge her with that, but i think guys have this feeling and they knows it when they were they father of the baby, and i also think that being the girl i would know who would be the father of my baby...but in that kind of case i would say DNA test was necessary, but on my part that my ex and i have this trust i dont think its necessary to do!!happy lotting...
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
9 Nov 08
i think a man know too but there are some guys that just don,t want to be a father because they know their life will change forever are at least 18 years.if you going to act like a man he needs to full a man shoes.this is what a man does. he thinks before he acts.thank for sharing
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@carmela0210 (1591)
• Philippines
9 Nov 08
they think before they acts??...i dont think so!!some maybe, but not mostly...mostly now they seem to be not mature and they just think of the s e x thing without thinking what would be the consequences next!
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
9 Nov 08
they have broken up she then started dating someone else now he is wondering is he really the baby daddy.many people told him he should get a dna testing before he except this responsility.he don,t trust her and he not sure he is the father.thank you for sharing
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
9 Nov 08
annji,
I think it is sad when a man has to have a DNA test to see if he is the father of this helpless little infant. Unfortunately the men involved must take responsibility for their own actions. They need to open their eyes and listen to this woman that they so freely are getting personally involved with. Doesn't anyone ask questions anymore? All the old diseases are still here. And yet once again sooooooooooo many people, young and old alike are reverting back to the days before Aides. Pay attention to whom you get involved with. If the woman does not insist on protection then the man or woman should. It's simply that easy. These poor children that come into this world without regard to their health and happiness, have very little chance.
leenie
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
9 Nov 08
fathers because by testing he will know if it,s his are not.so many just lay their baby on these guys who really want be keeping someone elses child up just to find out that it,s not yours,too late then the judge will not over turn his decision.i know this guy who was marrried and they had 3 kids and he and her got in a custody battle over the kids, by then the oldest one was 18 and he had the middle son and she had the daughter how about she decide to confess that the oldest one is not his after 18 years.she was cheating while he was truck driving all these year boy was he mad but there was nothing he could do about it the child was grown and then she decided to start dating the 18 year old dad again after 18 years.now this was dirty for a woman to treat a man like this he married her because she was pregnant he was never given a choice to say i don,t want to marry you he thought he was doing the right thing so yes, take a dna test to make sure its your are you could be keeping someone elses child.
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@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
10 Nov 08
annji,
I completely agree that this man should get a DNA test. This woman has lied and cheated on him the whole time they have been together. It's sad and it's so unfair to this poor man and their children. I wish him luck and better chices in the future.
leenie
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
9 Nov 08
that true this will solve a lot of problem for the kids as well as the fathers because by testing he will know if it,s his are not.so many just lay their baby on these guys who really want be keeping someone elses child up just to find out that it,s not yours ,too late then the judge will not over turn his decision.i know this guy who was marrried and they had 3 kids and he and her got in a custody battle over the kids, by then the oldest one was 18 and he had the middle son and she had the daughter how about she decide to confess that the oldest one is not his after 18 years.she was cheating while he was truck driving all these year boy was he mad but there was nothing he could do about it the child was grown and then she decided to start dating the 18 year old dad again after 18 years.now this was dirty for a woman to treat a man like this he married her because she was pregnant he was never given a choice to say i don,t want to marry you he thought he was doing the right thing so yes, take a dna test to make sure its your are you could be keeping someone else child up.
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
9 Nov 08
she don,t know 3 was tested none was the father so she was out their for a minute to not know who her baby daddy is,it better to have a dna test so there will be no confusion who is the father wether he marry her are not at least he will know that his blood.thank you for sharing
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
9 Nov 08
well if you are with a woman that is not sleeping with anyone else you know the baby is yours,
I would have been insulted if my baby father said he wanted testing to be sure.
But if you are not sure then get tested.
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
10 Nov 08
thats the thing we can never be 100%sure because we can,t watch anyone 24-7 so with a small percentage of doubt i think the father should be tested until he just did not touch her.it,s better for him to know then not to know all doubt is cleared up at that point.thank you for sharing
@prinzess1515 (1341)
• United States
10 Nov 08
If the father of my child said he wanted to do a dna test because he wasn't sure if he was the father I would of just said, fine, you are not the father and would of been done with him. I would be so insulted by the fact of him accusing me of cheating and denying his child, I wouldn't want to have anything to do with him or would want my son around him.
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
10 Nov 08
i say only do it if you are not sure some men have doubts wether the child is there for fear she is cheating now if he knows you are not cheating i to would be insulted.especially if iam only with him.thank you for sharing your honesty
@eddie42 (270)
• United States
9 Nov 08
get a dna test to protect you and the baby it,s very important to be tested if you are being told you are the father to make sure you are really the father.
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
10 Nov 08
yes i say get it too to protect the father and the baby so he will know he is really taking care of his child and no one elses.thanks for sharing
@lovelyvelle (639)
•
21 Nov 08
Well, in this case if a man is suspecting that he is not the father of the child he should have a dna test. My brother was a victim of trust, he trusted this woman who told him that he got her pregnant, and her family forced him to marry her. And then when the baby was born we just found out that he is not the father but too late they are married already, and divorce is not allowed in the Philippines.
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
22 Nov 08
oh my goodness that is really bad iam so sorry your brother got caught up he shouldn,t have let them force him to marry her,i really feel bad for him no one should have to go throough that.iam so sorry.happy mylotting
