how do you handle failures?

Philippines
November 11, 2008 9:45pm CST
well, i have had it.. i just want to ask this.. how do you handle failure?
5 responses
• India
12 Nov 08
1. Feel the pain of your failure. You can't handle a negative emotion if you push it to the back of your mind. Let the anger, frustration, sadness and hopelessness come to the surface so you can get rid of them and move on. 2. Find ways to nurture yourself. During the initial period of mourning your failure, it's especially important to eat right, do exercise you enjoy, rely on family and friends and practice relaxation techniques. Tap into the Learning Meditation website for audio-guided exercises (see link in Resources). 3. Let go of perfectionism. Changing your attitude about what failure is starts with accepting that few things in this world can turn out exactly right the first time. Facing this reality lets you see the advantages of failure. 4. Differentiate between what you did and who you are. Failure is about doing things wrong. You may have ignored warning signs and believed what you wanted rather than change your ways. This doesn't make you a bad person. 5. Journal about the experience once you've had some distance. The perspective you gain with time shows you the lessons you can learn from your failure. Keep these around to help with your future plans. 6. Read about others who faced major failures and then succeeded. Wise people can look back calmly, knowing that the failure served them well by teaching them something about themselves they didn't know before. 7. Plan for the future. Handling failure successfully includes not letting it discourage you from trying again. Refer to the lessons you wrote in your journal and keep them in mind when making your plan.
• Philippines
12 Nov 08
wow, such a advice. i give you my best of the best response!.. thanks a lot.. thank you so much.. it helps.. all what you were telling.. thank!
• India
12 Nov 08
hi friend.. thank you for the best response.. take care and have fun..
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• Philippines
18 Nov 08
thank you my friend. but the site you were directing me needs membership.. hmm. anyways, all is well right now. except that i am disobedient and really is hardheaded.. huhu..
@spalladino (17922)
• United States
12 Nov 08
Every failure is a lesson to be learned. You have to take a step back, look at why you failed and where you can go from there. Remember that, when one door closes another opens. It sometimes takes a while for you to locate it, but it's there.
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• Philippines
15 Nov 08
thank you my friend. surely another had been opened right now.. i am so blessed with what is happening right now. i am able to control my emotion by God's grace. Surely the grace of the Lord is so sufficient that up to now i am able to smile and do the daily tasks that needs to be done... before, i end up covering myself and going to my comfort zone and comfort myself. but so far, it is not the case right now. though there are tendencies still right now to do the same, but God has been teaching me to face every problem..hmm, it is not easy...
• Malaysia
12 Nov 08
When the failure just happened, I couldn't deny that I will feel frustrated. Maybe I would cry and blame myself or anybody whom I think is responsible towards my failure. But after that I would sit down and think about the cause of the failure. This cannot be done in one sitting, though. I will think for many days and sometimes months to really discover what is the fault of the failure. I always want to improve the mistakes if I know what it is. So the minute I get to know what is the thing I should improve, I would work on it. I have failed many times, yet I am still hoping I will succeed one day. The failure is a journey in life which teaches me to be more careful. Failure also teaches me about things I shouldn't repeat in the future.
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• Philippines
15 Nov 08
wow, it is a very long cope of recovery.. i just hope that next time you will be learning it and you will feel better..
@Arkie69 (2156)
• United States
12 Nov 08
Did you really fail or have you just not succeeded yet. There is a big difference you know. The only way you can really fail at anything is to give up and quit. Look back at what happened that makes you think you failed. Learn from your little set backs. When you are trying to do something it is just as important you know what not to do as it is to know what you should do. If you are looking back on something you think you failed on you have hind-sight in your corner working for you. Use it.
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• Philippines
12 Nov 08
thanks a lot. i guess, i did both. i failed, and have not succeeded yet. there are things that needs to be seetled as of the moment. and i just cant think of any ways that i could succeed. i guess you are right. i need to focus and think it over. huhu...
• Malaysia
12 Nov 08
get a hug from me... HUG TIGHT TIGHT..... felt better? then take nap... a long sleep if you can... just care nothing and think about nothing... take a deep rest... when you wake up... tell your self... YOU ROX!!! no problem in this world is unsolveable... : ) dunt forget to smile too: )
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• Philippines
12 Nov 08
thanks a lot.. hehe.. that is what i need. a hug!.. know what?. i went to the room of my bestman and i hugged him. though he was asleep. hehe.. i needed some warm hugs. i did failed. and, i just took your advice men. i did have a nap. a long nap. every night, i usually sleep early. and then rise early and have some meditation. trying to forget my failures.. grr. how i wished i did not failed.. huhu