having a TV in the bedroom

Philippines
November 11, 2008 3:30am CST
my brother in law just got married and someone gave them a television set. so he installed it in his bedroom and put up an external antenna on the roof. but as for me, we have been married for over a year now, but we still can't get ourselves to put a TV in the bedroom. when we want to watch TV, we use the set outside. or papa's set. then when it is time to retire, we go to our room, have a chat or pray, then go to sleep. but at least, our bedtime is our chat time. i dunno, i just feel that having the tv on before going to bed will nullify our chat time as a couple. so for now, we don't have a tv set yet. or at least, not in the bedroom. how about you guys? what are your thoughts on this? do you have a tv set in the bedroom? how do you feel about it? take care all and God bless you! :-D
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@p1kef1sh (45638)
11 Nov 08
We've been married for 22 years and only had a TV set in the bedroom for a few months years ago. I find it much more restful without it. If it's there one or the other of you will watch it and then it just becomes a bother. Use the bedroom for sleeping, chatting and other enjoyable activities!
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@iamcdy (1119)
• Philippines
11 Nov 08
I have a TV set in my bedroom but I am still single. If I will get married, I think it is still okay to have a TV set inside our bedroom because my boyfriend and I enjoy watching TV. I think we can still still chat while the TV set is turned off or even when it is on. I don't think that it is going to be a problem in our case. I guess, you have used to no having TV set inside your room and I think it is also one good idea to have ample time to chat and talk with your partner before you sleep and I feel that there's nothing wrong with that. God bless you too!
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@maxilimian (3099)
• Indonesia
11 Nov 08
Well .. i'm not married yet, but i've planned to place a tv set on the bedroom later ... coz i like to watch tv or movies, and for me, it's make our chat have a lot topic to discuss while watching ...
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• Philippines
14 Nov 08
I am married and we have a TV in our bedroom, I think it's okay because we both love to watch tv series and movies, we are so fond of having dvd marathon so while watching it is like our bonding time and cuddling time so it's good for us.
• United States
12 Nov 08
Hey there spolied.happy day to ya,I got a little confused when you said that you have chat time when you go to bed as well as pray..well dont you chat threw the day as well? I just wondered because i spend most of the day talking to my son and b/f..and at night..its our unwidning time..we talk as well before bed.about the things we have leanred that day..i started that when my son was born lol..every night before we sleep we think of the day and think fo what we learned..good or bad..anywho..after that we lay down..and he either goes right to sleep or i or we will watch a movie before bed..soemthing us adults like that we dont have to worry that Sky will see..then off to bed..i dont see anythign wrong with it persoanlly..it hasnt hurt our relationship at all..:) have a good one! April
• China
12 Nov 08
Hi,spoiled311,my parents like watch TV on the bed,so there is a television in their bedroom,but only one TV in the drawing room of my apartment,because my wife very easy sleeping when she have watched TV on the bed,and she is very interest in TV.
• India
12 Nov 08
I have a small TV set in the bedroom and I really love it. My point is that whatever we do in the bedroom is our decision. If we want to chat, we chat…if we want to read, we read…similarly if we want to watch something we just do it. Its not that watching TV is a habit with us. Most nights we don’t, we are either too tired or feel too ‘cosy’ or just feel like chatting (like you). But there are some programmes which we want to watch in comfort on the bed. Like some late night programmes or may be a recording of a favourite game or a dinnertime movie which is so riveting that I just have to see it till the end.
• India
12 Nov 08
Ya.I completely agree with you.The TV should not be placed in bedroom.It affects the environment of our bedroom.So at this topic I have hardly any point to argue with you..Take care and God bless you too..............
@iamfine (740)
• China
12 Nov 08
I have a TV in my bedroom. Usually I read some books or watch some TV before I sleep, and sometimes when I am not in the mood to read, I would watch TV. Especially in winter, I like to lay down with a big pillow under my head, and watching TV. So that I won't feel cold. Sometimes I sleep with TV set opening the whole night. They say it is not good to health, but I do feel it makes me comfortable sometimes.
@maxsee212 (799)
• United States
12 Nov 08
i would like to have a tv set in my bedroom when i get married. these are my reasons... first, it is not every day that my wife and i got something to talk about before we go to sleep so we watch the tv for entertainment and maybe we can find something to talk about. secondly, we may always turn the tv off if there's something more important going on other than watching tv like making love to my wife. hehe. third, tv is a source of information, i like watching different shows on tv. hope u like my reasons.
