We Can't Do Anything Outside Today

@CatsandDogs (13964)
United States
November 13, 2008 2:25pm CST
Because it's raining and going to be for the next few days I know we need the rain but dang it, we wanted to get some things done once and for all but it has to wait again so instead, we've been cleaning the house or rather, touching it up a bit but still we want to be outside . Yesterday we did get the wooded area by the driveway done and it looks wonderful now instead of such an eye sore!! Hubby wants to take down some pine trees because they ruin the ground with their pine needles so out they come.... eventually. As for the ramp and front porch, it's all been primed now and is ready to be painted which will happen in a few days once the rain clears up. The back deck is still in the works and the front yard with all the leaves still need to be mulched and will get done in about a week or more once they're all dried again. Geeze, I hate having projects put on hold!! I'm not a procrastinater, I'm a go get it done type of person and sitting here like I am makes me so antsy. I do have some what of good news, the realtor told dad that the next county over from where their old house is, the housing market is going up and it's a sellers market now and the county that my parents house is in is picking up the trend!! YIPPEEEEE!! AND if and when it does, then they can put the house sale price back up where it should be!! Now that would be so awesome!! We just have to keep our fingers and toes crossed and say a lot of prayers!! Nothing was heard from the guy who said he may want to rent it so I guess that idea is out however, hubby and I will soon be up there to paint it to get it back in good shape so it'll have a good chance at selling. I dread the day we have to go up there and is why I tried to do it sooner, to get it done and over with. I hate to paint but since I know how now, I'll do it. Dad and I are the only ones who can cut it in without it getting on the ceiling or baseboards BUT, since it's going to be all white, it's going to be pretty easy and fast to do. Some of you know that my brother and I had a fallen out.... we're speaking to one another but only barely and we both know we need to address our arguement eventually so after about two weeks cooling period, I sent him an email letting him know my side of things and what I expect out of him. I talked to him today about Thanksgiving being at my house because mom can't travel and he acknowledged my email however hadn't had a chance to read it yet because he's working so much but did acknowledge it and wants to talk on Saturday over the phone. Oh geeze.... I'm so not looking forward to that. He's a good talker and I'm not but if one were to step on my toes, I've got a lot to say and frankly, I don't want to make things any worse than they already are but dang it, enough is enough. I've let him and my oldest brother walk all over me all of my life and I'm not doing it anymore but at the same time, I want to make ammends but he has to want to make ammends too and understand that I am my own person and am entitled to my own opinion just as he is, then and only then can we move forward which is what I'd so love to do but we'll see how it all pans out on Saturday. Have any of you had such a thing happen to you and your sibilings? Were you able to work it out or no? I don't want to apart from my family or certain ones of my family but will if it has to be that way.
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@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
14 Nov 08
You are cutting down pine trees?? On I would love to have more than the few I have have in my yard, they smell great and are beautiful and gives your privacy all year round... That is great news about your parents house, I hope you do get a great price for it...Sounds like you are going to be really busy the next few weeks, preparing for the holiday, I know how siblings can be, mostly with my in laws, because I only had 2 sisters and after losing one and other loved ones in the family, plus she lives too far away, we are on good speaking terms...I struggle as well as my husband with his bother and sister..ugh!!!! Just don't forget to take some time each day to be at rest and be thankful...
• United States
14 Nov 08
I understand what you mean by your brother being a talker and you are not..I am not a talker and my husband is, so can you imagine what I live through..And G-d forbid I vent about it here, then I get attacked..Even though I also get support, people don't understand that a relationship like that is difficult, because he will walk all over me and then help em up, and then I get confused as to what happened..(Like the mac truck that hits you, what happened??) So I will keep you in my prayers, dealing with people like this can be hard, but I am sure you will get through it..
