Why do people have to be like this???

@Feona1962 (7527)
United States
November 22, 2008 11:22am CST
Why is it some people have to be so ignorant..not sure if that is the right word.... I found a really cool site that you can make snowflakes on...I was catching a snowflake and when I saw the message the person left...I was so appalled... This person was so vulgar, the written language they used was just disgusting... It is a really neat site...and yes there are millions of snowflakes and yes I guess I just had to have caught that particular nasty flake.. But come on...There is no reason to leave such a disgusting message... What are your thoughts?
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42 responses
@redhotpogo (4434)
• United States
22 Nov 08
Its almost like real life. You never know which snowflakes someone has pissed on.
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@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
22 Nov 08
Good answer..I actually found that pretty funny..
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• Philippines
24 Nov 08
[i]Hello redhotpogo, LOL, You got it right buddy. It's all part of life. Regards.[/i]
@jmp_72 (246)
• Seychelles
22 Nov 08
there are so many people who finds pleasure in being rude to others, please don't let that spoil your day. Just try and ignore that nasty comments and go back and try to catch your snowflakes. Good luck...
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@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
22 Nov 08
Hi jmp.. I won't let it spoil my fun...it was one in over 7 million flakes....*smiles*.. I am going to keep on making them, sending them to friends and family and will still catch and respond to others... Thank you...
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@SomeCowgirl (32256)
• United States
22 Nov 08
I think the internet is more of an outlet then ever for people who just want to be vulgar. Some of them might just be respectful people , but just need something, an anonymity so that they can vent in any way possible.
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@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
22 Nov 08
I know what you mean...
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@someonesmom (5765)
• Canada
22 Nov 08
Hi Feona, I really don't get it either. There are so many problems in this world, and these types of people are at the root of them. Unfortunately as I'm sure you already know, there are a few such individuals right on this site. Almost without exception, they seem to take great pleasure in belittling others, and just being downright rude. This is evident in discussions they've started, as well as their responses. I see you're not going to be deterred from enjoying this site you've found, though. Good for you! You've actually made me curious about the snowflakes. Would you mind PM'ing me the link, if you get the chance? Thanks.
@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
22 Nov 08
Hi mom... Pm'd it to you....No, I won't let it stop me...There are over 7 million flakes....and I just had to catch that one.. My grandsons have made some and even got responses on theirs from kids their age... It is so much fun..
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@SomeCowgirl (32256)
• United States
22 Nov 08
May I also have the link?
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• Canada
22 Nov 08
Thanks so much. I'll be definitely checking the site out.
@balasri (26549)
• India
23 Nov 08
The secrecy of the virtual world is a haven for many sick minds to smear every thing with dirt and filth.Got to ignore them as they make only a small percentage.There are plenty of good people still in the world.
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@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
23 Nov 08
Hi balasri.. Yes we do need to ignore them...because it doesn't matter what we say or do it won't change what they do.. Thank you
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@balasri (26549)
• India
24 Nov 08
You got the point right.
@kezabelle (2984)
23 Nov 08
unfortunatly not everything can be moitered on the internet so stupid people like that can do or say what they like, it isnt nice but at the end of the day it wasnt directed at you like you say it just so happened you caught that snowflake
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• United States
25 Nov 08
Oh I can't wait to start my snowflake designs again. I am appalled that someone would leave nasty messages on the snowflakes. There are some in every crowd.
@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
25 Nov 08
Hi.. I've been making a few everyday...It's addicting... Hopefully you won't come across any "bad" snowflakes..
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• United States
25 Nov 08
Do you have a link to the site?
@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
6 Dec 08
Sorry I didn't get to this sooner...I will pm it to you..
@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
23 Nov 08
No I think that was wrong there isnt any reason for it to be that ignoant! I hate it when I get in a chat room and they start talking bad cussin and all I just get out. only thing ya can do . BUt try to catch more and hope you dont find another one like that hugs
• France
23 Nov 08
don't let people unset you, you sound a lovely person just ignore the bad comments....have a lovely day By the way have you got the link to this site about snowflakes, it's sounds nice
@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
23 Nov 08
amanda, Thats why I leave the room. also Feona will be the one to give link for the snow flakes!
@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
22 Nov 08
Oh no, is it the one I gave the link to? Popular Front? I haven't seen any bad things in the messages, I wonder if the site would ban that kind of think if they knew about it? Because replying to the persons snowflake probably would only flame the fire if you know what I mean...
@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
22 Nov 08
Yes. that is the site....I didn't respond to it...just for that reason..it was one in 7 million flakes....the others have been very good.. I tried to email them but they aren't taking emails... Always one bad apple in the bag..
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• United States
22 Nov 08
So Popular Front doesn't take e-mails? Then there is nothing we can do about it other than telling the maker of the snowflake off which won't do any good..
@ElicBxn (61039)
• United States
22 Nov 08
Some people, especially young people, like to be as shocking as possible when they won't get caught. Its a sad thing, but it was like the kid that spray painted on our house and sidewalk, and the local bridge, LONG before tagging became a thing to do, thought he wouldn't get caught... except that one of his friends happend to be one of mine too and turned him in!
@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
22 Nov 08
I would say this person was young...The thing is they do get caught and then it isn't funny anymore..
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@ElicBxn (61039)
• United States
22 Nov 08
I know they'll be caught and you know it, but they always think they'll get away with it!
@nadooa247 (1096)
• United States
25 Nov 08
Simply some people have nothing better to do with their time. The person who did that clearly knows that the site is not just open to adults but to children as well. Some people are just losers that they feel some sense of accomplishment i suppose. As you said to another response on your discussion it was 1 among millions. As sick as that person's action was it is just easier to ignore such people rather than spend your energies fretting about someone not worth your time.
