Do you take responsibilities of your failures with ease and rightaway?

@mimpi1911 (25464)
India
November 9, 2008 11:10am CST
Do you take responsibilities of your failures with equal ease just as you take charge of your achievements? We have this tendency of taking charge of our triumphs and feel elated about it. On the contrary, when it comes to accepting our wrongdoings and failures we kind of pass on it to others. I agree, this requires great strength but once we are able to do that we are much poised and at peace. Trust me it makes us wiser and liberated. So, how brave are you?
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
10 Nov 08
Maybe not with ease mimpi but I do try to confront any failures I have made in life head on and with the same attention I give to my successes. If I don't do this and "pass the buck" so to speak; then how can I possibly learn from these mistakes to ensure I don't make them anymore? It DOES require great strength to confront, accept and overcome mistakes in life, but we do end up wiser and more liberated as a result just as you have said. The only way to move on from a failure is to learn from it and put it to rest. We can't do that if we don't acknowledge and face it! Many people have the mindset that if we ignore something then it will go away. This may be true for some situations but it is not for something like this.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
11 Nov 08
That's a good way to put we. Our failures ccertainly make us wise and admitting, accepting, learning and moving on not to step in the same would be the right attitude.
@balasri (26537)
• India
10 Nov 08
By nature I always hate passing the buck and arguments.I can point someone for my failure easily but I cannot satisfy my conscience which knows that it is only I that have failed miserably.I like to take responsibility for my failures, learn from them and march towards success always rather than living with a tormented soul.I am never egoistic.
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@balasri (26537)
• India
11 Nov 08
Thanks Mimpi.We have to be different and always far from the maddening crowd.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
11 Nov 08
Far from the madding crowd.....stand tall anf beautiful. I see you right there bala..
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
10 Nov 08
That's what makes you completely humane and beautiful! Taking charge of our failures gives us enormous strength to fight the world and I knew that you are like this.
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@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
10 Nov 08
Hi Mou i dont know much about others, but i am incharge of one of small dept in my factory, and sure lot of work passes through our department and instyructions as well. If somehow something Went Wrong, I admitt it and take responsibilty as a incharge. I believe its best way to correct it. The same thing i convey to my colleagues that if something went wrong, no need to get scared or hide it, but tell me immediately, as i might not be able to stop it 100% , but atleast can try to minimine the effect or loss. Errors are human nature, i dont mind them, but hiding them and delaying information about is "big crime" to me as by this u make another mistake and loose chance to overcome it or reverse It Take care
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
11 Nov 08
Great way to put it Zass. Things get so easy o admitting and taking charge. Delay only makes things worse.
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@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
12 Nov 08
@iskayz (5420)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
Hi there! I have been a strong woman even when I was a kid. I am always responsible of my actions and I never blame anyone of my failure. I have failed so many times in my lifetime and yet still I keep standing. Some of them my parents never even knew about. I don't know. My aunt said once that the more I cry the more I become stronger. There were times I cry for my failures but just to let the bad feeling out of my chest and then I stop and never cry on it again. I try to learn from my mistakes. Not promising not to do it again but always to be reminded of it and make the right decisions if I get to experience the same situations again. Weird, but I am proud of my failures cause it made me who I am today. Ciao!
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
11 Nov 08
I am sorry that life has been bad with you but at the same time am happy that you have withstood it all and have become stronger. I wish you to live life positively just as you are living now and face the turmoils wit grace and strength.
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@iskayz (5420)
• Philippines
11 Nov 08
Well, unexpected things happens in life. I never expected my failures and yet again I am thankful for them. And yes, maybe I was able to withstood everything with grace.
@CJay77 (4438)
• Australia
10 Nov 08
Hi mimpi! I do take responsibility of my failures although its not always easy to accept it, but I guess I can learn from it and to become a wiser person, like you have said. Thanks dear.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
10 Nov 08
It;s difficult but once we can do that it feels great! i have been trying to do that ans it gives me so much confidence.
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@CJay77 (4438)
• Australia
10 Nov 08
I am also trying my best to do that and try to be more positive in life.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
11 Nov 08
You will be a winner. Good luck!
