Is it true that ladies are crabby/grumpy during menstruation?

United States
November 10, 2008 5:34pm CST
One morning, my husband can't understand why I did not kiss him that day. When he tried to talk to me, I briefly answered him. He asked me why I am grumpy.I only remember he did one little thing but I made it a big deal. He then asked me if i have my menstrual period and I said yes, why? He then laughed out loud and told me now he knows. I don't understand it so he told me that I am experiencing PMS or Pre Menstrual Symptoms. I don't know anything about it and then I realize that what he told me is true. I am very sensitive before and after my menstruation and my husband said it's normal for women. For those who don't know PMS, it is the hormonal change during our menstrual cycle. The symptoms are we are moody, feeling sick, sensitive and some physical changes. How about you? Have you experience being crabby or grumpy before and after your menstruation? For the husbands out there, have you observed being like that when they have it?
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@neededhope (1085)
• United States
10 Nov 08
I get crabby yep. And I want to be either left alone or be held. It depends how I'm feeling. But yes this is completely normal and nature. It happens.
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• United States
11 Nov 08
Oh yes, I am not aware of it especially when I am still single. I just then realized I am so sensitive and grumpy too. I just want to stay on my room and stay stay on the bed.
• United States
11 Nov 08
IT's ok to be left a lone or end up sleeping most of the day. Having a period usually takes a lot out of me too. I usually am really tired and don't want to do anything. ANd trying to keep active while having it is even hardier for me to do.
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• United States
11 Nov 08
I believe in you. Sometimes my mom got anry with me because I am not helping the chores and I am grumpy most of the time. I am trying to explain to her that I have dymenorrhea but I don't think she believes in me.
@ronaldinu (12439)
• Malta
16 Jan 09
I have been living with PMS for more than 18 years. I never noticed when my mother wsa experiencing this. However when I married my wife I realise that this is a real issue for women. I do observe changes in my wife's moods and behaviour when she is having her menstruation. I have learned to keep out of the way .
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• United States
16 Jan 09
yes, you're right..it's been our burden actually..if my husband didn't tell me, I would not know..but now, I noticed that I got real sensitive when I was about to have it and so I have to control myself..not all the time my husband would understand me.
@rrobinv (150)
• Hong Kong
16 Jan 09
I really trust it is true when females are crabby during menstruation. My girlfriend is a good example for me. She will easy to angry and very very sensitive before menstruation. She will become easy to mad at me, although I just do minor thing. I must remember when is her menstruation start and end. During the menstruation period, I must keep my 100% attention to make her happy. In fact, it really tried sometime. HaPpY MyLoTtInG!
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• United States
16 Jan 09
Your girlfriend is very lucky to have you. I remember my husband doing it too. I am glad that most of the guys now are understand this burden of women..
@KrauseHome (36746)
• United States
12 Jan 09
Well, it is even more Fun when you are Diabetic and also starting to go thru the change as well. Some days my PMS gets so bad that I just want to scream and attack almost anyone for no reason sometimes. It gets to the point even where no one but me is right, and anything everyone else does is wrong. But I also tend to get Severe Migraine headaches as well which is even worse. Just makes me wish Men could experience this too for once as well.
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• United States
16 Jan 09
oh my! that is terrible! I am so sorry to hear it. I know how you've been through with it plus a migraine, OMG! I can't take it if it will happen to me. I guess you're right, I hope men could experienced it too so the will understand what we've been through.
@achinthya (1217)
• India
9 Jan 09
Thats true, I think all feel the similar way may be because of hormonal changes inside us makes uncomfortable and it makes us feel that way..for me one week before I will have for no reason I will get depressed or in off mood now my husband knows this and so no problem as he will carefully handled it...Thanks happy posting!!
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• United States
9 Jan 09
heheheh...same here achinthya! We're so lucky we have a very understanding husband.
