Do you think one should forgive and forget?

yesterday night i received this sms. i hope you definitely like it! [b] "Apologizing doesn't mean that you are wrong and the others are right. it only means that you value the relationship much more than your ego" [/b] even the sms doesn't comes under this topic, we can take one point from this 2 lines. that is, we can show some "Discount" []in giving punishments to our valuable relations. Forgiving is a good thing from my point of view. I know that how bad boy i was in my 8th standard (but i never crossed any girl except for love.but later, she screwed me when i was changed into a good boy) I was a bad boy to all my classmates, karathe fighters and even with some of my teachers. I even did crime like writing letter to class master very badly and posted to school address itself. but, i never caught. i fractured the leg of one person who won me in 1/2 point difference in state championship match(actually 1 point of mine, which is a face kick was not counted. true to my knowledge) these are very little. I am surprised on myself that how i acted like this in my olden days.now all my contacts respect me as i am being right in every manner(still i do some very mini mistakes)especially in saving the words. I was changed by 3 or 4 persons, who are ladies especially.They crossed my life in different periods. they forgive me all times whenever i did any mistakes. they ask me sorry even if the mistake is on my side.but they clear my faults in a perfect situation. Honestly, I wish to say that "True care from outer persons changed me and bring me into the right path of life" World is nothing without true love and care. Sadly all those persons went away from me, when i am changed completely. some had sad ending with their life. seeing all these things, i decided to be good always.. or atleast, not to be bad. With my mini experience of life, spending time even with bad guys, i definitely say that, "Forgiving is very very essential for anyone" Even Terrorism will be stopped if those peoples have right persons to care and show love on them. Who is a terrorist? he is just a human being. definitely 70% terrorists are negative heroes of real life. Finally, i always give positive reply in forgiving dear ones.. but for other persons, we can be strict. we can clearly tell the things happened because of their faults.sametime we dont want to stop our relation with them. we can quit their relation if they (office or other outer persons)remains unchanged in their character, which do not suit us. that is always better. just last week, i quit one girl, whom i thought as my own sister for last 1 year. i already forgive her 5 or 6 times.she never changed her character for me. i hate liars. especially those idiots, girls, who are mad on boys & boys, who are bad on girls. I tried to change her character as much i can. but i got failed in that thing. These like persons will never accept their faults or change their character. So it is better to avoid than forgiving. I want to open my heart for this topic.. but i think i already scribbled so much.. so i stop here. Earlier, i stated that i was very bad boy once.. even during those period, i never crossed girls, smoke or drinks. Till that, i believe i am still the best. My activities were wrong that time with other persons.

One of my friend was like this, i thought she was my best friend, but i couldn't believe she did that to me while we were travelling to another country. I did forgive and keep on the relationship afterwards, but we didnt have so much contacts like before anymore. I couldn't trust a person again truly once she has broken my trust to her. But whenever she needs help, she will come to me, but i don't provide further if she asks for more and more. I think she senses it somehow, so she will not ask that much too. ;-)

Whoever we do not feel comfortable with, it is better that we have little to do with them. We can be fooled once but it is ridiculous to keep on getting fooled.I am a classic example of one such person who would get fooled again and again if my emotions are involved.That is why it becomes easier to break ties with persons with whom we do not have emotional attachment.When it is the latter we keep giving excuses for their behaviour in the name of'must not make a mountain of a molehill-may be it was not intentional' kind of explanations. As one of the earlier responses pointed out it would be advisable to be wary in future by eliminating your friendship or whatever attachment you have for the person and view the situation as objectively as possible.When it is rendering help, a strict 'no' may safeguard yourself because one never knows when the other person would show her/ his colors. Once bitten twice shy-it cannot be helped afterall.