Long years is not a guarantee...
November 21, 2008 11:52pm CST
Just when you thought the two of you would end up together then a break up suddenly happenned! You just question what happenned, where did you go wrong? Why such a perfect relationship would shattered into broken dreams? This is exactly what happened to a friend of mine whom shared her relationship with her bf of almost 10 years. Everything is well planned, building dreams together and everybody expected them to end up together. But then everything went wrong. He fall out of love and got married to a woman whom her bf barely know, to be exact, he replace my friend to a woman he know for only a matter of three weeks... It really hurt my friend. True it was, years is not a guarantee or assurance in a relationship. How about you? What matters most? If this happen to you what will you do?
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22 Nov 08
i think it matters to know someone for years, you get to adjust yourself with your partner and can decide if you want to spend your life with him/her. but it's also true that you become aware about the differences among yourselves by keeping a relation long and that can also influence your decision of not continuing it. as in the case of your friend, she had relation with the bf for 10 years and suddenly her bf distances himself from her and marries someone else. from the viewpoint of your friend, it's certainly heartbreaking. but human mind is a peculier thing, just unpredictable. it may happen that her boyfriend will realise his mistake and will repent. but it may also happen that her boyfriend will remain happy with his wife. as for your friend, i can only say that it's better that the relationship broke because she has time to go into other relation. say the same thing happened after another 15/20 years when she would have no alternative. then it would have been worse.
22 Nov 08
love is no revenge my friend.. we should not wait for our partners to realize their mistakes. love means to forgive and forget and the sooner we realize that the better we will be able to live life. afterall, nothing stays forever and we should all be satisfied with whatever we have... its a Synge philosophy and i think you all will like it..
23 Nov 08
It happens and it is powerfully painful. I hope your friend moves away from this. Many people cannot and try to rekindle old flames that are best left to become ashes. I know of one who keeps an affair going on with her boyfriend even when he has married someone else.
• Boise, Idaho
23 Nov 08
Well, it is a natural part of the human psyche for people to fall out of love as well as into love. and, no we can't always figure what is going to happen ahead of time. There are no garantees in life as in relationships. We all put ourselves out there and take a chance. One more reason to take things slowly and be sure you know the other person and you have alot incommon before going to the next step.
22 Nov 08
true my friend... i think what you are saying is justified but at the same time i also think that through years we develop a bond with our partner which cannot be broken so easily. After everything it is human relationship and not commodities that we can guarantee for...!!!