Make The World Go Awaaaaay.... Lift It Up Off Of My Shouldeeers....

Please.... - I just can't take on anymore!!
@CatsandDogs (13964)
United States
November 19, 2008 11:43am CST
Gosh, I wish I could just run away, I really do but as they say, one can run from their mind but, we can wish, can't we? I know I sure do!! Ok, here's the update of my wonderful life.... I found out yesterday from my dad's phone call and his ranting and raving, the reason the guy didn't want the house is because "It's too much work for him" Isn't that just lovely? And here my nephew was supposed to have "cleaned up" the cat piss smell and cleaned the house before the guy got there! Well apparently it wasn't done right or the guy might have had a different opinion. So that said, my parents are going to kick his @ss out or my nephew is going to move out the end of this month. Ok, what I mean by that is this, he didn't pay all of the rent for this month and was suppose to have it deposited in the bank by the 17th but can you guess what's going on now?! You'll never guess this one. My dumb @ss nephew had gone off on a trip, supposidly a business trip with the cell phone company that he works for for three days and he didn't have the human decentcy to call mom and dad to let them know either way about the money and guess what message he put on his cell phone!! Well yesterday morning it was the normal message when my parents called him and then when they called him a little bit later they got a message that said he's gone on a trip to such and such a place and will not be available for three days!!!!! Now you know he got the message from my parents and he's now avoiding them!! Oh if I could get a hold of him!! And I'm not talking by cell phone either!! ARG!! I sent him a text message saying exactly this, "What is your damned problem? You can afford to take time off from work and take a trip when you can't afford to pay your rent? Nor do you have the human decentcy to call them to let them know anything!!" I was hot to trot and STILL am!! I don't know if my parents got a hold of him yet or not for they haven't called me and frankly, I don't want to talk to them because they have me at a nervous wreck and my lupus has broken out all over my body due to nerves. Dad got a little snappy with me when I suggested painting the damned place again and I gave it back just as good as he gave to me. He just doesn't get it and neither does mom how it upsets me so much. I've tried to explain that the painting takes days or weeks to do so if I could get that done and over with, that would be great, even if I have to go back and touch it up once the jackass moves out, the paint will still be relatively new so it'll match still and the cleaning part takes a matter of hours which I can handle but the painting takes days to do but hard headed dad won't hear it so what the hell am I to do? What the hell is he ranting and raving at me for then? I can't do a damn thing unless he or mom ok's it so why are they driving me crazy over it? I think hubby has had enough and is going to put a stop to it once and for all for he's really concerned about me. I guess so because he see's my face chest back and arms and I'm all broke out. I've been taking more xanax than I've ever taken before in my life!! I can't take this crap but it keeps coming my way. Do you ever wish you could make the world go away just like the song? There's more to follow for I can't put the whole deal on one discussion....
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@Polly1 (12648)
• United States
19 Nov 08
"CALGON TAKE ME AWAY" Your nephew sounds like a chip off the old block, (your brother). Two peas in a pod. Your taking on way too much. I know its hard because its all falling on your shoulders, its not fair. I would suggest not answering your phone, but that wouldn't work. It could be an emergency. Gosh, I wish I knew some magic for you. Take care and I so hope things settle down.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
19 Nov 08
Yeah, both from the same pod which I'd like to squish!! Neither one of my brothers want to help!! Neither one of them!! My oldest brother said he has an old air conditioner and car he could turn in for scrap metal and wants to help a friend in need out. I told him to think about mom and dad first because they need help too and NOW. I just can't get through to either one of them how dire the situation is or if they knew, they both say, "it's their fault" as if they've never made a mistake themselves in their whole life. B@ST@RDS!!
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@Thoroughrob (11748)
• United States
19 Nov 08
Boy, you are in a spot. I think it is time for your husband to step in, you cannot keep going on like this, and no one should expect you to. I think it will help to get your nephew out of there, even though it causes another money problem. Of course with him there, is causing money problems too.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
19 Nov 08
Yeah I am and I want out but with no cooperation from my parents, I can't do a damn thing to end it. My parents want to wait till he's out of the house before going up there and I say lets do it now so we can see what exactly is happening and get his @ss to work before he leaves but they want to wait. What ever. I'm so sick of this crap that it's tearing me apart! Now I have to figure out a way to help them out to make the next house payment and the next and the next till the house is sold. Oh life is grand!! NOT!!
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
19 Nov 08
Well I have to say CandD that I hope your Hubby does put an end to it as this can not go on any more it is just getting beyond the Joke and not fair on you Big Hugs
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
19 Nov 08
He is going to put an end to this because he's so concerned for me and my well being. I already told him last week that if this load doesn't lighten up soon I'm going to commit myself because I can't take anymore. Now that I'm breaking out all over, he's had enough and is going to tell my parents to keep it to themselves and why. One is because of my getting sick and the other is because I've tried to help or we've tried to help but we keep getting blown off. They're not going to like it one bit but hey, the truth is the truth.
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@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
19 Nov 08
Oh my goodness....((((((((((cats))))))))))..Sure wish I was there for you to talk too! There are many times (actually every month) that I want to just run away..Where to? I don't know...but sometimes everything gets so overwhelming that I just sit and cry.... I am soooo very sorry to hear that the guy didn't want the house.... As far as your nephew...I wouldn't give him the time of day anymore... I know that you truly care about your parents but they (for some reason) don't want your help.. Time out is definitely in order for you..If that means you don't speak to any of them for as long as you choose then so be it...You are going to make yourself very sick if you don't.. How are you feeling now that you typed this all out?