@lild2028 (10)
• United States
9 Nov 08
I take my failer pretty well. Occasionally though i do get angry
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
10 Nov 08
• India
10 Nov 08
I dont care at all....
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
10 Nov 08
It does not come with equal ease Mimpi,atleast in my experiences. Accepting the responsibility and be ready to face the consequences of them do indeed require a lot of strength. The mental barrier once broken though ,makes it a little easier. And it does bring about the poise and the peace of mind. It has in my case once i learnt to accept the responsibility. But there is something that i must add here. The poise comes about not only with the acceptance but the actions and emotions which follow it. What i mean here, is that acceptance of the responsibility does bring about certain feelings and emotions of shame,guilt and sadness, and having control of these emotions and using the lessons learnt with rightful action to follow is what finally will make us wiser and liberated.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
10 Nov 08
to be able to accept the failure and wrongdoings is the stepping stone towards retribution. once we can do that we try to follow the rightful action. its a learning process and we get wiser definitely in the process. but i fear, a lot of us fear the consequences of accepting the fault and turn arrogant and conceited to hide the drawback!
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@riyasam (16556)
• India
25 Nov 08
it is easier said than done.in the beginning when i was i used to try to pass on the mistakes on someone else but now i have learnt to accept failures gracefully.to err is human.......
@riyasam (16556)
• India
26 Nov 08
someone once told me failures are stepping stones to sucess.i had a kt in my final year mbbs.it was so deperssing.i was a topper all my life.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
26 Nov 08
Riya you would be a topper all the way....
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
26 Nov 08
That's so human Riya and we all learn from failures.....
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@derek_a (10874)
10 Nov 08
The way I see it that it is rare to find success without some sort of failure preceding it. Success and failure depend on each other, for how would you know if you have succeeded at something if you didn't know failure? If I feel I have failed at something, providing I know that success if possible, I keep digging away at it. I may spend less time with it, but I never fully give up on anything really. If someone else has succeeded, then it is possible for me to do so also. :-)
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
11 Nov 08
That's a positive way to live life, I really appreciate derek. Good luck!
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
10 Nov 08
What failures?!!!!! LOL. All of life is a learning experience and when we do our best, we have no failures. I do not play the blame game with others and certainly not with myself. If at first I don't succeed, I try again, but I don't consider the first try a failure...a stepping stone, perhaps, but not a failure. Brave enough not to do anything foolhardy, I hope.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
10 Nov 08
i just wish thinhgs could b that simple! glad to have known you. you are optimism personified.
@bjcyrix (6901)
• Philippines
14 Nov 08
I take failures easily actually especially when I know I am at fault and also I have this tendency to accept other's fault as well. But on the rare occasion that I do believe that it was not my fault and was wrongly accused of it Id be truly stubborn, present my case, and defend my stand. Same as in achievements. I usually just brush it off and not make a big deal out of it but if its something that I truly worked hard for and feel that I do deserve it after the hard work, Id be happy about it and share it with the world. I just dont brag about it.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
21 Nov 08
That's so sensible of you! Basking in the glory can give you a false sense of pride and we never know the next moment could be our downfall. we should be careful of our dispositions. Taking responsibility of failures, when in a team is very important But people must not take you for granted. That would make us so upset.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
24 Nov 08
Good to know that dear. I do not want to see you or anyone for that matter hurt and upset.
@bjcyrix (6901)
• Philippines
23 Nov 08
Ah well, just got to know when to draw the line I guess so as not to be taken advantage of.
@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
11 Nov 08
Unfortunately, I don't. Pride and denial set in right away. I would say I always have a very difficult time during transitions in life. At first, if things don't go the way I want, everything is to blame but me. But when I finally get to that point of accepting that it was all my fault, then I tend to be even more harsh with myself than I am with those that I blamed before. And then I look back and reflect what just happened. Sadly, I just can't seem to learn from all these experiences.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
11 Nov 08
Sisi this used be my case some years back.The same circle, the deja vus. But now, I think I have come with terms with it and restarted it all pover agin. I am much wiser no doubt. Good luck1
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
21 Nov 08
I know you will come out of it. I wish you luck and hope to see you much at peace. Blessed be.