@Elvali (68)
• China
12 Nov 08
It seems that it's popular to have a tv in the bedroom.As for my family,there is one in my parents'bedroom.We often watch tv together in their bedroom,because the limitde space can make me feel warm and sweet.It's very funny to have different views about choosing channels.And I often watch it untill they have fallen asleep.I think it was very warm in my heart to do this kind of things together when I was very young.Now,things are different.I am far from my home and my parents,therefore,We have little time to be together,let alone watching tv together.
@subha12 (18452)
• India
12 Nov 08
I am single. i also have a TV at bedroom. but i never watch it alone. if we switch it one, there will be mom or dad or both. else i watch at my parents room
@jazel_juan (15753)
• Philippines
12 Nov 08
we are planning to have one in the future we are still saving for it..for us it is okey to have television inside our bedroom plus it will give us privacy on what we want to watch plus the television outside is always used by my kids and it is always in one channel, cartoon network or nickelodeon! so we would rather have one, plus we both love to watch tv together since it gives bonding time and we like the same movies
• China
12 Nov 08
i think putting a TV set in the bedroom is an unwise idea.before sleeping i thing the couple should have a talk about what happened to them the whole day,thus they can understand eachother better.i have learned a text about the badness of the TV. it mentioned that the hight rate of divorce partly due to the lacking of communication.
@Nhey16 (2518)
• Philippines
12 Nov 08
if i would have a choice, i dont want a tv in the bedroom coz of the same reason as yours, but my husband would like to have the tv in our room coz he wanted to lay down while watching...
• United States
12 Nov 08
I do have a TV in my room. Granted I live with two other people so I have no choice but to put it in my room! I do leave it on sometimes when I'm trying to get to sleep. It helps me for some reason, while it does hinder me if a good show comes on.
@android (895)
12 Nov 08
We have a television set in our bedroom which my partner keeps on through the night every night. She says she can't sleep without it on but I have the opposite problem, I cannot sleep with the television on! I close my eyes and can still see the flashing of the screen coming through my eyelids (if that makes sense!) and she also has the volume quite well, which I find distracting when I'm trying to going to sleep.
@baileyq (68)
• Philippines
12 Nov 08
Before we moved into the house we're currently occupying, we did have a tv in the bedroom. Now, it sits in one corner of our bedroom. We use the one in the living room and go to the bedroom when my husband and I are ready to retire for the night. Let me share with you the differences. 1) We go to bed earlier (when the tv was in the room I used to go to sleep at around 3 or 4 a.m., especially when something interesting was on); 2) We talk a little more (if you knew my husband, a "little more" is a lot!); 3) We get to plan our schedules for the next day; 4) There's more to talk about (let's admit it, when something good is on tv, you do not want to be interrupted or distracted from your favorite show); 4)We, as a couple, have more quality time. It's difficult to spend quality time with your children or your spouse if there's a tv in every room of the house (wow, that rhymes!) Either you're not giving them your full attention, or THEY are the ones distracted. This way, I am able to spend more time with family or get more things done. Having the tv in the bedroom kept me up 'til the wee hours, but now I've learned to teach myself when it's time to get that much needed rest. It's still hard, at times, but definitely improved a lot.
12 Nov 08
Hi spoiled311, i have a big TV in our bedroom but I don't watch it as my husband watches it while I am downstaires watching what I want to so there is no argument and by the time I come to bed he is fast asleep and I normally have to turned it off. I don't like watching tv in bed anyway. Tamara
@sid556 (30989)
• United States
12 Nov 08
I think I agree with you. When I was married....I did not have nor want a tv in the bedroom. I am not and never have been big on TV but to me it was always something that was either to watch either together or as a distraction...either way the bedroom was not the place for it. My husband was more into tv than I was and he would have loved one in the bedroom. the way I saw it...if the tv meant more than our time together then he may as well, sit in the living room. On the flip side...there were those times when we just wanted to cuddle and watch a movie together. On those occassions we did have a tv and a vcr that was in the bedroom and not hooked into the cable. I guess it depends on the situation but the bedroom should be a room to connect intimately whether that be just watching a show and cuddling etc.