@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
6 Dec 08
Thank you...My grandsons and I are still making snowflakes and having alot of fun.....
@messageme (2821)
• United States
23 Nov 08
The sites sounds cool. Can you give me the name of that site? Thanks!
@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
24 Nov 08
I requested your friendship so I can send you the link.... You're welcome..
@rusty2rusty (6760)
• Defiance, Ohio
23 Nov 08
I know of that site you are talking about. I have created a snowflake there. But have never seen a bad comment before. I am sorry some has done that to you. Is there a way you can report them on that site for doing so and ask for the comment to be removed? I am sure if they are doing it to you, they have doen it to others as well.
@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
23 Nov 08
Hi rusty.. The actual snowflake wasn't intended solely for me...They just randomly fall from the sky and I just happened to catch that one... I did email the site but they don't take emails...so I am going to try another way.. I wrote the flake number down and the girls name and the state she put on the flake...that way they can look it up and delete it...
@Loverbear (4928)
• United States
23 Nov 08
It seems like there are millions of people out there that take great pleasure in bringing their vulgarities and perverted sense of joy into the path of those who enjoy the pure and simple joys. For some reason their version of "fun" is bringing revulsion and disgusting. These are the people that were possibly raised in an abusive home, or simply didn't have parents that loved them and simply had them because it was the thing to do. These were the type parents that had lives that were more important than being there for their children. So, we are now having several generations of people who are unfeeling and uncaring as their parents seemed to be towards them. Now, they will do these obscene things to draw attention to themselves and feel good about lashing back at people, and hopefully their own parents. What is sad is that the censors have opened up the movies, television and other forms of media to promote the negativity that you experienced on this site. You listen to the "Rap" songs (they are no more songs than the toilet flushing!) but it promotes hate, rage, violence and every other word seems to be the "f**k" word. I remember that you seldom heard that word, yet now it is so common place that you don't see people getting upset about it. My own son in law used the word liberally in his daily speech. I find it not only a sign of ignorance but to me it is repulsive. We now have two choices. We can either react in a way that reinforces the joy of the person who did the idiot thing, and satisfy his or her need for retaliation; or we can ignore the choice the person made and chalk it up to their not only being very ignorant, but also very unhappy. I realize the latter is the hardest to do, but it's like when a child throws a tantrum. If you pay attention the child milks it for all it's worth. If we ignore them and walk off it surprises them so much they forget the tantrum and chase after us. I also will add that I grew up with a brother (I use that term for lack of anything else, he was no more a brother to me than a rock!) who was abusive, negative, foul mouthed, mean and you can add all the negative adjectives you want because he was all that and more. He physically and sexually abused me, and I didn't dare go to my parents because he really would have killed me. His greatest pleasure in life was to remove other's pleasures in life. He is the kind of person that would do that kind of snowflake on that site. My parents both worked and didn't have that much time for us. He grew up being so totally hateful while I went to the other side, giving as much love and joy as possible. I am soooo sorry that you experienced what you did, I would recommend that you try to find out the creators of the site and inform them of what was posted.
@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
23 Nov 08
Hi Loverbear.. I agree 110 percent with everything you've said.. I am saddened to know that you went through hell as a child.. There were secrets in our home that were never told...I was able to get out when I was 18... I did email the sight but that address isn't taking emails..so I am going to try a different route.... I feel sorry for those that can't respect themselves enough to not have to do this type of stuff.. Hugs to you Loverbear....
@gtdonna (1740)
23 Nov 08
With the world wide web some people say things they would otherwise not even dare to say in person. The www gives people a kind of courage to do what they won't in real life and it really makes me wonder. That said, I do believe I know the site you're speaking about, and I only catch those flakes meant for me...
@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
23 Nov 08
Hi gtdonna... I enjoy catching and commenting a certain ones...but when my grandsons are here I let them create and send to loved ones...
@deebomb (15319)
• United States
22 Nov 08
I believe that some people think that being vulgar is a way to get attention. It is really to bad that people have to be that way. In my opinion vuglar language is very discusting and show just how low a person can go. They are so insecure that they want other people to feel bad too. The only thing you can do is just skip it and go on.
@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
22 Nov 08
I know what you mean...I doubt I will come across it again...There are over 7 million flakes..what are my chances that I would catch that one again? I didn't respond to it, because there is no reason too! It is sad to think that is what their life is about... Thank you dee...
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
22 Nov 08
I am very sorry to hear that. People can be so rude and nasty these days. they do not care how it makes other people feel either.
@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
22 Nov 08
It is very sad indeed...My grandsons love making the flakes and will continue to do so... They don't care about others, because they don't respect themselves... Have a happy day..
• United States
29 May 09
Sometimes I wonder how people grow to act nasty or speak that way. Where they like me young and nieve and wanting to vent. See what it felt like and it just stuck cause you had a rotten day? WHo knows..Sometimes rotten thinking and mouthing off is just a small man on a todem pole. Tired of looking up!.lol
@KrauseHome (36772)
• United States
29 May 09
Personally unfortunately even in here you will from time to time encounter people who are like this. It is really a shame though, and it does make you wonder for sure. I know I cannot ever imagine being like this to anyone online and why in a site everyone else can read the remarks would someone want to say something like this as well? Glad I am not in the site.
@suruchi86 (1873)
• India
17 May 09
I agree completely with you. I also hate such persons, who use vulgar language anywhere, whether in conversation or in writing. They turn me off.