@mariposaman (2967)
• Canada
28 Nov 08
You ask if ladies are crabby/grumpy during mesturation and not if there is anything that can be done about it. Yes it seems to affect a certain segment of the female population. Most men learn sooner or later that they suffer too at that time of the month in different ways than the woman as that loving being becomes impossible to live with and he learns to stay out of her way. Now here is the unasked for advice. If you are experiencing too much pain you should investigate the possiblity of a condition called endometriosis. You should also investigage getting some exercise and diet changes like restricting sugar and getting omega 3 essential fatty acids. Some women have to resort to medications.
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• United States
28 Nov 08
This is a very helpful advise. Thank you for the information mariposaman and thank you for dropping by here.
@hildas (3031)
11 Nov 08
I always get crabby one day before mine and very tearful. That would be the only reason getting older pleases me. Maybe they will dissapear in the next ten years or so. I have four daughters and I feel sorry for my husband. He has five of us to put up with, with our moods.
• United States
15 Nov 08
If it's hard for some men to handle the sensitivity of a woman how much more if for 5 women? Well, I can imagine now how hard it is for your husband to handle the mood swings of 5 women (hhehehe).
@gauthami (137)
• New Zealand
11 Nov 08
Yes ofcourse we do feel some sickness...feeling tidy,some times people get fever,its obvious some people know abt the symptoms before and people doesnot and people feel stomach pain too..they dont want to do any work just want to lay on the bed all the time lazy like me lol...after menstrual it will be normal so free to work ..yes my husband observes sometime that when i m feeling sick ..alwasys on the bed ...
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• United States
15 Nov 08
Oh yeah. Same here gauthami. I think most women do. My husband once told me that it's ok for him because he knows women like "drama"(hehehe).
@avidwhit (1492)
• Mexico
11 Nov 08
This is so true with many girls I have known. Some I have seen on the floor curled up in unmeasurble pain others is just mood swings. Depends on the lady but all I have known on this level seem to be affected by it someway or another and its not always pretty. Its the way God wants It so best just to learn to live with it and be understanding rather than critical. Sure am glad Im not a lady for this one and only reason. Not to say men dont have there problems and weeaknesses as well. Great post something most can relate to! :)
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• United States
15 Nov 08
Yes, it really normally happens to us. That is what we call dysmenorrhea. If you only knew how hard it is for us if we have it. But you also have your point there. We should control our sensitivity too but honestly it's hard because like what the doctors said, it's normal for women to feel that way.
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• United States
10 Nov 08
Oh well I suppose that sometimes I do notice a change in my personality during the cycle, but I think some people just blame the mood on the stereotype that females get really moody and grumpy that time. Most of the time, I'm not really different at all. Guys do like to joke about that sort of thing, but again, its sort of a stereotype and something to blame moods on. The cycle does cause me some trouble and discomfort, so sometimes, yes.
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• United States
11 Nov 08
Oh I agree with you. I am already sensitive, but when I have my period, it's over sometimes. I will make it a big deal when it is not a deal.
@dpk262006 (56760)
• Delhi, India
16 Jan 09
I notice the same mind of symptoms in my better half.
• United States
16 Jan 09
I didn't know PMS at first until my husband told me.
@dpk262006 (56760)
• Delhi, India
16 Jan 09
pl. read 'kind' in place of 'mind' in my response. Secondly, your husband appears quite wise and intelligent.
• United States
16 Jan 09
ok deepak..I get it..I was kinda confused at first..thank you for correcting me..
@oyenkai (4396)
• Philippines
9 Jan 09
People tend to stay off my path when I get my period. I think it's because I feel like I'm in a lot of pain and I never realize that I'm already acting like a snob because I'm too engrossed with my pain. But I did find it weird that you refer to PMS as Pre-menstrual symptom because it's more popular meaning is Post Menstrual Syndrome - what women experience when they stop having menstruations at around age 50 and they get really really weird. Thanks for the response on my discussion!
• United States
9 Jan 09
I got the meaning above about the PMS from the internet.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
11 Nov 08
Thank you for giving us an idea about women's mental and physical condition during their menstrual period. I'm a man.So I can understand your husband's condition during that period. Your husband is very sympathetic to you. You are a very lucky wife.
