How to sense when someone is lying to you?

@zalilame (880)
Malaysia
November 21, 2008 5:42pm CST
I had this strong instinct when someone is telling lies to me especially when that someone is connected to me. But I do not rely to much on instinct. Body language plays a part too. Can you tell me what type of things people do when they lie?
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@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
22 Nov 08
while others do it without looking straight to your eyes, others are having sweet smiles while telling a lie. Those who are used to lie are doing these by talking normally that you won't suspect they're lying.
@zalilame (880)
• Malaysia
22 Nov 08
Yeah. People are great at telling lies. For me they even can fool the FBI with a lie detection machine.
• Netherlands
21 Nov 08
Most people speak slower than normal, are stuttering a little bit and keep repeating things that they've said before. They don't dare to look you straight into your eyes (be careful! some can!) and will try to avoid looking at you. They also use their hands to explain things more often than when telling the truth.
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@zalilame (880)
• Malaysia
22 Nov 08
Yep. Sometimes when they are too nervous you will see them sweating. But I do wonder how do they past lie detector?
• Philippines
22 Nov 08
I feel that too. And one reason why I can say that someone is lying when he can't look me straight to my eye.
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• India
25 Nov 08
A very nice one, this discussion. I always feel that catching a person lying is very easy. I'll tell you my way of catching someone lying. Jus look into his/her eyes without hesitation in your eyes, as if showing him/her that you care for them and it matters to you if they lie. If they are lying, they'll surely try to break eye contact. It works best if the lier is your friend or you know him. Happy mylotting buddy...
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• India
25 Nov 08
hey jus now I saw that everyone is of the same opinion as I'm. I'm very sorry to repeat the answer... Take care buddy...
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@zalilame (880)
• Malaysia
26 Nov 08
Don't worry about giving the same response. As long as it is honest than it always counts. Happy mylotting to you too.
@Nhey16 (2518)
• Philippines
22 Nov 08
when people dont look at you straight in the eyes... and at times when it takes time for them to answer whatever you ask them...
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• United States
22 Nov 08
What I've noticed is that you can hear something in their voice that sounds unsure. They look off to the side or down. They can be argumentative and act like you're attacking them... Fidgety... That's all I can think of.
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@zalilame (880)
• Malaysia
22 Nov 08
Yes I have to agree with you. They sometimes always look for something like they want to hold on to them. I can see that you are new here. Good post here. Keep the good post coming. Happy mylotting.
@mariposaman (2959)
• Canada
26 Nov 08
Let me first say you cannot usually catch a professional lier. Politicians fall into that class, they are so adept at shading the truth and we believe them because they do not give off any of the flags that say they are lying. The only way you can tell if a politician is lying is that their lips are moving. However most of us are usually amateurs and lying so we do not know what signals we give off. Apparently one side of your brain is creative and one side is memory. You are supposed to be able to tell which side is being used when they look up momentarily. I can never remember which side is which, but look at someone and you will see the eyes go up to the left or right. How I usually tell is the throat clearing. When you are nervous your throat goes dry and people try and clear their throat and nothing is there, it is just a dry throat. Another thing, the lie is usually preceded by the phrase "the truth is ... " Of course there is the usual shuffling and looking down but this seems to be more for children, I think think the more mature liers outgrow this. I often wonder about pathological liers as they are so used to lieing whether you can tell with them.
@anikakim (364)
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
They say that people who are talkative are those liar. If they cannot look straight in your eyes maybe he or she is lying. Me I can feel it.