who do you think is more blessed, the single or the married ones?
By silverjam
@silverjam (969)
United States
November 19, 2008 10:10pm CST
As a single woman I used to make it a little defenssive the "blessed singleness" when people tries to tease me being still single in my late 30's. But I found it accurate when I have to look at some asspects in life like the financial one. As single, I am not very much saddled w/ financial responsibilities married people are obliged to.....I have all the freedom to use and spend my money the way I wanted to. Another thing is the emotional freedom; I am so free whom I date and can pick and dispose a boyfriend w/o any legal commitments.
Now that am married all those freedom are gone. I have somebody to ask permission to and to consult in everything I do. I have to balance my earnings in such a way not to live beyond my means. But I am happy, I feel more secured and fullfiling being w/ somebody I want to spend my whole life through.
Who do you think is more blessed, the single or the married ones? Why do you say so?
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3 responses
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
20 Nov 08
I think there is good and bad in both situations, I think there is a lot of people prefering to be single these days simply because it is a real gamble these days to be married....I think a lot of women are prefering to be in control of their own lives these days....
@silverjam (969)
• United States
20 Nov 08
I guess I agree w/ you, I have the same thoughts when I was single. I was so independent and for me marrying w/ just anybody would only ruined my life. I mean if I got married, it should be planned and that I must not be regretting. I didn't like giving up my freedom and independence for a gamble....am sort of scared.
But I guess there are certain times when you have to take another steps in life. Its also nice to be married as long as yhou're sure of what you are ebtering into.
@gicolet (1702)
• United States
20 Nov 08
I like being married. It gives me a sense of security that I belong to a family of my own. The most blessed thing about married life is having children. I do miss being single once in awhile with all the freedom and decisions I used to make of my own but there is a certain loneliness being single. It doesn't creep in until you realize that you're not getting any younger and you don't want to die alone. That thought does suck. I admire women who prefers to be single moms though and those who chose to just have children without husbands whether those children are of their own or adopted. It's cause there still is a sense of fulfillment there that you at least have a family to call your own. I think it depends who the more blessed is - the single or the married ones. It depends how they live their lives. The bottom line is if there's happiness and contentment on oneself whether single or not then that's a blessing in itself.
@silverjam (969)
• United States
20 Nov 08
I agree w/ you, being married gives you the feeling of security and belongingness. I feel that way by now. I do not have kids tho but its ok w/ me because my partner is not dying to have a child either, and that's one point where we also meet; to agree of not having any child if we have the choice. We are satisfied w/ each others' company and considering the fact that economic situation is at stake nowadays plus the ramphant imorality in the soroundings, we both believe this is not a safe world for children to live anymore.
But like you said, if there's happiness and contentment regardless you're married or single, its a blessing already. What is important is how you live the life you are in by now and make the most of it.
@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
20 Nov 08
hahaha!!! You already explained the balance life of a person whether he/she is single or married. For me, it all depends upon the person's view point. There are people who considered themselves lucky for having a partner and others considered it a curse to have one depending upon the kind of situation they are in. Some single men and women are happy to remain single because they have all the freedom as what you said which is very true but there are singles who are in great dilema because they don;t want to be single all their life. In this case, being blessed depends upon the situation whether single or married.