• United States
12 Nov 08
Yes, I know I am very lucky with my husband. I thank God because He has given him to me and He lets us meet although you would think that it's impossible for us to meet because we live in two different worlds and we are million miles away.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
12 Nov 08
We are not of different worlds.Same world but thounds miles away.Only we can meet by supernatural wave.Than you lot.
@sameroad (3180)
• United States
22 Apr 09
yeah they are.. i know i get moody when its that time for me. don't even look at me lol i can be kind of bad but i also think it depends on where i am and who i'm around. as long as no ones doing anything to annoy me i'm good lol
• United States
24 Apr 09
hehehe..oh my..very dangerous PMS...lol
• India
16 Jan 09
I have heard about it, though I am not like that. Instead I think I do suffer from PMS coz many times I have seen that I become unnecessarily irritable and grouchy a few days before the event of the month. Most of the times I don’t know why but suddenly it dawns on me that Oh its near to those days again
• United States
16 Jan 09
hehehe..oh so you're menstruation is always coming..well, there are really different symptoms for us..goodluck on you pms!
@babyfuzz (1079)
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
Hi, Aisa.. ^^ I was about to write about my PMS (pre-menstrual symptoms) right now, but then I had to check if there are already discussions about it. I'm glad I bumped into yours. I'm feeling so low right now. I think my PMS is one of the reasons. You know what? Men are more familiar about PMS than women. Maybe because they have been given this explanation ever since. Have you heard the commercial about a pain killer? I think one reason why females get crabby when they're going to have their period is because of the pain. Well, in my case, that is. I used to have this excruciating pain in my lower tummy, I also get cramps, and what's more, I vomit, all at the same time. I had a terrible case of dysmenorrhea. Anyway, my vomiting has gone (they say because I already gave birth). Well, I do hope it won't come back. Those were the dreaded days. I had to skip classes once in a month because I can't take the pain.
• United States
28 Nov 08
Hello babyfuzz! I also felt that way too. But it rarely happened. What you felt is really awful. With all the vomiting and cramps? Oh my...
• Philippines
11 Nov 08
I've experienced that with my ex girlfriend many times... ahh... just remembering them makes my head ache... XD It's really hard to cope up with her but the one thing she liked about me was I had a lot of patience.
• United States
12 Nov 08
Oh, you're like my husband. He is very patient too and like you I am giving him headache too. I feel really guilty when I do it but sometimes, it's hard to me to pretend that I am ok eventhough I'm not.
• Philippines
11 Nov 08
I can be a bit moody during those times of the month .. sometimes without me realizing it right away .. once I notice it, I try my best to cal done.
• United States
11 Nov 08
Oh yeah. I am trying my best to stop it too or to be calm down but sometimes I can't help it especially if I have my dysmenorrhea (a pain on the stomach). It's just really hard especially if it's normal.
@tatturoy (139)
• India
24 Aug 10
i learnt a new thing today, about women.next time i will try to observe my girl friend.thank you.
• Pamplona, Spain
18 Aug 10
Hiya aisa, PMS is something I suffered and endured for Years and ate better food, more fruit, did not smoke or drink and it did not improve it just got worse by the Day. I did not want to make anyone´s life a misery either and I have tried to explain to them and they don´t listen it does not mean anything to them. So like many other millions of Women I have suffered it in silence. It has eased off at lot now to what it was. I was snappy sometimes because PMS makes you feel really tired and you don´t even know why but the tiredness goes off in a matter of hours. It can make you feel sick and you get a Headache too but all that wears off during the Day. You snap at People but then you get tearful because you don´t want to snap at anyone. I was grumpy and snappy before during and but not after this when I calmed down a lot. I did control it a lot though as I said so I suffered it on my own. There was no medicine that worked for me. Just patience a lot of relaxation and cry a little here and there to relieve the nervous tension.