belief

@riyasam (16567)
India
November 9, 2008 10:54pm CST
did you ever have an irritating experience when people try to force their beliefs on you.i did have when i was on a train travelling and she went blah-blah over something and i could even ignore her as she was elderly and i feel it is not right to be rude to an elderly person.
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@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
13 Nov 08
Hi riya It's a difficult situation and even I face people who are preachy and dominating. I listen to them when things would get worse if I do not do, but need not necessarily follow them. If its a stranger, I try not to interact much and even if she doesn't get the message right, I would listen to some song or read a book.
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@riyasam (16567)
• India
13 Nov 08
some people are really preachy(when i do not have the heart to be rude)i just take it as mylot to listen and then forget what they have said.
@shooie (4985)
• United States
10 Nov 08
Yes everytie they come knocking on the door or come to my house and I am outside. I never invite them in and if I see them coming I won't even open the door. If I am outside and they catch me well i'll stand and talk awhile but they can't convince me and I can't convince them and when they start getting pushy I let them know is time for e to head in and will take their hand out and once in the house toss it in the trash. If am traveling and it happens i let them voic their belief I voice mine and if they get pushy I nicely let them know is enough and then read my book.
@riyasam (16567)
• India
10 Nov 08
yaa ,reading is a good option.
• United States
29 Dec 08
On a train or plane, folks try to take advantage of the fact that you are a captive audience. If they don't take subtle hints, just say "I'm sorry, you must have confused me with someone who is actually interested in your religious beliefs. I am not, and I am sorry if I inadvertently gave you that impression."
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@riyasam (16567)
• India
5 Jan 09
that is a good option.
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
13 Nov 08
I have encountered people on many occasion that are very forceful and preachy when it comes to their beliefs; and especially when it is related to religion! I quite enjoy having a serious discussion with someone about faith and many other subjects; but the minute they start to be completely ignorant of anything I have to say and start forcing strong opinions down my throat then I will pretty much switch off or remove myself from the situation.
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@riyasam (16567)
• India
13 Nov 08
but being silent doesnt mean ,one is ignorant.sometimes(in cases where people argue about religion)i find silence as golden.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
26 Nov 08
I agree riya! Sometimes the best method can be to stay quiet and just let people say their bit. We just have to keep our fingers crossed at the same time to improve our chances of it not being a long lecture! lol. Thanks for the best response.
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• India
29 Apr 09
not me but my mom had several such experience at office. Those were the times when I was a kid and dad used to stay abroad and mom had a tough time generally in taking caring of things alone. To top it all I was a sick and cranky child and was down with fever, aches and what not. So naturally mom would turn to her colleagues at office for some support…now majority of her colleagues were Anglo-Indian Christians…very nice ladies no doubt and devout Christians but they used to just force their beliefs on her. One day one of her colleagues would offer her a rosary, some day somebody offered a Bible and then there were offers of praying for me at the Sunday church and such.
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@riyasam (16567)
• India
29 Apr 09
oh,and did their beleifs have any effecton your mom???it is good to know about different beleifs but i an not comfortable withh the idea of forcing ones beleifs.
@CJay77 (4438)
• Australia
29 Apr 09
I can't think of any one who forced me with their beliefs! I believed that I am an open minded person and I'm willing to listen, but I don't like it if someone would force me with their beliefs! And if someone will ever try, I'll just say that you have your opinion and I have mine and I will respect your beliefs and I just hope this person will be or do the same.
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@riyasam (16567)
• India
29 Apr 09
i am also like you,i am open to other ideas but i do get irritated when people start pitying me because their ideas and beleifs are right and i am wrong.
@navas4u (185)
• India
26 Nov 08
If it is a friedly and imformative debate, I love it!I am intrested in learning about religion.And if I am not getting a chance to express myself, then it is not good.But I will tolerte it, as I am a person who has a high level of tolerance!I will disagree with them gently.But I consider, forcing our beleifs to others is not a right thing regarding anything,especially religion.We have the right to express our thoughts and they have their right for doing the same. I have come up with many people who try to impose their religious beleifs in others.I remember a teacher of mine, was continously preaching in the class.There were students of different religions.Students could not react to it as she was our teacher.But one day I decided to break the silence.When she started that day, I opposed her points very friendly.It gave birth to a debate between us.Automatically it lead to giving some books on the subject to her.After reading them, she realized that she was wrong in many things and she stopped preaching in the class.But, she is the most loving teachers of mine from that college.
@riyasam (16567)
• India
26 Nov 08
i would also love a debate but i was talking of a situation where the beliefs are forced upon you. thanks for response.
@Carolyn63 (1403)
• United States
10 Nov 08
I have had people get rather pushy. They can talk all they want. If they are happy in their beliefs then I am happy for them. It won't determine my path however. I tend to look at it this way. There are many paths. They all basically lead to the same destination. I know many would argue that. It isn't how we get there, it is that we get there. Besides, I keep my mind, eyes, and heart open. I just might learn something. Blessings, Carolyn
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@riyasam (16567)
• India
11 Nov 08
i agree with your thoughts.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
10 Nov 08
Yeah, it happened just some days ago. I initiated a discussion about my Catholic faith in believing about intercession of saints when this one mylotter suddenly respond judging how stupid and ignorant our belief was and how true and knowledgable his religion was..isn't it ridiculous?! You cannot just force your belief onto others by defaming other faiths or denomination.
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@riyasam (16567)
• India
10 Nov 08
oh.that is true.you just cannot force someone else to like your beliefs.