@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
21 Nov 08
Thanks, mou. For the BR. I hope I am much wiser now too. Hmm, you know what, I will make myself wiser. I will myself to not be in this circle once again.
@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
14 Nov 08
Hello Mimpi....congratulations..I see you have just crossed the 6000 mark........Good going dear............ Well when it comes to taking responsiblity for failures,I can even enter the guinness book of records......well the fact is in my home,when ever there is a crisis or a problem my hubby and sons all gang up pretend that they are not aware of it.I immediately volunteer to take up responsiblity (unmindful of the fact that I am the minority here...he..he..)....and say that I have been responsible,now why dont you guys solve it or fix it up or what ever.......then they sheepishly yield and sort things out......Sometimes You have to try out all tricks of the trade to get the required results.Mimpi dear........
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
21 Nov 08
I know what you mean M. I have seen families like this from close quarters where the lady of the house (even though minority) is strong and bold and the decision maker and the men folk are so dependent on her! They want HER to guard, take charge and take responsibilities of everything in family.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
21 Nov 08
That's the beauty of being a perfect home maker! Blessed be.
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@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
21 Nov 08
You are right dear...very often men think they are stronger and protective towards us.But sometimes they are hopleless in managing a crisis...I dont know what my hubby and boys will ever do wihtout me here?......
• China
10 Nov 08
Af for this problenm, how to do it, it stands for one's life attitude,besides, where he or she take responsibility of herself or himself. It is very common that mose of persons always escape from wrongdoings and failure, for they do not dare to face the realistic state,why? Maybe for their benefit, maybe for their lover, maybe their job.... without enough courage to take charge of it.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
11 Nov 08
You have explained it all well. thanks.
@JUNGLE (1157)
• South Africa
10 Nov 08
Yes I do.A person should own up for everything that they do in life, good and bad,success and failure.!!!!LOL!!!!
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
11 Nov 08
Thanks. That was precise and spot on!
@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
10 Nov 08
Everyone makes mistakes and therefore should be able to own up to their mistakes. I try to accept responsibility for my mistakes and will look even further if I feel someone has accused me wrongfully. If I feel I was wrong I will admit it but if I wasn't I will be sure to let that person know as well. I try to instill the same in my children and just hope they learn from it.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
11 Nov 08
That makes sense tammy.We mustn't be responsible for others' wrongdoings..
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
12 Nov 08
@subha12 (18441)
• India
10 Nov 08
I must confess its not very easy to take the ownership of failures. atleast I am not so much great. but If I think I am really responsible, i take ownership.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
10 Nov 08
you have always been honest subha, i really appreciate.
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@xParanoiax (6987)
• United States
10 Nov 08
I wouldn't consider taking responsibility for my own faults...as brave. So what if I'm imperfect and how I'm imperfect smarts? I'm me, and I can't pretend I'm anything else (that'd be encouraging delusions, on my part!). Not to say it's easy! But... I can take it in stride and not miss a beat, but that doesn't ean there's not an internal battle going on. it's just as hard, for me, to accept achievements. I have a hard time believing in my own good luck, sometimes.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
10 Nov 08
That's strange! But if you are okay with, not to answer it to yourself - that's okay. I rather not see myself there.
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@23uday (2997)
• India
10 Nov 08
Hi frnds, I will responsibilitys of my failures.Some times i will do a wrong things in wrong decision i will accept my mistake later than rectify my problems and failures. Always accept our failures when we did a wrong one and take as responsbility to solve our problems.The failures are the stepping stone to the success. And be a honest,strengthness. Be happy and have a nice
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
11 Nov 08
Thanks for your insights there.
@efarmer (184)
22 Nov 08
well I have to be honest on this one. I am not brave enough. there. Its out now. I generally avoid taking responsibility unless it is very clear that I am in the wrong. working on it but just not brave enough
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
22 Nov 08
You know what, I think you are very brave. Trust me, not all can accept that! And when you can do it half the battle is won! You have already taken the responsibility. Bravo!!
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