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
19 Nov 08
I don't feel any better than before typing this because I'm so worried sick over the whole ordeal. It's been one thing after another and another and another that it seems there's no end in sight. Mom's birthday is tomorrow and I'll be up there spending the day with her. We got her some expensive battery operated gloves for her birthday because her hands stay cold which is normal after having a stroke. Her stroke was in the brain stem which affects both sides of the body so both of her hands are so cold all the time. As for my nephew, his day will come. I may and may not be around to see it but his day will come!
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@goldeneagle (6774)
• United States
19 Nov 08
I know how you feel about wanting to make it all go away. I feel this way every day of my life. It is sad that some people have to deal with so much crap and worry so much just to make it from one day to the next.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
19 Nov 08
Yes it is. I've noticed that it's the "good people" who suffer and the bad who don't. I do feel it's our way of carrying the cross like Jesus did to make it into Heaven and boy what a cross I'm carrying now with my parents health issues and now money issues due to that damned house that they need to get rid of and have been trying to but my nephew has screwed that one up real good.
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@Katlady2 (9920)
• United States
19 Nov 08
Sweetie, you're going to have to graduate from that umbrella to a full blown TARP! So now because your brother decided to be lazy/irresponsible/stupid, the guy doesn't want the house! Good grief!! He needs a couple of feet shoved where the moon beams don't shine!! I'm so sorry that this is still going on hon. I wish I could come up with a good solution for you, but I'm stumped on this one. I hope everyone gives that brother of yours what for when he gets back.
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@Katlady2 (9920)
• United States
19 Nov 08
And yes...I've had MANY days where I would love to make the world go away. Sometimes it just gets on my last nerve!
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
19 Nov 08
It's my nephew who's being lazy/irresponsible/stupid and yeah, his dad too for defending him. Both of them are such morans that I wonder how either of them make it in this world!! I can't wait to see my nephew's @ss kicked to the curb for he's been given chance after chance after chance and every time he's burned the bridge. He's burned this one REAL good!! My hubby is so mad at him that he doesn't want to be anywhere near him and he's not allowed to come to our house again. It's just that deg gone bad!
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@Katlady2 (9920)
• United States
19 Nov 08
Yeah...it dawned on me that it was your nephew that you were mostly talking about AFTER I hit the submit button. DUH! Sorry hon.
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@Opal26 (17686)
• United States
20 Nov 08
Hey catsanddogs~I don't understand why all this stuff keeps being dumped into your lap! I know that you have brothers, so why aren't they willing to do anything to help "their" parents too? Why is it only you who is always doing everything? Your husband is right! You are making yourself crazy and sick and then what good will you be to anyone! This isn't right! It isn't fair for everything to be all up to you! Let your two lazy azz brothers do something! It is their parents too! Maybe if you stepped back a bit they would have no choice! Why don't your parents bother them? You have got to take a break from all this kaos before it is too late! Lupus is a serious illness and you need to take care of yourself. And you know that stress is it's bigest enemy! So, what other plan can you come up with so that you can take some time to take care of YOU!
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
20 Nov 08
To be honest Opal, my brothers don't care. They say they do but I know that actions speak louder than words. A lot louder than words. See, they say it's mom and dad's fault for renting the house to my nephew knowing full well that he's irresponsible. My nephew wanted to buy it but his wife left him holding the bag so now he can't afford to buy it now, and mom and dad wanted to give my nephew a chance to prove my brothers wrong AND LIKE THEY'VE NEVER MADE ANY MISTAKES!! They've made plenty but not once did mom or dad abandon them in their time of need but these two jackass low lifes are doing it to them! Not only that, I found out that mom and dad aren't saying much to my brothers about their situation, they're telling ME everything so I go to email everyone to give them an update and to find some help, my brother jumps all over me AND expects me to work around HIS schedule so he could help too. LIKE IT'S ABOUT HIM!?!? It's about mom and dad!! Besides, working around his schedule, it'll never happen!! He's always gotta work or he's gotta get some sleep or this and that and the other!! There was no way I was going to wait for him but he got his way because he called mom and dad and told them to tell me not to come up there and they sided with him!! I mean, wtf?!?! Do they or don't they want this to be over with or not??!! ARG!! It's like this, either sh!t or get off the deg gone pot!! This yes.... later no.... yes..... no crap has got me so wired tight that I don't know if I'm coming or going!!
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@GardenGerty (115123)
• United States
19 Nov 08
It does sound like one terrible vicious circle. I hope someone wakes up and sees what they are doing to you. It is not good for anyone involved. Don't know what to say Cats, except that I feel for you.
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
19 Nov 08
That's exactly what it is, a vicious circle and it doesn't have to be! When my brother called our parents telling them to tell me not to come up to paint the house, they should've told him otherwise because it is their house and both knowing that my nephew couldn't buy the place nor afford the rent amount, it would've been best to have me go up and paint it and clean it really good and if my nephew had made a mess, it would've been a few hours of cleaning instead of now, days or weeks to get the painting done and then clean on top of that!! Now it's going to be about 2 or 3 weeks before we can get that house back in some kind of order like it once was. But instead, they sided with my brother which makes me wonder "Which side are they on??" I mean, do they want to sell that house or not damn it!! ARG!!!!!
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@MsTickle (25051)
• Australia
24 Nov 08
You are all giving your nephew too much leeway. He should have been kicked out of that house when his plans first went wrong. Cat urine odour is extremely hard to remove. It has to be cleaned over and over and it takes a long time to remove. If it has soaked into floor boards or walls then it will stay there...no amount of painting or anything will get rid of it totally. If your nephew was out, this house would have been off your hands months ago. He doesn't care about his grandparents and their situation...he cares only about himself. All his excuses so far have been bullsh!t. Tell your brother that you are oganising a gardener and cleaning company to fix the house and sending him the bill. If he doesn't like it then he can go and fix the house himself and keep it clean and tidy with the lawns mowed until it is sold. I really don't like your family and admire your patience with them.
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