is it impossible to argue

@lilaclady (28236)
Australia
November 17, 2008 6:26pm CST
Sometime ago I read an article that it is impossible to seriously argue with someone while holding their hand, it is an interesting theory..what are your thoughts on this, have you ever had a seious argument while holding that persons hand...I tend to believe this....
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17 responses
@misshoney (973)
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
helo lilaclady ;-) that is indeed an interesting theory. i don't know that so thanks for sharing the knowledge. i too haven 't tried that theory but i think i will try it sometime. maybe holding hands with someone somehow calms down a person so any urge to argue melts away.
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
That's a very sweet...I think you're right...the urge to argue will melt away...EVERYONE, try her idea!!!
@bombshell (11265)
• Germany
22 Nov 08
yes of course it is true.when i was freshly engage we watched a movie with my husband with holding hands till i was annoying kissing and kissing then he is tickling on his arms and upset coz he was watching movie and canĀ“t consentrate so thats my story too about argueing while holding hands.he said holding hands is ok but kissing and kissing on his arms are not good while watching movie so i cried.
• India
21 Nov 08
Well LOL! I have never tried. People who get into an argument hardly hold hands. And people who hold hands never get into arguments. And when you are in the middle of a heated debate, isn't it really difficult to hold your opponent's hand? Really a tough situation!! Cheers and happy mylotting
@plumwish07 (4059)
• Indonesia
19 Nov 08
well, it can be cause when we are in those condition (arguing situation) we tend to make some distance with the person that we were arguing. its just automatically. i think, next time when i am gonna have any arguing situation, i will try this way to see how effective to overcome the emotions. thank you
@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
I am not really into holding hands with anybody... even my friends... since i have sweaty palms... i keep my hands to myself... but i think there is truth in that... it can be difficult to argue with someone while holding their hand because such a gesture releases tension between two people... and the touch has some healing power...
@liquorice (3901)
18 Nov 08
I haven't ever had an argument while holding someone's hand, and I can see that it's probably true that it would be difficult to do this! The two things don't really seem compatible, as you normally hold somebody's hand when you're feeling loving towards them, but when you argue you're usually feeling angry or upset. I suppose the only exception would be if the other person is holding your hand and you don't want them to, and so that's what you're arguing about!
@oldboy46 (2132)
• Australia
18 Nov 08
If loving holding hands with someone then it would be extremely unlikely the two people would have an arguement but if it is a case where one is restraining the other through gripping the hands, it certainly could happen. However in general I would say that if one person upset the other enough to say something that was going to lead to an arguement, then one would pull their hand away. Of course there is always the option that you might hold the other person's hand or else you would hit them over the head to knock some common sense into them ... that is not advocating violence or hitting any other person but is meant as a joke. A difference of opinion is not a serious arguement and so a couple can disagree on something but still hold hands. When people hold hands it is generally done lovingly and the last thing on the mind is arguing with that person.
@loxion (1551)
• India
18 Nov 08
That's possible only for the superior person involved, if you are the one who is holding the other person's hand that shows that you are about to do something to them and again that shows that you will come on top if the fight breaks up again that will be impossible for person you argue with if they are somehow helpless and just oping that you aint going to do something that will hurt them, is very funny because they will be like standing there and not knowing what to do because you are holding them, and in their mind they will be hoping that you just let them go. Arguing while holding someone Else's hand shows that you are angry and it could be impossible for them to argue with you, so it it will be like possible in your side, but also it will like you are crazy because you will be saying all lot of hurting or arguing words to the other person and they will be like "silent" and people migh think that you are crazy. Ha!ha!ha!
@subha12 (18452)
• India
18 Nov 08
i think i will also believe this. it is very much natural. when you are in very much proximity, it may be hard to argue. I have no such experience.
@gr8life (6252)
• Malaysia
18 Nov 08
Hello lilaclady, I can't even remember whether I ever holding hands with someone when we're arguing about something. As far as I know, whenever I am arguing, we tend not to look to each other face. I feel like I really want to scream whenever I argue with someone especially when we're having a heated argument. I don't even think of holding his hands and argue...
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
18 Nov 08
I have never thought about this before but I can see that it may hold alot of truth in it. I think, the holding hand part, is something that would calm a person down and show sincerity.
@sirrob (4112)
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
That is really an interesting observation and I think it must have hold so much truth that indeed very difficult to achieve. I cannot imagine trying to argue intensely with some and still holding the person's hands. That is just simply crazy if you are going to do it for real and I still have to experience this kind of situation but I'm not sure I will. Most of the time, I simply and always try to avoid arguments and when I do, it would take that long and there's no more time I guess to hold the person's hand.
@Pose123 (21665)
• Canada
18 Nov 08
Hi lilaclady, That is an interesting theory and I think it may be right. I can remember holding hands with someone when I want just a young man. She got upset over something and refused to hold hands. It wasn't even a big argument and I have no idea what it was about now. When you really think about it, I don't think anyone could hold hands and be angry with the person at the same time. Blessings.
@rsa101 (22051)
• Philippines
18 Nov 08
Never tried that one yet but it is pretty interesting theory. Maybe when i am in one I will try that technique to pacify things. I guess when you hold someones hand it just means that you care for that person that is why arguments would tone down to levels that would not hurt each others feelings because the feeling of connectedness is there.
@nadooa247 (1096)
• United States
18 Nov 08
You wouldn't be holding hands with someone if you felt like strangling them... unless you used one hand to hold their hands down and the other to do the throttling or something lol... Seriously though it IS logical. If someone really angered you trust me you'd hardly be sitting side by side as it is so forget holding hands anyways lol
18 Nov 08
Hi lilaclady, I don't think I can argue with anyone I am holding my hands with, because I would have to let go of him and clober him one. Tamara
@messageme (2821)
• United States
18 Nov 08
I think you can have a little arguement with someone while holding their hand, but a serious one I don't think it's possible. Because if you are having a serious arguement you are mad at this person at the time and usually touching in a loving way would be impossible. I think it would be very interesting to try though....I think I will tell my bf everytime we fight we have to hold hands doing it. And I will see if that will happen during a serious. But we have only had one serious arguement in the two years we have been together so I don't know how soon I could get back to wether it worked or not. Interesting disscussion