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@Katlady2 (9920)
• United States
13 Nov 08
Send some of that rain my way please. LOL! It was supposed to rain all this week here, but it only rained for one or two days LAST week and that was it. It's even supposed to get up into the 80s this weekend! We are in a drought, so that really bites right now. Plus...I want it to rain enough to fill up our lakes so that if hubby gets the boat running we can actually have water to float on next summer. Hahaha! As for your brother, at least he acknowledged your email. I guess that's better than nothing right now, all things considered. But make sure you stand your ground hon. It just seems to me like he got way too used to you being the calm peace maker of the family, to the point of sacrificing your own feelings. And it's time that he get UN-used to that. I don't know if I said it before, but if so I'm saying it again....I'm so PROUD of you for showing your strength (even as you're grinding your teeth at the same time). I've got a situation going on with my sister (again) where she is snubbing me BIG time. Ever since her grand daughter's graduation she's been like that to me and I think it's because I ended up having to email her a couple of days beforehand to let her know that there wasn't any way I could make it because of our financial situation. And it's a load of bull because my daughter's graduation was a couple of days later, and my sister never showed up OR got in touch with me to let us know she wouldn't be there. I've been stewing on that for quite a while now. But she won't answer emails or phone calls. And since she's over 3 hours drive away from me, there's not much I can do unless I get our brother involved, which I have no intention of doing. Hopefully we can work it out...that is if we ever speak again. Sorry for the mini rant there hon....it kinda got away from me. I hope things work out between you and your brother. Fingers and toes are crossed, and the prayers are flying for you sweetie. Big hugs!
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
13 Nov 08
Good grief Kat. I can find much more important things to gripe about and I think your sister is being a spoiled rotten brat. I don't blame you one bit for not calling her. You did the right thing by letting her know.... days ahead at that so what's her problem should stay HER problem. I hope your daughter sees her aunt for what she really is, a mind game player and writes her off instead of letting her get to her. As for my brother, I frankly don't know what his problem is. Some seem to think he's jealous and some think he's acting like an idiot. What it was, hubby and I were going to go up to my parents old place and paint it and clean the mess my nephew had made and my brother misunderstood what I meant by one comment and blew it all out of porportion which is so stupid then he proceeded to tell me what to do and not do which is a big ole NO NO. And his son living in the place and not keeping it up, letting it stink to high heaven, I was going to clean that up too but my brother thought I was dictating when everyone was going to be there and said he's not in the military and he won't stand for dictating this and that which was not at all what I was trying to do!! I was trying to round up a bunch of my friends as well as his sons friends to help paint the whole house and clean it to get it in tip top shape so it would sell!! It's really stupid but the arguement really got out of hand to the point that I had to threaten him to stop emailing me or I'd have to block him and then it was F you this and F you that and it stopped. I've sent an email a couple of nights ago and I'm not so sure how he's going to take it but if he takes it the wrong way then he will hear "Go to hell!!" and never hear from me again. I can promise you that!!
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@Katlady2 (9920)
• United States
15 Nov 08
He sounds like he has his head buried where the sun refuses to shine! Just hold your ground hon.
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@GardenGerty (113530)
• United States
14 Nov 08
Man, you have enough here for about three discussions. Sorry the rain is holding up your progress, it sounds as if you and your hubby have done a wonderful amount of work on your property. I do not envy you having to go up and paint your folk's house, but I guess white is the easiest and least expensive way to go. I have never had a problem with my siblings and not talking. My dad and his sisters did, and my mom and her family did. I hope that Saturday goes okay for you.
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
14 Nov 08
Thanks GG. I hope it goes well too but I'm not too sure it will or not. It's mine and my brothers first time - between us and it happened because he took what I said out of content and blew it way out of proportion and it just got bigger and bigger. He's a hard head type and if something is orange to him it's orange, no changing his mind about it. He's right and everybody else is wrong however, he did apologize to my husband which surprised me but then he came back with a nasty remark about his apology so to us it wasn't sincere. The whole thing is plain stupid and should not have been taken the way he took it because hubby and I were just trying to help all that's involved and he took it as if I were dictating and hubby was ordering because he was in the Army and it wasn't like that at all. Oh well, I'm not looking forward to Saturday at all but I WILL stand my ground whether he likes it or not because this is the new me. I'm not taking his nonsense anymore. I'm an adult and I have my own opinions and thoughts just as he does so he's going to either accept it or move on with his life. Either way, he's going to learn to respect me and my feelings if he wants the same for himself. It's as simple as that. I'm tired of being the one to keep the peace and not say anything. If he can speak his mind, so can I. I'm not a child anymore. Yes, I'm the baby of the family but I'm not A baby anymore.
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